Just got evicted sitting in sheriffs car wtf help

The JUDGE said that? What THE FUCK?

SF- you can file for an Emancipation of a Minor, basically if you can prove that you can take care of yourself and live alone, and that staying in the custody of your parents (or the state in lieu of your parents) will cause you emotional/ physical distress and provide a reasonable explanation, you can file the stuff yourself... depending on what state you are in... Do you have an adult (over 18, preferably 21) friends? Do you know any adults, maybe from school, your parents, etc that are lawyers? I'm sure they would be more than happy to help you get your stuff together for this filing.
What about teachers or your HS principal/ vice-principal/ guidance counselor? Your boss at your after-school job? The leader of your Church or wherever you go? Your mom's Colleagues or friends? Someone you met while choosing a college... like an admissions counselor or something? If you can just get one or two adults that you've had formal or professional interaction with to support you, this could all be much easier.


I mean, forcing you to put off University because of situations beyond your control is just not right, and any appeal to a Civil courts judge I'm sure will be successful. You seem like a bright person with a promising future... just make sure this is very evident to everyone you interact with. Now is the time to grow up a little bit (you seem really mature for 17...) but grow up in the sense that you should try and compromise with all these people you are forced to interact with. Keep a strong sense of yourself and don't give up ANY of YOUR RIGHTS. At the same time, though, don't be a source of conflict or contention.

Keep a low profile and stay out of trouble. Appear above doing anything petty they might suspect you of. Some serious shit is going down right now, and I'm sure you don't need me to tell you this, but you gotta grow up and use their system to fight them.


As far as the incident with leaving the Police station... as you understood it, you were not under arrest, your mother was, so you left since there were no grounds on which to hold you. Just say this if anyone asks you to explain why you "ran away"

I really hope you get this sorted and can start school. Most schools are just getting going, some still haven't started, and being 2 weeks late to your Freshman year is really not a big deal, it would probably actually be easier almost since everyone already there will help you out, show you around, you have an instant group of contacts by living in the dorm or a private house with several other people.

The point is, well, school is starting and you need to get your ass there. Going to college is something that I would have had to be really lucky or have a rich patron even 25 years ago, and now, because I worked hard in highschool, I not only got into college, I got into a great University and went on to get a Master's degree afterwards. It is a huge part of me, and my love for education has certainly affected my path in this world greatly. I hope that you get to go and that you make the most of it. Just go huge and do awesome in school and get a great job changing the world or making tons of money and come back and buy these people's houses and fucking burn them down.
Yeah it's "the system" but all these people have to be complicit in order for the system to fuck up like this.


Education means so much to me, and if you got into college and they are blocking you from going through this beauracratic bullshit, you need to try to file that stuff for Legal Emancipation ASAP.
If they fuck you around anymore, you should ABSOLUTELY file a civil rights suit against the county, the specific cops that arrested you, any case officer you have had, and the ADA (if he/she was involved) and that Judge that ruled that you couldn't go to school. Between the arresting officers using racial slurs against you and your sister, the Judge's decision, and the conditions you have faced in Children's Services... you definitely have grounds...

I don't know what state you are in, but can a friend/ relative/ significant other contact the local chapter of the ACLU?
http://www.probono.net/
http://www.lccr.com/
http://www.aclupa.org/home/staff.htm

Also, if there is Law College attached to the University you were going to attend, contact them IMMEDIATELY, even if it is a different state, they have their networks of colleagues and acquaintances across the country, and you might find some powerful help there.

Good luck. I don't know you and only know of you on Bluelight, but I am sending positive vibes your way, this is so terrible, please fight this shit and do everything you can just to get to school. Once you are there you can just settle down and build your own life, set your own rules and expectations, and have time to think about how to make these fuckers PAY. Because they definitely should pay for what has happened to you.

Let us know what happens.
 
Wow this women left me alone again but yeah I'm typing fast. Other than that the judge just agreed with children and youth that it would not be possible for me to go to college right now. Children and Youth (DCF or whatever) told me they would not allow me to go to school due to the fact I'm a minor and philadelphia isn't close to them or whatever. Meaning they wanted me to still live in their institutions near them until I would be eighteen. I really would love to emancipate myself ect. but that will be just too much to do in this little bit of time. By the time the whole process would be done I would already probably be eighteen and then I guess I could just sign myself out of here... but my social worker here was telling me I have to wait until the county approves it or whatever. I am upset that I can't go to school in the fall but I have managed to change my enrollment time and I'm going to now go once the spring semester starts which is the end of January. Other than that I am now stuck in this hell until my birthday. It is pretty restrictive here but at least we can walk outside on the campus. I don't get a cellphone though or my computer...I'm only suppose to be using this computer for school work and I only get 20 minutes a day to talk on the phone. Also if you do something wrong you get restriction and are forced to do all these things...and I have to have these chores and work like a slave. I also don't get to see any of my family members on my birthday (if I chose to stay here). I also don't get to see my friends who live around here until awhile from now. It also sucks that they force everyone to go to church and if you don't go you get restriction...I asked my "house parent" about it and she's like this place is a christian environment your case worker knew that by entering you into this program you would have to go to church and I didn't even know at all or get a say about it. The truth is my caseworker didn't even know because she honestly just threw me in here and left...she hardly ever gets anything done. My attorney had to make the judge tell her that she has to bring me to my college placement test in philly because she wasn't even going to. And I don't even know if my mother got out of jail yesterday because we have no contact as of now and I barely hear from my sister anymore due to the fact I'm in this place. My brother actually called me the other day which was shocking because we haven't talked in forever but he told me about how much he misses me and loves me...also how I'm always welcome at his place...I just hate his girlfriend though because she is a psycho bitch (long story).

