Mental Health I have had serious psychological erectile dysfunction my whole sexual carreer..

[deruyityn]

It is only pschological Im sure of that but the fucking thing won't go away even now I have a good amount of experience under my belt.

I get a boner all the time on my own and jerk off plenty no probs. But whenever Im with a girl I always get the stage fright and it is always fucking me over where the girl alot of times thinks Im not attracted to me and gets uncomfortable and wants to leave.

I am 32 years old currently. Would the doc prescribe me viagra?

I have tried all sorts of the 'natural' bullshit remedies to no avail. that nitric oxide or whatever supplement forgot the name. did nothing.

What has helped me a little is a penis ring but still it hasnt helped me properly. The problem is that it can maintain my erection when it is semi erect and then keep it hard and or extra hard but it still needs a first gust of wind but when Im nervous all the blood is sucked out of there. I have had better success with a tighter one once so maybe I should go a size down. I only use the rubber ones ofc not the potentially lethal metal ones. This has been my best hope so far because I can slip them on discreetly without the girl noticing while putting on the condom so there isn't the added embarrassment of having to explain it. There is a chance they could find it but it is not too hard to avoid or just make an excuse if they did. The most important thing is giving a good performance the first time so then they will not become angry and resentful like has happened so many times.

My brain feels so disconnected I feel that things would be solved so simply with some mild psychoactive. Note that Im always stone cold sober during these encounters and I exercise alot and have a healthy lifestyle so all that common lifestyle crap is no use to me. Also I havent taken recreational drugs in years only kratom but I had this issue waaaay before I started kratom so cant blame it on that. My mind is just so powerful in sabotaging me.

I think a small dose of nearly any of the common rec drugs would work a treat in sub peanut dick doses. ie a tiny bump of 2-fa to reconnect the brain to the body. Or a low dose of benzo I bet would work wonders; though I am scared to try benzoes in general. Even some kind of ssri I bet would work as I recall the one dose of citalopram i had once I was horny immediately like the background horniness of mdma. I wonder if tianeptine would be good in this case? Never tried it but I hear it's on par with benzoes in terms of its anti anxiety power and maybe its indirect serotonin action would help too. It is very short acting so it could be taken acutely without issue. I just remembered that it has been used to treat erectile dysfunction too.

I am at my wits end with this. I used to think that experience would make it go away but it hasn't. It still happens exactly the same time every time. Since sex is such and important thing in life and since you don't do it all the time I don't see an issue with using drugs to get you going just for the first times; once I am more comfortable with them it isn't an issue really. It is only the first time I have sex with a girl that it happens but 90% of the time the girls won't want to stay around for a second time so I stay trapped at the same point.

 

[kleinerkiffer]

Sorry, but this isn't suited for OD, I'll move it to mental health, but I'm not 100 % if it's appropriate there, so mods feel free to move it etc and sorry for the inconvenience.

 

[Speed King]

Hey man. Therapy will be the best bet. Get the works tested. Go see a urologist and have the plumbing checked out while getting therapy. I can attest that overthinking things can hurt for sure.

 

[deos68]

Hey man. Therapy will be the best bet. Get the works tested. Go see a urologist and have the plumbing checked out while getting therapy. I can attest that overthinking things can hurt for sure.

i dont think a uro will do anything if the OP is saying he functions ok, but only when hes with a girl is when shit happens
IME/IMO i had/have the same thing well.... i had performance anxiety
when i have high levels of anxiety im able to get it up but for the life of me i cant bust....well i can but until an hr or 2 later which trust me its not that fun
when you're about to pass out

i talked to my therapist and he said to relax

IMO you just need to calm down bud i mean if she wants to smash you eliminated about 99.9999% of the bs
sex isnt something you need to beat yourself up over...XD

i can say i had a few "bloopers" in my day....shit happens onto the next one

talk to your doc
i was given cialis and it works but man i was having random boners at the most inappropriate times
wellbutrin also works on its own for ED

 

[paranoid android]

If it was psychological would Viagra or a similar ED drug even work i wonder? I thought they only worked if you had a specific problem such as blood flow problems? Either way OP i would suggest seeing a doctor first as ED can be a sign of serious physical problems. So a checkup wouldn't be a bad idea not to mention your doctor might be able to help you figure out what is exactly going on. If something like Viagra or something similar might help your doc can prescribe it for you as well as make sure it's safe for you to actually take it.

