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If your sibling dobbed you in to your mum for seeing prostitutes would you care?

Jabberwocky

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Spoke to a friend last night and he's now disconnected from his sister entirely. Pretty much he told the brother in law, who told his sister, who then told the mum. I think he's ashamed but now for the last 2 years he's refused to speak to his sister even though they live close.

It had me thinking what would you do?

I personally wouldn't care but that's just me.
 
This question is entirely dependent on your (relationship with your) mother/parents.

I don't think this guy is in the wrong for "disowning" his sister after that sort of shit, as again it depends on his sister, I would guess this is the final straw from her overall demeanour. He very could well be overreacting about something that's ultimately his own fault.
It's really the guy who fucked the prostitues loose lips that started it, but at the same time he entrusted the the brother-in-law with the info, not the sister. None of them can keep their lips sealed, but I honestly think the sister is just the final link to the mother as opposed to who's really at fault. If she didn't tell the mother, the mother wouldn't know, but you could say that about previous links. He shoulda just kept his mouth shut, can't blame the sister for that one.
 
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id care if there were ppl outside making noises during a booking telling the girl stuff.
mood killer
 
families are weird.

some people just have these big fall outs. id get over it quickly, grudge holding is for people who think this life is infinite
 
pofacedhoe said:
some people just have these big fall outs. id get over it quickly, grudge holding is for people who think this life is infinite
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Or for people who actually learn from their mistakes ;)

I mean, if someone were to misuse ones trust, to a point where you feel like you can't trust them anymore, then why even bother trying to forgive them and "move on"?
More often than not, you would just be making the exact same mistake again by trusting a person that doesn't deserve your trust and that will come around and bite you in the ass eventually.
I think it's up to one self to decide who to trust and/or foregive and it's not a given that holding a grudge has anything to do with it, it could just mean that you learn from past mistakes.
 
I'm sure he wouldn't be mad at his sister now if he wasn't ashamed of what he'd been doing. The attitude towards certain behaviours is crucial in this situation. There may be more than just one reason for seeing prostitutes, but I think the main reason true for the majority of people doing this is the problem with accepting their human nature and the connection between sex and emotions and feelings. By paying a prostitute for sex guys run away from troublesome feelings and emotions. Why would you fear that you won't be good in bed when you are with a girl you like and not have the same fear being with a prostitute? It's the fear of letting down someone that you want to respect you no matter what happens and no matter what you may fail at, it's also the fear of not living up to your partner's expectations. Why is it so embarrassing? By extension this simply stems from the lack of trust, which doesn't make sense at all, because why would you be in a relationship with someone that you don't trust? Why would you be in a relationship with someone that expects you to be different than you are and actually sees you as different than you are?

I hope it's some food for thought for all those people who are afraid of not being good enough at sex or fearing feeling their feelings and emotions. It all doesn't make sense and as soon as you really understand it (transcend it), you will be free of fear and you'll be able to appreciate your life and being close with people on a completely different level. Our culture makes us feel irrationally stressed. We are human beings, we are not robots, our whole lives are feelings and emotions and without them we wouldn't even be who we are, feelings and emotions are essential for our existence, so it doesn't make sense to be embarrassed about them.
 
Why on earth would she tell his mother that to begin with? Is she 14 or something and can't keep anything personal to herself?
 
LuGoJ said:
Why on earth would she tell his mother that to begin with? Is she 14 or something and can't keep anything personal to herself?
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So true. Although it may be a good thing for him. His friends may make it out to be a cool thing and be supportive about it. You never know what kind of sleazeballs he keeps around him. His family has his best interest at heart. I don't think that I'd tell on my brother on the other hand. This boy needs some good ol' growing up. Hookers are plain dirty.
 
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The guys 42 now. Most of his friends new and the guy never did get married. Even is his new girlfriend knows, so am not sure why he made it a big deal. I told him it's not like others didn't know. I admit it can be shameful having your folks find out but in all honesty aren't all chicks and guys prostitutes. You still have to pay something to get a root. Some just would prefer to cut to the chase and have the option to leave right afterwards. I know girls who weren't prostitutes but probably screwed more guys then any prostitute ever did. When you're an adult I don't think there should be any secrets and people should be more open minded but yeah I guess society doesn't work like that :(
 
Something similar happened to me, after an argument with my girlfriend she told my mom I did that several times in the past. That was no big deal.
 
I don't see why it's a big deal, or anybody's business really, minus this guy's partner and really, that's only if he still is seeing ladies while in an actual relationship with a 'civilian'. But then again, the term 'civilian' might clue some in as to my general beliefs about play for pay;)
 
Sourtulip said:
Or for people who actually learn from their mistakes ;)

I mean, if someone were to misuse ones trust, to a point where you feel like you can't trust them anymore, then why even bother trying to forgive them and "move on"?
More often than not, you would just be making the exact same mistake again by trusting a person that doesn't deserve your trust and that will come around and bite you in the ass eventually.
I think it's up to one self to decide who to trust and/or foregive and it's not a given that holding a grudge has anything to do with it, it could just mean that you learn from past mistakes.
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yeah because what she did is such a big deal. in all honesty its not pleasant but to me its not the end of the world. just stop telling her or her husband your shit. simple
 
id care if there were ppl outside making noises during a booking telling the girl stuff.
mood killer
 
pofacedhoe said:
yeah because what she did is such a big deal. in all honesty its not pleasant but to me its not the end of the world. just stop telling her or her husband your shit. simple
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Yeah, I actually think that it is a big deal. Not because of the information passed on but because she's not trust worthy. What's a sister really worth if you can't even tell them about stuff like that without them running straight to your mom and passing on that private piece of information. To me, nothing really. I mean, I probaby wouldn't have stopped seeing her all together if it was me, but I definately wouldn't tell her any private stuff about myself either ever again and if I can't trust her and tell her about stuff in full confidentiality then she's just not much of a sister to me.
So I don't think it's simple at all as you put it, but that's just my opinion.
 
adder said:
I'm sure he wouldn't be mad at his sister now if he wasn't ashamed of what he'd been doing.
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Yep.

If you're so afraid of people finding out don't do it.

Also it's the brother-in-law who was loose-lipped with something told in confidence, not the sister... why be mad at her?
 
id care if there were ppl outside making noises during a booking telling the girl stuff.
mood killer
 
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