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qbjb24

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Hey I'm just looking for stories, good or bad, of people's experiences moving outta town/outta state.

I day dream about this all the time. I know some people will say the grass always looks greener on the other side, but there are prolly just as many success stories too.

I currently don't have much going on, no girl, part time dead end job, and I turneEvd 30 in may so this seems like great timing to do something adventurous with my life.

Even in the event it doesnt work out and I come back with my preverberal tail tucked between my legs I still think this could be a great experience.

Please share your experience and any advice you'd give someone who has a similar desire.

Thank you for your time!!
 
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Better suited for Second Opinion (and will probably be merged with one of the very similar threads over there). :)

HL -----> SO
 
addictivepersona said:
Better suited for Second Opinion (and will probably be merged with one of the very similar threads over there). :)

HL -----> SO
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One of the other mods suggested this forum because I had it in the homeless thread.
So I should change it again?
 
qbjb24 said:
Hey I'm just looking for stories, good or bad, of people's experiences moving outta town/outta state.
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i have moved out of state several times, more than once without somewhere to stay when i got where i was going. sometimes for better, sometimes for worse. all i can tell you is the old saw about it being better to deal with whatever problems you have rather than trying to run away from them. the times in my life i was happy when i moved it carried over and the same for the times i was depressed. good luck and i hope you find what you feel like you're missing.
 
i'm going to echo what michael said. you can't run away from your problems. altho sometimes a change of scenery will help get you out of a rut.

i recently moved and it was the catalyst to getting a better job. i was teaching before i moved and kept talking about changing jobs but was too lazy to make a serious effort. moving out of state forced me to get serious about looking for jobs in other fields. its similar to teaching but i have more opportunity to advance and i work for myself now.

the previous time i moved, i was depressed and trying to get away from things. it was nice to be somewhere else but i was not any happier.
 
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i plan on moving once i graduate to a less conservative and less bible belt state.
not depressed, more of a clash of interests
 
I've done it twice.

The first time I decided to move to a state that was 14 hours away from florida where I was born and raised. I moved to memphis TN in 2002 for at school, and had never even visited the city in my life. I had no family within 12 hours of me. My parents drove me up, helped me move into my dorm and went home. I was there until this year.

TBH, I LOVED IT. I was really able to "make myself" in that new and ever so different environment. I missed my family terribly, but i wouldnt change a thing. One needs to move around and experience differnt things to grow as a person. I honestly believe that!

Finally this past year I kinda had a hurrican hit my life, I picked up a nasty addiction while trying to deal with a devestating break up, and then had sever family tradgities hit one after the other in the spring.

By the end of the semester my life had spiraled out of control and I told my parent I needed to go home. They welcomed me with open arms and I took the semester off from school, put what ever was important into a small storage unit and came home. My drug of choice is illegal here in florida, and my whole support net is here. I agian dont regret this decision.

A change of environment can do wonders.
 
michael said:
i have moved out of state several times, more than once without somewhere to stay when i got where i was going. sometimes for better, sometimes for worse. all i can tell you is the old saw about it being better to deal with whatever problems you have rather than trying to run away from them. the times in my life i was happy when i moved it carried over and the same for the times i was depressed. good luck and i hope you find what you feel like you're missing.
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Thanks I appreciate ur input. Again, I tried to preempt I'm not running away from problems. I just feel very stagnant here, and I feel an uprooting would lite a fire in me to do more. Or maybe not. Either way I don't have anything holding me back. I love my family but they would understand if I explained to them I'm just trying to better myself.

Good quote: "I'd rather regret the things I have done than the things that I haven't."
 
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I've done it twice.

The first time I decided to move to a state that was 14 hours away from florida where I was born and raised. I moved to memphis TN in 2002 for at school, and had never even visited the city in my life. I had no family within 12 hours of me. My parents drove me up, helped me move into my dorm and went home. I was there until this year.

TBH, I LOVED IT. I was really able to "make myself" in that new and ever so different environment. I missed my family terribly, but i wouldnt change a thing. One needs to move around and experience differnt things to grow as a person. I honestly believe that!

