I'm having many sexual dysfunctions and its making me feel like shit

[the_ketaman]

I just finished having sex. I'm gay. I made my partner cum by fucking him and getting his prostate(works like a charm!) But I was left unable to cum. I'm 23 and its either I can't get it up or Icant cum. It's really fucking up my emotional wellbeing and its an ongoing problem. He reckons he'll concentrate on me tomorrow but I'll blow in 2 minutes & be extremely pissed off! It's not his fault but I just spent hours pleasing him. I feel fucked & he's asleep next to me :/

What the hell do I do? This is really fucking me up in so many ways. I have habits that are more than likely responsible. I'm on methadone, have an unsteady IV meth habit, a benzo habit(Clonazepam or Xanax even though I use only a few days a fortnight its definitely affecting many parts of my life) and my partner doesn't know I'm still using so I drink wine with him & smoke pot which fuck me up more.

The obvious answer is to stop using drugs all together. I've been trying to stop using(especially meth) for months. I've cut down a lot so I'm able to perform when not spun but instead of having total control during sex now meth has ruined sex. I'm just so sad, hurt & still horny but the fuck asleep next to me is too lazy.

This hurts surprisingly bad!

 

[Mysterie]

i know this isnt a very helpful post, but you answered your own question in your post

The obvious answer is to stop using drugs all together.

theres no way i could have an active sex drive if i was taking the drugs you are, i would be asexual. TDS could offer some good guidance on your poly addiction and how to detox off them

dont blame your partner for this tho, if anything you are lying to his face (if my partner did that to me i would be vry upset)

 

[pofacedhoe]

you are on opiates- this is to be expected

i'm gonna close this because the answer is that you are on opiates. this subject has been done to death in SLR

its always the same- responses i've seen like "why dont you take testosterone" (WTF?) or " try stims" (because thats helpful...).

i'll give you the only answer that will solve this long term. Stop taking opiates/taper your dose. if you cant cum your maintenance dose is probably higher than you need