painenduser
Bluelighter
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- Jul 13, 2011
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Well as you all know, I am a recovering alcoholic and have well over 600 days sober. Also as you all know, I am on Fentynal Patches and Dilaudid. Well I was feeling very very very down tonight, somewhat well not suicidal, but rather just wishing my liver would just fail on me already as I am pretty depressed. I have been thinking alot about what it means to get a transplant, and as it stands now, they don't know yet if I need the transplant, as my tests give the Dr's mixed results. The imaging tests all show my liver is in bad shape, as is my spleen, but my blood works shows everything is normal. They tell me that only the biopsy at this point will tell them how bad things are an if I will infact need the transplant. But this is thrashing in my head. As of now, there is not prognosis good or bad, right now, I have no expiration date. However, if it turns out I need a transplant, and I do not have liver cancer, then on average, I have been reading and talking to people and I'm told on average, a person usually gains about 10 years. Meaning that having the transplant I sort of now have an expiration... I know that I will probably only live about an additional 10 years post transplant. Yes I know it is an average, which could mean that I could live 20 years, but even with that, it makes the expiration date more of a finality... So that has been haunting me. Then as you know, my living situation with a very toxic environment is not all that good. The add to that that half my family has disowned me do to my alcoholism, even though I did nothing to them personally (yes I know an alcoholic affects everyone, mostly on an emotional level as they had to watch me practically commit suicide through alcohol, and they all tried to help and I refused their help and they took this personally. Most of my really close friends, atleast those that I thought were my close friends, have not really talked to me. Noone ever calls me up to get together. I feel like I have become almost a loner. I don't think I will ever find love again with my health being that it is. I have only a very few set of friends that are sticking by my side, but I have noone I can call and say, "Hey, you guys want to go out? Do some fishing? Go to the track?, do anything?" Noone ever says yes. Noone calls me up and invites me out. I have no life anymore. I officially was told the other week that I can not go back to work for at the minimum a year from now, yet Social Security keeps denying my claims. With all this going on, and the fact that I have been in a lot of serious pain over the last week. I did something I never thought I would ever do, and though, I highly doubt I will ever do it again, not because it wasn't fun, but because I want to stay away from abusing my pain meds as I really do need them and I do not want to be a Hippocrate helping people here who are suffering from an addiction and trying to help people get through their addiction and I will help anyone and everyone out that I can. I want to teach people the right things to do, and how to stay sober...
Well I'll get right down to it.. With all that above and so much more, I was at a breaking point tonight as I really didn't want to continue fighting this unseemingly endless amount of emotional and physical pain, I plugged 2 50mcg fentynal patches... This is the first time I plugged anything and the first time I really tried to abuse my pain meds... I wasn't trying to commit suicide or anything, but I honesly did not care if it would have killed me, I just had enough and I broke down and did it..
I feel ashamed, I feel like I let everyone here down as I am a big proponent of helping people here when they are in this shape and I would tell anyone struggling here, to stop think about the choices in front of them and reach out to someone anyone where you can before they decide to do something like that, think about the potential consequences of their potential actions. Come up with something, anything to help them avoid doing something like that. I would do anything I could to make sure people think about all these things first and usually by talking before hand, it's a pretty good bet, that you can talk them out of it. But I didn't care tonight. I think part of me wished that the out come would have been different, ie me no longer walking through this hell I call my life.
I don't know. I just need some support from you guys. I don't need to be called out, or flamed over this. I know this won't interfere with my sobriety from alcohol, not because I don't want the alcohol to kill me because if my liver is as bad as they say, but more because I just hate drinking as a who;e anymore. Not one part of picking up a drink does anything for me and more and I really don't even crave the taste.. I just don't want my actions tonight to start some dumb spiral back into an addiction. I also don't want to lose the support I have gotten here, as well as I don't want to lose the trust people have in me to help them stay sober and or clean. Alot of people here have entrusted me with helping them to remain sobriety and I don't want to lose that trust because of my actions and while I could have just not said anything and gone on my merry way, honesty has a lot to do with sobriety as does trust, and I don't want to lose that with anyone here, INCLUDING myself.
So I have written this for a few reasons, 1. I needed to be open and completely honest with not only you all but more importantly with myself and to set an example of myself for others who may find themselves fighting these heavy internal turmoils, unrest, and or unbalance. 2. I need some support from you guys right now as I am going through all these thoughts as of late about life and death, my prognosis, and the finality of my life. With so little support from those who I would think I should be getting it from, such as family, and friends. I need to learn better coping skill when it comes to my own life. 3. I need to start identifying my trigger points.. Not the trigger points that make me want to do stupid things or perhaps even relapse, but trigger points that send me over the edge to where I don't care about my life anymore, I stop caring if I will wake up, I stop caring if I continue do due things that could cause me to lose what little support system I have.
You know, I don't really know if this post really makes any sense, it's something, well a bunch of somethings I needed to get off my chest and out of my mind. I sometimes get this feeling like I am going to self destruct. I mean there is only some much a person can take before they crack and stop believing in themselves and I don't want to do that. Most of the time, I think that I am a great person, and wonderful friend to those in my life, and wonderful potential friend to those I have yet to meet. I think I have a lot to offer this world and the people in it, but then I start thinking like this and I start feeling like all those domino pieces that are standing tall and strong are starting to one by one, tip,,,tip,,,tip and then they will keep falling until the last one drops.