Finally this past year I kinda had a hurrican hit my life, I picked up a nasty addiction while trying to deal with a devestating break up, and then had sever family tradgities hit one after the other in the spring.

By the end of the semester my life had spiraled out of control and I told my parent I needed to go home. They welcomed me with open arms and I took the semester off from school, put what ever was important into a small storage unit and came home. My drug of choice is illegal here in florida, and my whole support net is here. I agian dont regret this decision.

A change of environment can do wonders.
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Thank you for sharing that I def appreciate your honesty. I totally agree with your take on this. I definitely feel I could grow as a person and benefit greatly by any experience good or bad. I can always come back and the jobs I have(both part time delivery driver jobs) would still be around, or I could find something similar.
 
Ive done this a few times the main reason was just to get away.

Once i decided to go live up in upper New Hampshire [fucking awesome but slow]. I returned from europe [1996] and had the seams in my pants stuffed with seeds from amsterdam [shiva shanti, NL#5, NL x skunk redhair, shiva shanti x NL, etc. i forget exactly] I basically moved up there to set up a grow op and just chill. And that is what I did. Got a job at a local pizza shop to keep busy. I stayed at a friends summer home. Eventually got bored with it.

Another time was NYC [greenwich village] I needed to get out of chicago because i was a raging dope fiend and trouble was finding me all over. For some reason my mother thought that was a good place for me to try to clean up. That didnt work and i just spent my time doing dope and collecting western union receipts. Moved back because i missed chicago dope and the city in general. Lived in a rooftop 3 bedroom apartment with one friend [bleecker and jones] lived for free. Sometimes I still kick myself for not trying to make the most of it when living there but I was to plastered on heroin to even care.

Ive also up and moved to colorado and california but I will spare you the details. Maybe not exactly what you were looking for but one thing is for sure is that I am sooo glad I had those experiences and probably would of been kicking myself if I didnt go. Living in those areas just reinforced that it is pretty damn hard to beat the chicago area.

I say do it, you only live once.
 
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bagochina said:
Ive done this a few times the main reason was just to get away.

Once i decided to go live up in upper New Hampshire [fucking awesome but slow]. I returned from europe [1996] and had the seams in my pants stuffed with seeds from amsterdam [shiva shanti, NL#5, NL x skunk redhair, shiva shanti x NL, etc. i forget exactly] I basically moved up there to set up a grow op and just chill. And that is what I did. Got a job at a local pizza shop to keep busy. I stayed at a friends summer home. Eventually got bored with it.

Another time was NYC [greenwich village] I needed to get out of chicago because i was a raging dope fiend and trouble was finding me all over. For some reason my mother thought that was a good place for me to try to clean up. That didnt work and i just spent my time doing dope and collecting western union receipts. Moved back because i missed chicago dope and the city in general. Lived in a rooftop 3 bedroom apartment with one friend [bleecker and jones] lived for free. Sometimes I still kick myself for not trying to make the most of it when living there but I was to plastered on heroin to even care.

Ive also up and moved to colorado and california but I will spare you the details. Maybe not exactly what you were looking for but one thing is for sure is that I am sooo glad I had those experiences and probably would of been kicking myself if I didnt go. Living in those areas just reinforced that it is pretty damn hard to beat the chicago area.

I say do it, you only live once.
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Awesome input!! And I'm totally interested in any/all of your experiences so if you feel like it please don't spare any details.

I live in the midwest and so far chicago is my fav city, but california seems just as great so I'd like to hear how that went for you. Everyone always says "oh it's too expensive!!" That drives me crazy because theyre basically saying everyone in cali is well off and that can't be true because struggling actors pick up and move there on minimal means all the time.

Colorado seems very interesting also. It seems to be extremely 420 friendly and I'd def fit in with that culture. The same could be said for Cali I suppose.

What part of the country are you originally from?

Ya I got a lot of experience with pizza so I'd prolly rely on that to get me started. Im an independent person in general. I live alone now and never had a problem with making friends wherever I go.

