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Is it OK to spank a child?

I think that it's ok as long as the behavior warrants the punishment. There's a difference betweenn spanking your child as discipline and hitting them out of anger..
I'm also not a parent so It may be different if its my own kid..
But what that mother did is absolutely ridiculous.. There's no justification for it..
 
i've been "disciplined" 3 times as i can recall. 1 for jumping off a moving vehicle. 2 for almost ingesting bleach and 3 for tossing out a salad my mom spent all day making. i'm a fan of discipline ... not of abuse.
 
lonewolf13 said:
i've been "disciplined" 3 times as i can recall. 1 for jumping off a moving vehicle. 2 for almost ingesting bleach and 3 for tossing out a salad my mom spent all day making. i'm a fan of discipline ... not of abuse.
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As am I.. Did I give any indication to that I was for abuse?
 
Kids need to be spanked sometimes. Period. I don't know about at 13-months, but by 2 for sure. Even if it's not hard enough to cause any pain whatsoever they get the picture.

If someone physically tried to take my child from me for disciplining them I'd literally try to smash their face in.
 
That is for the parents AND ONLY the parents to say. All other people should mind their own fucking business. I got hit when I was a kid and I had it coming everytime. I plan on hitting my kids if they get out of line...
 
i'm not really much of a spanking mom -- so far i have delivered 2 spankings, one to each kid, and both for continuous open disrespect.
 
I have got two kids and I have never had the need to smack them. They are far from perfect angels but in my experience if you have to resort to physical threats your control over them is only for a short time. As they get older you might has well get out the water board to control them. My brother and I were hit with everything from wooden spoons to leather belts and we would wear each beating like a badge of honour. After we started to keep a tally of the number of wooden spoons we each broke, my mum switch hit to the electric jug cord. Believe me that packed a sting. I do remember the last time she hit me across my face when I was 10 or 11. I took it flush, then looked her in the eye and laughed at her. After that there was nothing she could do to punish me.

Now I am a parent I really have no need for physical threats. The youngest only needs to hear a growl from the back of my throat and he shits himself. The oldest one I simply make her watch 5 days of Test match cricket and she is begging to go home to her mothers. Better to cause emotional scares in my opinion.... harder for child services to detect.
 
No it's not o.k. Do adults make mistakes? Do we get "smacked" ? Why do so many of you think spanking or hitting will help a kid learn? I do time-out for the 1-6 year olds. One minute for every year of life. For the older ones I take away a privledge they enjoy. Like the computer or tv, for a period of time depending on the offense.
 
in the face, no. i got whipped on the ass by rents and it hurt but i knew my place. i got beat in the face by peers and did the same and we all have injuries that last longer than just a few days so i wouldn't wish that shit on anyone for the sake of 'teaching a lesson'
 
I was never spanked but when I would fuck up my dad would either tug on my ear or hair....it hurt like a bitch and was rather effective.
 
I was beaten with pots, pans, belts, bamboo rods, hands; had chairs, knives, plates and cups thrown at me. Been locked in solitude for days alone and had all of my friends restricted from seeing me at my house for months.

I have permanent scars on my back from being beaten so much. I think 90% of the time I didn't know what I was being punished for.

I think i'm better than all of you after all that. But then I think again, and i'm worse than everyone. Fucking bi-polar & mental issues fuck with me every day. I used to drench my papers with tears in class because I started crying for no reason.
 
i think being spanked often as a child affected my sexual preferences. i hate when guys just give it a little smack. i want a real fucking ass SMACK
so i don't think butt hitting is a good thing for kids. it's a sexual thing. don't do it to your kids. it's weird. it's a butt.

and a little smack somewhere else when the kids are really really bad is okay i guess. (like what lonewolf said. but it shouldn't be a regular disciplinary tool) being smacked around and stuff is no fun. no go. no hitting.
 
it kind of worries me how many people have been hit by their parents...what about soft power and using your words?
 
speak firmly, tell the kid why they are being kept from the tv and made to do extra chores, give them dinner and send them to bed early.
 
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