I don't know what I am really asking for here from anyone makes sense or if its even possible, but I am hoping, that it's out there. I am tired of feeling like this and then taking dumb chances, then after I take that dumb chance at the same time, I am tired of life itself and just want out while at the same time I love like, and oh hell guys, I dunno. I am just going to leave this thread as is. Maybe this will make sense to some of you. Maybe you guys and gals will know what I am asking and what I need. I don't want to die, at the same time I really don't want to be here anymore.
Well please don't think less of me for what I did and I hope that people will still trust me and confide in me to help them when they come to me for help as I am coming to you all now. I am just in my down / low spot in life and like I said I am not proud of what I did and I am probably making a mountain out of a mole hill, but this is very important to me.
So thank you all for taking the time to read this and respond, I appreciate all you have to offer and the advise you have to give. Even if you don't think you response would be of any use, all replies are important to me, and will mean alot to me, and you never know, what you may have thought would not make any difference? It just may be that reply that makes all the pieces of the puzzle come together for me. So please don't hesitate to reply, I can't thank you enough for taking the time to read this.
Thanks!
Pain
Well I'll get right down to it.. With all that above and so much more, I was at a breaking point tonight as I really didn't want to continue fighting this unseemingly endless amount of emotional and physical pain, I plugged 2 50mcg fentynal patches... This is the first time I plugged anything and the first time I really tried to abuse my pain meds... I wasn't trying to commit suicide or anything, but I honesly did not care if it would have killed me, I just had enough and I broke down and did it..
I feel ashamed, I feel like I let everyone here down as I am a big proponent of helping people here when they are in this shape and I would tell anyone struggling here, to stop think about the choices in front of them and reach out to someone anyone where you can before they decide to do something like that, think about the potential consequences of their potential actions. Come up with something, anything to help them avoid doing something like that. I would do anything I could to make sure people think about all these things first and usually by talking before hand, it's a pretty good bet, that you can talk them out of it. But I didn't care tonight. I think part of me wished that the out come would have been different, ie me no longer walking through this hell I call my life.
I don't know. I just need some support from you guys. I don't need to be called out, or flamed over this. I know this won't interfere with my sobriety from alcohol, not because I don't want the alcohol to kill me because if my liver is as bad as they say, but more because I just hate drinking as a who;e anymore. Not one part of picking up a drink does anything for me and more and I really don't even crave the taste.. I just don't want my actions tonight to start some dumb spiral back into an addiction. I also don't want to lose the support I have gotten here, as well as I don't want to lose the trust people have in me to help them stay sober and or clean. Alot of people here have entrusted me with helping them to remain sobriety and I don't want to lose that trust because of my actions and while I could have just not said anything and gone on my merry way, honesty has a lot to do with sobriety as does trust, and I don't want to lose that with anyone here, INCLUDING myself.
So I have written this for a few reasons, 1. I needed to be open and completely honest with not only you all but more importantly with myself and to set an example of myself for others who may find themselves fighting these heavy internal turmoils, unrest, and or unbalance. 2. I need some support from you guys right now as I am going through all these thoughts as of late about life and death, my prognosis, and the finality of my life. With so little support from those who I would think I should be getting it from, such as family, and friends. I need to learn better coping skill when it comes to my own life. 3. I need to start identifying my trigger points.. Not the trigger points that make me want to do stupid things or perhaps even relapse, but trigger points that send me over the edge to where I don't care about my life anymore, I stop caring if I will wake up, I stop caring if I continue do due things that could cause me to lose what little support system I have.
You know, I don't really know if this post really makes any sense, it's something, well a bunch of somethings I needed to get off my chest and out of my mind. I sometimes get this feeling like I am going to self destruct. I mean there is only some much a person can take before they crack and stop believing in themselves and I don't want to do that. Most of the time, I think that I am a great person, and wonderful friend to those in my life, and wonderful potential friend to those I have yet to meet. I think I have a lot to offer this world and the people in it, but then I start thinking like this and I start feeling like all those domino pieces that are standing tall and strong are starting to one by one, tip,,,tip,,,tip and then they will keep falling until the last one drops.
I don't know what I am really asking for here from anyone makes sense or if its even possible, but I am hoping, that it's out there. I am tired of feeling like this and then taking dumb chances, then after I take that dumb chance at the same time, I am tired of life itself and just want out while at the same time I love like, and oh hell guys, I dunno. I am just going to leave this thread as is. Maybe this will make sense to some of you. Maybe you guys and gals will know what I am asking and what I need. I don't want to die, at the same time I really don't want to be here anymore.
Well please don't think less of me for what I did and I hope that people will still trust me and confide in me to help them when they come to me for help as I am coming to you all now. I am just in my down / low spot in life and like I said I am not proud of what I did and I am probably making a mountain out of a mole hill, but this is very important to me.
So thank you all for taking the time to read this and respond, I appreciate all you have to offer and the advise you have to give. Even if you don't think you response would be of any use, all replies are important to me, and will mean alot to me, and you never know, what you may have thought would not make any difference? It just may be that reply that makes all the pieces of the puzzle come together for me. So please don't hesitate to reply, I can't thank you enough for taking the time to read this.
Thanks!
Pain