Thanks again.
 
california was good. i had a old friend out there and drove out there moved into there extra bedroom and relaxed. if i remember correctly i initially said no way im going out there and than 3 days later i was on my way. moved to santa barbara and lived about 10 min walking to the ocean. it was nice, killer weed, plenty of hot chicks, tweakers, typical shit.

i did nothing out there but smoke weed and hang out, went out there to once again try to take a break from dope. getting tar was as easy as walking to the beach. it was kinda expensive out there but all i did was go out to the bars and parties. they did throw insane parties out there though. after awhile i moved in with this girl i met and from there i was going to move into a sailboat on the marina but changed my mind [still regret that kinda] and came back to chicago. i used to love taking this little motor skateboard down to the beach at sunset and just walk down the beach and there was always just one party next to the other down there.

ill never forget when i lived in california the skies always had little fluffy clouds in 'em, and, uh... they were long... and clear and... there were lots of stars at night. And, when it would rain, it would all turn, it, they were beautiful, the most beautiful skies as a matter of fact. The sunsets were purple and red and yellow and on fire, and the clouds would catch the colours everywhere.
 
li li little fluffy clouds

Recommendations include San Luis Obispo, CA Its like a smaller/cheaper version of Santa Barbara 100 miles north up the coast. Also, Santa Fe, New Mexico. New Mexico kicks ass.
 
Mehm said:
li li little fluffy clouds

Recommendations include San Luis Obispo, CA Its like a smaller/cheaper version of Santa Barbara 100 miles north up the coast. Also, Santa Fe, New Mexico. New Mexico kicks ass.
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thanks for the input. i never gave much though to NM but i am mexican so im sure id fit in. lol jk. well kinda.
 
I am a planner so I have never just picked up and left. Moving to a different country and then to another state has done nothing but enhance my life.

In 1999, I moved to the US (from Canada) without knowing anyone. I had secured a job 9 months prior to graduation.
In April 2010, I moved from CT to VA. This move was a year in the making. Securing a job, selling and buying a home. Best decision ever.

I think changing my surroundings and taking chances has allowed me to reinvent myself. I am happier. No regrets.
 
I moved from Chicago, where I've lived all my life, to South Carolina. I stayed for about 8 months, and I hated it. Usually I adjust well to whatever life throws at me, but this time I was so homesick. I missed my friends, my family, the familiarity of home. There really is no place like home. ;)
 
DONT LET UNCERTAINTY HOLD YOU BACK MATE!

Ive just recently done exactly what your pondering ( a week into it)- im from down under, but im sure some of this may be relevant still.

I was engaged, had a well paying self employed job,waterfront apartment,cars,boat.. Easy street. But id hidden serious drug use from my fiance, firstly coke, the a hectic meth tongue that spiralled out of control despite seeing it unravelling like a movie or a story on doctor phil right infront of my eyes.

Long story short. Miss' left me because i chose drugs, i wrote off $20 000+ car( un insured) work died in the ass,and i found myself 29 and living back at my mums.

Perfect age to do some serious reflection on life. For whatever reason it may be,whetner you choose to change your ways or not. Just have a look at where,why,how,and who you really are!

I packed up and went 3500 miles across the continent. Know no one , but was lucky enough to hav landed o my feet regarding a mining job which id applied for around xmas...

Early days yet .. But i'll post back here so you can see how the cookie crumbles

People say ' you cant run from addiction because it will follow you.. Very true. But it sure does help to be in a new place, no connections,and no social circle that evolves around the use of your DOC! Either way, although my friends are no longer close and near, it did help me realise who's who? And unfortunately for many in the drug community, its a scary awakening regarding friendships when on decides to quit.

From my experience,which is still very young.. Get out there mate, If you dont hope for too much then you cant be dissapointed. But ambitions are cheap,and like the one of the previous posts says on here,regret the experience,not regret not having the experience.

YOU ONLY GO AROUND ONCE! Grab everything you fucken can!

All the best! Keep us posted
 
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