oh my days. you have no intention of moving on at all
Maybe not. I don't know if I ever will. That might sound melodramatic but it's just the way I feel.
i didn't mean that between you there is not a friendship only that how she has mislead you is not to me what a friend does. so stop pedestalling this one "friendship"
I wouldn't say I'm "pedestalling" this one friendship, we're just still good friends. She's really the only person perhaps besides my mother who I feel like I can talk to about anything with and vice versa. We're there for eachother.
you are wasting your time chasing this one in your head while openly pretending you are "just friends". i can understand it ( as a gay with hot straight male friends i have had many unrequited friend/loves that go nowhere)but really if you want to be free of the shit feelings you need to get rid of the woman you are still in love with who you are jealous of her boyfriend that you talk to all the time the same way most people would a partner. because she is not your partner.
I wouldn't say I'm chasing her, I'm just still in love with her. In fact she's the one that at times says things to me that makes me think she still has a thing for me. I always try to keep the conversations on a friendship level. Other than that, I've decided that I'm not going to let what's happened ruin a perfectly good friendship, and it's not like she's the only person that I care about that's hurt me in one way or another, or that there aren't bad things I never did. But either way I don't believe that she did it on purpose, although she sort of did it the worst way possible.
i get the feeling you dont value yourself enough to be harsh to her for you own beneift
I'll admit that I'm a bit of a masochist, but I don't think it's that. I just don't see the point in cutting off someone who is one of my best friends and that I care a lot about. It's hard sometimes, but if I was going to burn that bridge it would've been done over a year ago.
its definitely a better thread lol.
just frustrating to hear someone hurting themselves. but at the same time a good thread cos it shows all the responses of objectivity and in you the insanity of loving someone who wont love you back which we all experience when we really love someone as opposed to just enjoy fucking them and talking in a mostly shallow way.
I think the way I'm venting in this thread might make it seem like I'm walking around constantly obsessed with this person and miserable but that's not really the case. It's just difficult sometimes to go back to being friends with someone after being romantic for 3 years off and on. And she does love me, just not romantically anymore, although that's debatable. It's just complicated.
Just prioritise getting ahead in life and making your plans for your future so that no one else can fuck it up for you. Travel. Jobs. Buying a house. Start building your life as you want it.
I'm a long ways away from anything like that. Being on SSI for mental illness and living with an aging family member doesn't exactly get the ladies hot and bothered.
Maybe some chick will want to be with you and vice versa. Who knows? You will be content within yourself anyway and it will show.
I don't think there's anyone out there that's going to put up with me. I'm not all that stable and easy to get along with in the first place.
Giving yourself a break from the bullshit of finding a relationship is like a holiday in itself.
Yeah I normally don't miss it but it gets lonely sometimes to not have someone.
I dont care if you stay friends with your ex or not tbh. Its only facebook so who gives a shit. She should mean no more or less to you than anyone else on there.
It's not only Facebook, we talk probably 3 times a week on the phone. And of course she means more because we care about each other a lot. There's some people on my FB that I'm friends with but we don't even really communicate.
You and nutty should hook up.
Har har.
