Speaking from the point of view of someone who very recently moved out of their parents house - no it isn't all bad. My situation is a little different as I had to move to take a job in a new city, but I definitely was happy to be given the chance to move out and start a new point in my life.
I have had similar experiences growing up in having to hide things from my parents and lie about many things in order to keep them off my back. And trust me - these are very minor things. I have basically never smoked pot, and have never had a drug or drinking problem at all. I think that given the stress that you're under from living with your parents, the freedom and relief of not having that anymore will strongly outweigh anything else.
If you think you'll miss your siblings that much then I assume you're not too bad away to visit them or have them visit you occasionally. Sometimes though, it's nice to have a quiet place to hang out and relax. Especially if you plan on bringing girls or even any friend back there with you to just hang.
Don't look at your parents or other adults with boring lives and assume that being an adult means living according to their template. No, you don't have to ditch the video games and take up a "grown up" hobby like golf if you don't want t
nce you're an adult and live on your own, you get to decide.
Want to stay up until 4 a.m. on a Wednesday? Go for it. Want to eat straight whipped cream right out of the container? Have at it. Being out on your own and becoming an adult is being able to get into your car at 2 a.m. and just drive for no reason at all. It's growing past being dragged to Mom's church every Sunday and being able to decide for yourself what you want to believe. It's eating pie for dinner. It's choosing your own friends and buying your own clothes. It's sitting three feet from the TV screen, just because you fucking can. It's watching a movie for no other reason than it has a lesbian sex scene with Natalie Portman.
Now please don't think that there are no repercussions for doing those things, but by God this is your life now, and you have the right to learn those lessons in any way you choose. You own those repercussions. They're yours, no one can take them from you.
For instance, almost everyone I've ever met -- and I've lived in six major cities in the United States -- complains that they "have to get out of this shitty town." I heard it in small-town Illinois, I heard it in Los Angeles, I heard it in Minneapolis. There are like two dozen hit rock songs from the 80s on that subject. Well, as an adult, you have every right and every opportunity to make that happen. You might fuck it up and wind up living in your car, but it was your doing. That freedom is the most powerful tool you'll ever own, and it's exactly what enables you to continue growing. And you will grow.
Yes, you'll have problems. But they'll be your problems. And besides, what would you do without them? The problems are what get you out of bed in the morning. They're what makes succeeding at things such a goddamned rush. You can't be a dragon slayer without dragons. People talk about a "real world" after graduation, as if that's when the "real" stress starts. And in some ways, they're right. But nothing takes away from the feeling of being at the wheel, doing things on your own terms.
I have had similar experiences growing up in having to hide things from my parents and lie about many things in order to keep them off my back. And trust me - these are very minor things. I have basically never smoked pot, and have never had a drug or drinking problem at all. I think that given the stress that you're under from living with your parents, the freedom and relief of not having that anymore will strongly outweigh anything else.
If you think you'll miss your siblings that much then I assume you're not too bad away to visit them or have them visit you occasionally. Sometimes though, it's nice to have a quiet place to hang out and relax. Especially if you plan on bringing girls or even any friend back there with you to just hang.
Don't look at your parents or other adults with boring lives and assume that being an adult means living according to their template. No, you don't have to ditch the video games and take up a "grown up" hobby like golf if you don't want t
nce you're an adult and live on your own, you get to decide.Want to stay up until 4 a.m. on a Wednesday? Go for it. Want to eat straight whipped cream right out of the container? Have at it. Being out on your own and becoming an adult is being able to get into your car at 2 a.m. and just drive for no reason at all. It's growing past being dragged to Mom's church every Sunday and being able to decide for yourself what you want to believe. It's eating pie for dinner. It's choosing your own friends and buying your own clothes. It's sitting three feet from the TV screen, just because you fucking can. It's watching a movie for no other reason than it has a lesbian sex scene with Natalie Portman.
Now please don't think that there are no repercussions for doing those things, but by God this is your life now, and you have the right to learn those lessons in any way you choose. You own those repercussions. They're yours, no one can take them from you.
For instance, almost everyone I've ever met -- and I've lived in six major cities in the United States -- complains that they "have to get out of this shitty town." I heard it in small-town Illinois, I heard it in Los Angeles, I heard it in Minneapolis. There are like two dozen hit rock songs from the 80s on that subject. Well, as an adult, you have every right and every opportunity to make that happen. You might fuck it up and wind up living in your car, but it was your doing. That freedom is the most powerful tool you'll ever own, and it's exactly what enables you to continue growing. And you will grow.
Yes, you'll have problems. But they'll be your problems. And besides, what would you do without them? The problems are what get you out of bed in the morning. They're what makes succeeding at things such a goddamned rush. You can't be a dragon slayer without dragons. People talk about a "real world" after graduation, as if that's when the "real" stress starts. And in some ways, they're right. But nothing takes away from the feeling of being at the wheel, doing things on your own terms.
