Im hurtin

[Azatos]

I just lost a good friend over $40, for real. I knew him for 6 months and chilled with him just about every day. Noticed he was using black tar more than usual, in the span of two weeks he changed into a straight fiend and just did my friend dirty over $40. I dont give a fuck about the money, I witnessed a friend turn into an addict and Im typing this in tears.

How do you handle friends turned addict? How do you cope? What do you do?

 

[Azatos]

The shit changes us into someone we never thought we would be. We don't want to do those things but we NEED to. To be honest, the first ones we hurt and take advantage of are those who are closest to us. We suck them dry of everything and when there is nothing left we move on to the next one. Master fucking manipulators, man.

Your friend is on a rough road that will become progressively worse in a short period of time.

I'd suggest loving him from a distance, man.

(this may or may not be accurate for your friend. I'm just giving some insight into how I and many that I know are when we are full blown addicted to that shit)

My friend has walked that road before, hes been using off and on since he was a teen.

He stopped for 3 years and after we met I guess he relapsed. He didnt want to fuck with black again but, didnt tell me why. I eventually got him to hook me up with it and after that we were weekend warriors. Then he started using more and more. I feel responsible I was the reason he relapsed.

Is there any useful way to help him out besides recommend rehab which he wont do.

 

[bagochina]

Usually I would be shooting dope with him. Drugs do strange things to people. Nothing matters except that shot, snort, smoke of heroin. The grasp that takes over your live is well disgusting. Just be thankful it was money and not really fucking some one over. If somebody fuct me over it would be the last I talked to them, unless they had extras. That never ended well though usually it would end in jail or death. No real way to reason with them just be glad your not along for the ride.

peace.
seedless

 

[Azatos]

Nah, man, you are NOT the reason he relapsed. He made a decision, a poor decision, but one that many of us make. Sure, we may point the finger at our friends, family, the sun, the rain, the job or pretty much anything just to have an excuse to get high. We know deep inside the only reason we got high is because we WANTED to (at first). After that first one our ability to chose is taken away.



I wish I had an answer for this question. (Perhaps someone else here can provide something?). For me, when I was wrapped up, I wanted to get help but I just wasn't done yet. Getting clean was a fuckin' scary thought. It had to get really bad for me to take some sort of action. That action was initially rehab. Another time was simply steadfast determination NOT to go to rehab and support from those who believed in me.

If he isn't ready yet than there is nothing you can really do. Usually some outside force interrupts our using (the police, the courts, jail, hospital, death, etc.) but, again, if we aren't ready we will continue to use somehow, some way (either sooner or later)

Your a serious help man, I know its fucking hard to quit but, I never slipped that far so I dont really know how it is.

Hes a good friend so Im going to try whatever I can that would actually benefit him. Thanks for the support everybody.

 

[ferrita]

Do not feel guilty for his addiction or his fuck ups. they arent your fault. I used black for the first time in 24 years the other day. Yeah 24 years clean. I could blame the folks tht broke out the H but its not their fault i said yes. Its my fault. nobody but me.

I agree with a poster who said love him from a distance. hes not so far gone he cant beat it at this pointl. talk to him and tell him that. but dont stop lovimg him. much love and much luck