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is phone sex cheating...

Lysis said:
Hugs, gr33n3y3z. It's OK to feel hurt and betrayed. Is he willing to accept, change and move on from this? Or does he just continue to deny it?
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No, it's not because she is continually making assumptions, whether right or wrong. Because she is the primary source I can't really get to know what the boyfriend says in defense and gr33n3y3s makes constant accusations that results in a defined behavior of an undefined problem, and then reacts counter to a conducive resolve and what we have are her words only. I first need to know if you actually have proof of phone sex. Not "High Phone Bill = Phone Sex."
 
rangrz said:
lolol, fuck these kind of threads make me laugh.

No bigger issues in life then if someone you love talks on the phone about particular subjects, and if this is or is not a violation of some undefined, intangible set of rules.
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rangrz is setting is straight, mother fuckers.
 
Phone sex is cheating.
My partner told me that and didn't talk to me for a week.
 
^ so phone sex is cheating for you guys...

but it's not for other couples. there's no answer to this question which applies to all couples.

ask your partner - you'll get an answer one way or another :)

alasdair
 
Yeah it is. It's not like porn, cause porn isn't interactive. Phone sex is sexual interaction with someone else=cheating.
 
How do you feel about your partner having phone-sex?

Do you consider it cheating?

Ultimately, you have to abide by your own ethical rules. In a relationship you are obliged to be concerned about your partner; where their boundaries lie, on this and other situations.

I cannot fathom how people enter relationships ( in this era) through 'obligation' and don't care about their partner. or 'play dumb' to thier needs, this is beyond perverse and stupid.

Gambling with such a short time, to honour convention, is a waste of life. Noone has any solutions to a 'perfect' relationship but it isn't just about satisfying convention alone - It is wise to not waste your time and/or your partner's time ( as others have mentioned). The goal of relationships is to support, develop or enhance the quality of experience of the individual and the other that is involved; not to thwart them - otherwise, pretense aside, ( which affords no meaningful contentment) what is the point?!
 
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If you lust for someone else and act on that lust I believe you crossed the line. You cheated.
 
gr33n3y3z said:
quick question, do you think having phone sex behind your partner back is cheating? Okay im asking this b/c my partner racked up quite a bill on sevral diffrent credit cards all behind my back i only found out b/c i found where he kept all the bills...what a dick! we have a 2 year old together and we have been together for about 5 years. I have talked to him about this but it still bothers me to the point where im not into having sex with "him" . What do you think, and how the hell do i get over this?
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Phone sex, schmone sex, let's do a line.
 
IMO it's not cheating .
But it's not OK either , unless you guys agreed to it .
 
gr33n3y3z said:
quick question, do you think having phone sex behind your partner back is cheating? Okay im asking this b/c my partner racked up quite a bill on sevral diffrent credit cards all behind my back i only found out b/c i found where he kept all the bills...what a dick! we have a 2 year old together and we have been together for about 5 years. I have talked to him about this but it still bothers me to the point where im not into having sex with "him" . What do you think, and how the hell do i get over this?
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It sounds like you are very caught off guard by the phone sex, so sounds like deception. There are some people with open relationships who seem to be getting heated about some of the posts. But YOU didn't make mention of being in one.

Sex addiction is a real thing. There are support groups for those whose partners struggle with sex addiction. It will be hard for you to "get over". Deception is not easy to forget.

Please disregard the distasteful, joking comments made, they don't understand how damaging these types of discoveries can be. I would recommend getting into a support group.
 
I wouldn't consider phone sex cheating in and of itself, although it is going in that direction. However, if this guy is paying for phone sex..... he will ​cheat for real if he hasn't already.
 
Of course phone sex with someone else IS cheating! DM'ing or private messaging sexual things on social media to someone other than your partner IS cheating. Having an emotional friend who you share intimate details about your relationship to IS cheating! There are many ways to cheat that doesn't necessarily involve physical contact.

If you really want to know if it's wrong, all you have to do is ask yourself "Could I show this to my partner?" If you don't feel comfortable showing your text messages, social media, or even phone sex bills in this case, you know you shouldn't be doing it.
 
CoastTwoCoast said:
Of course phone sex with someone else IS cheating! DM'ing or private messaging sexual things on social media to someone other than your partner IS cheating. Having an emotional friend who you share intimate details about your relationship to IS cheating! There are many ways to cheat that doesn't necessarily involve physical contact.
If you really want to know if it's wrong, all you have to do is ask yourself "Could I show this to my partner?" If you don't feel comfortable showing your text messages, social media, or even phone sex bills in this case, you know you shouldn't be doing it.
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Preach!
 
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