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I've been dating with my girlfriend for over two years now. Sometimes I wonder what kind of relationship I'm really in. The thing is: neither of us ever say "I love you" to each other. My girlfriend always tells how much she loves her cat, but never says the same thing to me. What do you think? Is this odd? Should I think I'm really dating or is this more like a friendship?
 
it's up to what you guys want out of the relationship.

you HAVE never said it? have you discussed it with her? open communication and honesty are the foundation of a solid relationship.
 
Showing love is different for everyone, like the guy above me said To be honest... Love languages, etc etc.

Me and my BF say "I love you" to each other at least 10 times a day from each side, and many people say shit like "'I Love You' Is a phrase thats SACRED!!! ONLY say it Occasionally, if not RARELY!!!" But that wrong. I'm building a HOUSE with the Bricks of "I Love You"s.

HOWEVER!! everyone and how they approach and be in relationships is DIFFERENT!!

Do you talk to her regularly? Openly? Communicative???
Does she show love for you in other ways (Gift Giving, Creating, Physical Affection, petnames, etc etc)? If she does, THAT's what's important, NOT a 3 word phrase!!!
 
i always get weirded out by the word love... like "to make love" means sex, but families say "i love you" to each other... just one of those weird words with multiple meanings. i think some people stay away from using it.

in terms of if it's dating or friendship... i think it's possible to love a friend and also love some one that you are dating. just has different meanings...

maybe sit down and have a conversation with how much the person means to you if they mean a lot, but that could also go the wrong way. they might not want to hear it. tmi for some people. like they could enjoy being around you, but the word love could just mean too much.
 
foodcrisis said:
i always get weirded out by the word love... like "to make love" means sex, but families say "i love you" to each other... just one of those weird words with multiple meanings. i think some people stay away from using it.

in terms of if it's dating or friendship... i think it's possible to love a friend and also love some one that you are dating. just has different meanings...

maybe sit down and have a conversation with how much the person means to you if they mean a lot, but that could also go the wrong way. they might not want to hear it. tmi for some people. like they could enjoy being around you, but the word love could just mean too much.
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love... it's an empty word. besides being very open to interpretation, people say it all the time without even thinking about what they mean by it. it goes so far as to be something uttered to get rid of emotional stuff. something like "oomph"
 
Good Evening

Words like "I love you" only hold true value when your partner has proven it through actions.
I have been in a relationship for five years and will marry in a few days.

In the beginning, we didn't immediately fall in love. Instead, we showed our appreciation for each other through surprises,
dares (like cuddling at the right moments), confessions of our desires, and statements about why we need each other so much.

Honesty is the most important thing, next to loyalty, in a committed relationship. You should talk with your partner, show them how you really feel, and express your emotions.
If they don't care, then you know they are not the right person.


I wish you good luck and a happy Christmas Eve
Stay Safe, Mana0909
 
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