MyDoorsAreOpen
Bluelight Crew
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In other words, what sort of person, with what sort of role in your life or relationship to you, has given you the most trouble in figuring out what's appropriate to say or do? For example, I've met people who never seem to have much trouble clicking with coworkers, but always tend to make asses of themselves when forced to deal with their bosses or managers. I've met teachers who can connect very well with a classroom of adolescents when teaching a subject they know well, but either clam up or put their foot in their mouths whenever they're surrounded by adolescents in an informal social setting. Some people navigate the grey area between 'friend' and 'acquaintance' that characterizes relationships like 'drinking buddy' and 'fellow member of my gamers' guild' with grace and satisfaction, never disclosing too much or too little. On the other hand, I've winced as I've witnessed people mistaking folks they pay to provide them a service for close friends who'd be willing to hear their life stories for free.
For anyone who isn't completely thick, there's a distinct and pungently unforgettable flavor of embarrassment that comes with hearing someone imply to you "What you just said is way over the line" or "I don't know why you're talking to me about that, so let's drop it." Usually one such incident, I find, is enough for me to effectively reassess where I stand with that person and avoid a second one with that person or anyone similar in my life. But every now and then there'll be someone in your life where dealing with them feels like learning the course of an electric fence in pitch dark. Can you think of any? In the end, what did you finally learn about dealing with that type of person?
For anyone who isn't completely thick, there's a distinct and pungently unforgettable flavor of embarrassment that comes with hearing someone imply to you "What you just said is way over the line" or "I don't know why you're talking to me about that, so let's drop it." Usually one such incident, I find, is enough for me to effectively reassess where I stand with that person and avoid a second one with that person or anyone similar in my life. But every now and then there'll be someone in your life where dealing with them feels like learning the course of an electric fence in pitch dark. Can you think of any? In the end, what did you finally learn about dealing with that type of person?