It just sucks that I got into this situation when I was so close to the finish line and everything got fucked up in a matter of minutes. I'm also paying for something I didn't even do.

By the way my mother has been in jail for this long due to the fact she did not have money to bail herself out. And also my aunt from CT was going to bail her out but she is not allowed to or else she would have to put her house up... that's what they told her when she called to see how she could bail my mother out (her sister). It's because only someone from pennsylvania can do so. They also kept giving my mother dummy days for court and hopefully yesterday was actually her court date for real this time.

Once my mother gets out she is going to a domestic violence shelter and they're setting her up with an apartment. Hopefully this will all be done by my birthday so I can just move back with her but I am not allowed to do that until I'm not a minor anymore. Which is complete shit because my mental health isn't right here and I rather be in a shelter with my mother than here with some crazy bitches who will stab you in your sleep...not even kidding about that. They also try to steal all your shit. But the judge said this is the safest environment for me right now and children and youth agreed. They also said they tried to prevent placement but that is a complete lie... I could of stayed at my friends house and her mother agreed to let me stay there but then my caseworker said that never happened.
 
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She didn't get in trouble. Her mother did. That's not her.

Education and the right to pursue an education was one of the pivotal struggles that civil rights faced in the 1900's.

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@nuttynutskin: If you just want to argue please refrain from posting in TDS. The purpose of this specific forum is for support; not criticism. None of us know every detail of the OP's situation so it's not our place to judge. People post here and open up about their personal lives and so it is important for it to be a place where people feel comfortable doing so.
 
Nutty, none of this is her fault, she had to put up with an asshole stepfather, dumb cops and now these people at this place who violate her rights. Please take any arguing elsewhere.
 
Im so sorry about what happened to you, I dont know you or anything but I had a similar situation, parents both arrested (not convicted charges eventually dropped) when I was a minor and it was by the grace of god that I wasn't home at the time, parents got bailed out and I came home, noone ever tried to take me to a youth shelter or anything like that. I think for some reason they have it out for you.

The best thing you can do IMO is play the role, act like your happy, thank them for giving you a place to stay daily, pretend to be enthusiastic about your chores, If your stuck for two months the best you can do is get on their good side.....keep in close contact with your attorney to, I would ask your lawyer about the mandatory church thing, that sounds messed Im no lawyer but what about seperation of church and state? Because they are your guardians they can force you to attend church maybe? I would think not though, wouldn't that mean everyone with no parents or w/e gets christianity shoved down their throat by the state mandatorily. Tell them your some religion you know theres no church anywhere around for?

freedom of religion is half the reason this country was founded, now the state is ordering you attend church or they punish you....you should at least get a church of your choice, what if your atheist, that is a right you have? I am confused as how they can do this, wait, your in the US right?
 
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I am from Pennsylvania and right now I am playing it off that I'm thankful to be here. I'm also nice and do what I'm told. Even though I truly hate everyone here but yeah I keep lowkey as well. Which has helped me out a lot. I know a lot of my rights are being violated but then again I try to put up with it because the only other option is a lockdown facility in Lancaster, PA which would be worse than going to Church on Sunday. And by the way they have their own church which is built on this campus where I'm at. You don't get to choose what church you go to, you go to theirs. They even made a muslim girl go to church and I found that fucked up.

Other than that my mother got out of jail on thursday. She called me on friday and told me I will be able to go to where she is at as long as my caseworker okays it. I'm going to my social worker at 11am to talk about it, so I hope all goes well. I might be out of here before I'm 18 but since I'm in their independent living program they might try to keep me here for a minimal amount of days. If they do that I'm going to be pissed and that's when I will not follow any of the rules so they have to kick me out of the program. I'm done with this place and I'm surprised I'm keeping my cool and everything. Right now the old lady is in the room and she's reading lol...she's not even looking at me but I have to keep looking over my shoulder.

My social worker is probably going to try to keep me here but I'm going to tell her that's not going to happen.

Update: Went to my social worker (we all have one at this group home place) and she told me she is fine with me going with my mother but she wants the best for me....whatever makes me happy. Now I have to deal with the Children and Youth place and we kept trying to call but my caseworker isn't there. She is never there. And it pisses me off because she is always somewhere else and never gets anything done. So I hope we can get in contact with her asap and hopefully she allows me to go with my mother. She is staying at this domestic violence shelter but its a huge house with only one other person in it. You get to live life normally....there is just a curfew but other than that there are no rules except if you make a mess you clean it up but you get to go on with your life normally unlike how it is at this place where I'm at.
 
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