i dont know what to do
everything is just wrong with this situation. im so confused and scared and terribly distraught.
my daughter's father was hardly ever in her life until this past year. not even a year...he didnt even see her last christmas. but since a lengthy phone conversation that was full of his sorrys and wants in febuary i let him back into her life.
now things have changed for the worse between him and i and he doesnt know how to handle it. he's new to the sharing of a kid thing and isnt considering her at all. she visits with him on the weekends and i keep her during the school week.
today is halloween and we both wanted to take her trick or treating but didnt communicate very well on what our plans were. i had asked him a week prior but he said he would talk to me later (a usual response). but he didnt and i subconsciously assumed she would be with me because he's never asked for her before. the last time he went with her him and i were still together...she was one...and i had to convince him to go by promising it wouldnt take too long.
it wasnt until friday when i dropped her off that the plans we both had for her clashed. we tried to work something out but it just didnt work out right.
today i was more than willing to take her for a little bit and then switch off. an hour tops for both. but he didnt like that idea and decided to cuss a lot more. i asked him to stop, said he was acting like a child (bad move i know), that we could work this out for both of us. he said to forget it. that he'd see me in court. that im going to lose malaura. that ill never see her again.
i know he cant do this but it still sucks to have someone out to get you. he said he wanted to screw up my life in any way he can. im paid under the table at the g-parents place and he said he's going to report them for tax fraud.
i asked him if he thought i was a bad mother and he didnt answer. i told him he couldnt take her away from me if he couldnt prove i was a bad mother.
i told him not to do this to her, that she needs both of us to work together for her. that she doesnt need her parents fighting over her. isnt it glorious to have so many love her? why take away the only constant she's ever had? i love her with the entirety of my soul. i would die for her. even if some how he was able to get her i would do anything and everything in my power to get her back through the court system. if they told me to jump off a bridge i would without hesitation.
what hurts worse is that i let him back in and he does this. not out of protection for her but out of spite for me. he hates me and he lets that guide his decisions. all ive ever wanted was for him to be in her life...and now he's trying to ruin mine. all because we messed up on halloween plans.
everything is just wrong with this situation. im so confused and scared and terribly distraught.
my daughter's father was hardly ever in her life until this past year. not even a year...he didnt even see her last christmas. but since a lengthy phone conversation that was full of his sorrys and wants in febuary i let him back into her life.
now things have changed for the worse between him and i and he doesnt know how to handle it. he's new to the sharing of a kid thing and isnt considering her at all. she visits with him on the weekends and i keep her during the school week.
today is halloween and we both wanted to take her trick or treating but didnt communicate very well on what our plans were. i had asked him a week prior but he said he would talk to me later (a usual response). but he didnt and i subconsciously assumed she would be with me because he's never asked for her before. the last time he went with her him and i were still together...she was one...and i had to convince him to go by promising it wouldnt take too long.
it wasnt until friday when i dropped her off that the plans we both had for her clashed. we tried to work something out but it just didnt work out right.
today i was more than willing to take her for a little bit and then switch off. an hour tops for both. but he didnt like that idea and decided to cuss a lot more. i asked him to stop, said he was acting like a child (bad move i know), that we could work this out for both of us. he said to forget it. that he'd see me in court. that im going to lose malaura. that ill never see her again.
i know he cant do this but it still sucks to have someone out to get you. he said he wanted to screw up my life in any way he can. im paid under the table at the g-parents place and he said he's going to report them for tax fraud.
i asked him if he thought i was a bad mother and he didnt answer. i told him he couldnt take her away from me if he couldnt prove i was a bad mother.
i told him not to do this to her, that she needs both of us to work together for her. that she doesnt need her parents fighting over her. isnt it glorious to have so many love her? why take away the only constant she's ever had? i love her with the entirety of my soul. i would die for her. even if some how he was able to get her i would do anything and everything in my power to get her back through the court system. if they told me to jump off a bridge i would without hesitation.
what hurts worse is that i let him back in and he does this. not out of protection for her but out of spite for me. he hates me and he lets that guide his decisions. all ive ever wanted was for him to be in her life...and now he's trying to ruin mine. all because we messed up on halloween plans.
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