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I'm down to my last resort: start a new life in Brazil

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I didnt open this thread to explain why I want to do this. After all, it would
take pages to explain all the bullshit, pain and suffering i've been trough for
most of my 30 years on this planet. But as i'm certain it will arouse alot of
curiousness, and because it might be of some revelance in the main topic,
I will give a few hints.

I've tried anything and everything, I just can't be happy with my life as it is.
For a long time i've moved from a drug to the other. Legal or not. I just can't cope
without them in my world as it is. Eventho i'm talented in my line of work for wich I am overqualified, I always end up fucking things up because of depression. I feel like
i'm caught in a circle of doom. No matter how hard I try, I can't break out of it.

Some might think this is a desperate plan. That's it's the depression talking. But that's
not the case. If it was i'd be talking about suicide. But here i'm talking about renaissance.

For the last 15 years i've been on contact with a 62 years old woman from Brazil. Over
time we developped a close relationship and i've come to think of her as my aunt.
Tragically, both her husband and her son died in the last year in accidents. She is now
living alone with her daughter and grandson. We are seriously evaluating the possibility
that I fly down to Brazil. There she would grant me roof, food and teach me portugese
until the time I secure a job and can be autonomous. She would of course provide moral support/confort at any point. In return I would help with various work on the house, protect
and take care of them.

I feel like this is a rare opportunity that i'm being offered. I said I was depressed for a damn
long time and I still am, but that doesnt mean that my mind hasnt elvolved, just that my general
situation hasnt despite my honest efforts. If I move there I will have a clean slate to build a new
life with my new values.


After he set foot on the continent, Christopher Colombus burned his ships. As a result, his men were more motivated. This applies to me too. I don't want to explain the details of why
this applies to me. Let's just say that nobody will pursue me, but coming back would be more
than I could bear.


I'm looking for very various input here: general toughts, be welcomed to point out flaws in my plan, i'm also looking for any information regarding Brazil immigration. As i'm Canadian I don't need a tourist visa.
 
Are you sure you can move to brazil legally just lime that ?

Wouldn't you have to get in contact with immigration, etc? Especially if you want to work there.
 
Since you are canadian I don't know about the laws regarding working overseas, but if Brazil is like anywhere else in the world, you need a government permit to work, and a lot of the time that is very difficult to get, and to become a citizen is even harder. And learning the language is very difficult.

I've been to Brazil, and hated it.
 
she is staggering said:
Since you are canadian I don't know about the laws regarding working overseas, but if Brazil is like anywhere else in the world, you need a government permit to work, and a lot of the time that is very difficult to get, and to become a citizen is even harder. And learning the language is very difficult.

I've been to Brazil, and hated it.
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Yeah but if he marries the daughter...;)
 
If you have no responsibilities where you live now, and aren't running from the law, I say go for it. It sounds like a great opportunity to see what it's like living in a different country. You will likely need a work visa, but that shouldn't be an issue. A few Brazilans I know were telling me the economy is going strong, the current president is working hard to improve the country's position in the global economy as well as implementing a lot of social and education reform, which is going to improve the quality of life for the average brazilian citizen. Sure there is going to be drugs there, but having a chance at a whole new start can be an excellent motivator to stay clean. If I didn't have family member to care for, I'd be moving abroad and more than likely teaching english as a second language. I doubt I'd choose brazil as my first choice, but then again I've never been there and only know what the brazilians I know tell me. Anyhow, having a friend there to help you get settled will be a huge advantage. Good luck with your move.
 
I was gonna say its the worst idea to try and get off drugs. You DO NOT magically build "new values" when you go move to another land. You can easily bring your old values with you.

All I'm saying is don't be too attached to that idea or your likely to get even more depressed living in a new country AND using drugs. How shitty would that be? I'm not trying to cast doom upon you you did ask for flaws in the plan. I was mentioning possibility.

Gluck either way it goes.
 
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Galaxy Blue said:
As i'm Canadian I don't need a tourist visa.
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brasil is one of the place im interested in n im canadian too n from what ive gathered you do need a visa n cant stay more than 90 days but you could leave n come back for a visa renewal but that can be expensive
i really dont know shit btw, never being there, but im not sure you figured out the legal part of it

outside of that it seems like a opportunity for sure
tho as for drugs... they sure do have them there too, but if you get into trouble there.... forget about canada n its human right standard...

but again, thats all a big imo

and since this is TDS ill say the obvious : there is some stuff that you cant leave behind, cuz they are within
 
Bojangles69 said:
I was gonna say its the worst idea to try and get off drugs. You DO NOT magically build "new values" when you go move to another land. You can easily bring your old values with you.
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Well, probably not the worst idea, but definitely not the best. This is referred to in recovery circles as "doing a geographic." I moved from Houston to Minneapolis to Seattle to Austin, then back to Minneapolis within a few years, trying to get clean. One of the first things I did in each city was locate a heroin source "just in case." 8)

Getting away from your using friends and hangouts (and a host of other triggers you probably aren't even consciously aware of) is a good idea, but you have to put a hell of a lot more into it than that. You have to imagine that you're fighting for your very life.

Edit: Wait, I just noticed to OP mentioned nothing about addiction, only depression. I'm not sure what advice to give, as only the basic outline of his dilemma was mentioned.
 
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