I have only had this problem once and that was for the month and a half or so i was on Effexor. Fuck that trash for a good 6 fucking weeks i couldn't get off either with a woman or with myself. Someone mentioned Wellbutrin which i sometimes take and although it does raise my libido abit (even though there is certainly nothing wrong with it as is) i always thought it was only used to treat ED caused by SSRI's/SNRI's or Ed caused by Depression. Though it does seem to raise mine even though there is nothing wrong with it. I couldn't imagine having this problem all the time so you certainly have my sympathy on this. As someone who has a few years on you (i am 34) i can say that i have heard of it in a few guys our age who don't exactly take care of themselves IE are way overweight and/or Alcoholics. So physical inactivity, being overweight and Alcohol abuse are all risk factors for getting ED.

 

[deos68]

If it was psychological would Viagra or a similar ED drug even work i wonder? I thought they only worked if you had a specific problem such as blood flow problems? Either way OP i would suggest seeing a doctor first as ED can be a sign of serious physical problems. So a checkup wouldn't be a bad idea not to mention your doctor might be able to help you figure out what is exactly going on. If something like Viagra or something similar might help your doc can prescribe it for you as well as make sure it's safe for you to actually take it.

I have only had this problem once and that was for the month and a half or so i was on Effexor. Fuck that trash for a good 6 fucking weeks i couldn't get off either with a woman or with myself. Someone mentioned Wellbutrin which i sometimes take and although it does raise my libido abit (even though there is certainly nothing wrong with it as is) i always thought it was only used to treat ED caused by SSRI's/SNRI's or Ed caused by Depression. Though it does seem to raise mine even though there is nothing wrong with it. I couldn't imagine having this problem all the time so you certainly have my sympathy on this. As someone who has a few years on you (i am 34) i can say that i have heard of it in a few guys our age who don't exactly take care of themselves IE are way overweight and/or Alcoholics. So physical inactivity, being overweight and Alcohol abuse are all risk factors for getting ED.

viagra is a as needed solution, pop that bastard an hr before getting it on and it will cause an erection IME it lasted 2 hrs but YMMV
do have to get your heart tested before getting it as it will put quite a bit of strain on your heart to keep the blood pumping so you can stay erect
well thats what happen with me when i got a trial run of it

cialis on the other hand is taken once a day and it wont cause an erection on its own per say...you have to be in the setting(fore play) etc then itll increase the rate of getting an erection ten fold
well YMMV i would get random erections

again IMO i dont think anything is wrong with him as he stated he has no issues unless actually being with a woman...i think if something was truly wrong
he wouldnt be able to get erect no matter if hes alone, watching pron or with a female

idk i mean im an alcoholic and i have the libido i had back in my high school days( now 29)... still a horny bastard
but heres the weird thing...when i drink quite a bit i have no prob with erections nor stamina but i cant get off to save my life

 

[deruyityn]

I have bought some smaller size cockrings as they have worked for me before. I was really afraid of my dick falling off when I first tried them but I guess they cant be too dangerous since there are quite alot of men who use them and you would surely hear reports in daily mirror etc if such things happened alot. I think they are alot more popular with gays since they love all manner of kinky toys. I feel I have to experiment with these options now because Ive really tried the other bullshit mind over matter stuff to absolutely no avail.

As soon as my dick is hard and inside the girl then its no problem because it feels great and the sensitivity is there due to the engorgement but if I manage to stuff it in soft it is still hit or miss as to whether i can get on a roll since being soft as well as using a condom i can barely feel anything and it just squirms out like squeezing a tomato puree if i accidentally move to slightly the wrong angle . My heart really sinks when that would happen since it was a herculean effort to stuff it in even once then Im back at square one.

My dick will even be hard before I try and put it in but as soon as I start to angle it for the hole it deflates in like 3 seconds flat!

As I said if Ive fucked the same girl more than once then it is usually fine then or the odd occasion when I just felt comfortable with the girl usually if they talk alot and so i feel more on a level with them so they arent judging me.

I reckon if I can tweak my cockring game a little then it will take me to the next level then if I shag them good and we meet again then I wont have to use it. That is my current rational.