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I'M 27 yrs, I HAVE NEVER BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE!!

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Blessed1

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I'm Just A Weirdo, Right? So I'm 27 and have never been in a relationship. Not even close. I've never even been on any date. All through high school and college I felt okay with this because I just never met anyone I wanted to date. But I eventually realized this was just something I told myself to justify my chronic singledom. I have always had a hard time opening up with new people while facing hatred from people with no any apparent reasons, its hard to stay with a friend for a lil longer, defriends is more common to me, sometimes I thought someone might have put a bad spell on me but who cares!?. And i think I'm ready to be in a relationship With a any girl regardless ages, races, height, distance e.t.c just to


Also, I am totally normal. I'm not crazy. I'm funny, humble, full of love, good looking guy . I am fairly comfortable with myself and my life, so I don't want to hear any of that "girls are attracted to confidence more than anything" bullshit.


Im not desperate or anything...yet. But as all my friends begin to fall in love and meet their "soulmates" or whatever, Im left thinking "can I just get a girlfriend who will be my lovely wife for better for worse.?"
alsoo any advice would be appreciated or just let me know I'm not the only one in such situation.

Kind regards,
Blessed1.
 
I wonder if he has ever said "hello" or "hi" to a woman he fancied. This case might take some serious baby steps.

Also sex and love are two very different things. You don't love someone just cuz you shagged them and they don't neccesarly love you so don't get emotional here.

But yeah go on a date and fuck a chick and see how that works out for you. If you don't end up loving her maybe you can like her until you find someone you love. That is kinda how things work.

I always just invite chicks over to my house and have movies, booze, candy, and a tidy house plus I spit good game. It wasn't always that easy but it is now. Dunno how it got that way but now it works every time.

I don't know if there was much romantic love but we cared about each other and sometimes girls bring another girl and that is when shit gets awesome and you forget about love and you just love to fuck.
 
You caught feelings. That is a nasty disease. Try to get immune. I use hard drugs to treat that type of thing (joking, don't modstick me) but seriously I would use drugs no matter how good things were.
 
I question the functionality and sustainability of such intense feelings in a practical world, it's blissful, overwhelming and intoxicating but I think it has to be measured with a degree of objectivity. Otherwise you just lose yourself into the matrix of inter-personal relationships.. everyone says this is wonderful and good, but in my experience I lose my ability to function as an individual. The most intense love relationships I've had opened me up to realms of emotion I never knew existed but at the same time totally impaired me.

I have more control over my self these days, I can allow myself to merge with someone through intense feelings but I always re-establish that boundary between my self and them. I am far more detached, it's probably a mechanism of self-preservation, but I think there needs to be a balance.. so you're always aware of where you end and they begin.
 



Dude go get out and talk to people and be nice and make new friends and put yourself out there and see what youu can do to fill this gap you have,
 
There are some guys that usually have women flocking over them all of time. Usually younger women do this, that's why it's hard to find a girl at a young age. I'm a regular looking guy, but my best friend was fairly attractive. He had so many women throwing themselves at him in high school and college. He put in no effort, which made me feel pathetic lol. Guys like us with average looks have to put in more effort. Dont give up. I was always the type that wasn't smooth enough to get the girl, which im inferring is a problem you also have. Be persistent. It is easier when you get older. With age their is a different kind of confidence (not arrogance) you get with life experience. It is evident to woman, and if you have real confidence built on a foundation (security, stability, financially and emotionally) and not just a big ego, women will seek you out. It happened to me in my late 20s-early 30s. I have women flirt with me or try and set me up all of the time. Just build yourself up and watch the women roll in lol. All kidding aside, several people are in your situation, just don't fall into the pit of depression or other mental/unstable patterns of thinking. If you do, meeting women will be that much harder.
 
I also wanted to add as an observation, (not judging) that in your post you wrote , that you feel comfortable with yourself and "don't want to hear that women are attracted more than anything to confidence, Bullshit." In your post you sound extremely insecure, so your probably projecting this to women without knowing.
 
Blessed1 said:
Im not desperate or anything...yet. But as all my friends begin to fall in love and meet their "soulmates" or whatever, Im left thinking "can I just get a girlfriend who will be my lovely wife for better for worse.?"
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Don't worry OP. Give it 10 years and half of those people will be divorced and bitter. It's easy to get swept along because everyone else is doing it, when really very few people know what the fuck they're actually doing.

Nature is boss.

Here's some great advice:

 
I'm the same age and have never felt love either (well, romantic love anyway). I've fucked bitches, though. And got money. Hurr hurr.

I'm a little happy and a little sad that I've never been in love with anyone, although I guess I've felt things commonly associated with the word like lust, affection, etc. On the one hand "love" seems to make people make fucking stupid decisions that anyone with any sort of perspective & grasp of reality would recognize as such. But my best friend married his high school girlfriend, the first girl he ever slept with. Which goes back to that old joke "oh he made that mistake huh, marrying the first girl who will fuck him" But actually from what I've seen their relationship is very strong and I admire it. You can tell that they have a lot of love and respect for each other and it makes me wish that I had something like that.
 
Burnt Offerings said:
I'm the same age and have never felt love either (well, romantic love anyway). I've fucked bitches, though. And got money. Hurr hurr.

I'm a little happy and a little sad that I've never been in love with anyone, although I guess I've felt things commonly associated with the word like lust, affection, etc. On the one hand "love" seems to make people make fucking stupid decisions that anyone with any sort of perspective & grasp of reality would recognize as such. But my best friend married his high school girlfriend, the first girl he ever slept with. Which goes back to that old joke "oh he made that mistake huh, marrying the first girl who will fuck him" But actually from what I've seen their relationship is very strong and I admire it. You can tell that they have a lot of love and respect for each other and it makes me wish that I had something like that.
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From my experience being in love for nearly 5 years, it does make you crazy, don't get me wrong it's great, but it overrides any normal rational thinking that conflicts with it. You don't think you're in love, once you are you know it, you 'get it', it takes over and deprioritizes everything else in your life. So much so you'd even die for your lover if you had too.

Loves a great thing, don't get me wrong. But while in love, real love, not lust you're mistaking a love. You no longer have the luxury of total free choice in your life. A bit like what id imaging having a kid is like.

That's my experience of it. And I truly hope you find it, it's an experience that I wouldn't want to die having never experienced (and I very nearly did)
 
Good for you! im just a year older than you and i been in love 4 times, and every time i ended up with a broken heart and a total mess of a life. Still recovering from the last time. Im a very emotional guy so a allways take it very badly and blame myself and beat myself up over it. Im very scared to open my heart for someone again and have develped a very negative attitude about love.
 
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