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I don't have any friends

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I'm sorry to hear that. Is there any particular reason why you find this to be the case?

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There are plenty of people out there who would love to be friends with you.
 
I know I gave up all my friends when I became an addict. I didn't want friends that didn't use. Now I don't want any friends that use. Hahaha what a change. And I don't mean friends on boards. I mean friends out here in the real world. I can't be around anything or I know I'll use.
 
JunkieDays said:
Friends will stab you in the back, and also, friends are overrated. Find peace in seclusion.

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I'd like to believe nobody truly wants to stab someone in the back. The emotion behind the action itself is what I'm talking about, I feel nobody truly want's to do negative things to anybody, the world just creates circumstances and puts people into bad positions where sometimes doing harmful and bad things seems necessary.
 
Well that's a start. Go do the things YOU want to do then. You don't have to please anyone but yourself. Then by doing what you want to do you will meet like minded people. Have a look for clubs and groups in your area that suit your interests.
 
i've only been on here a day or two registered and lurking a while and this forum is full of really nice people who are so chilled, so caring and so cool. judgemental behaviour doesnt wash here. Go to the introduce yourself page and write a bit about yourself and people can get to know you and find common ground. i'm currently smiling now because i got a lovely reply to a post :-)
 
A lot of people don't have many friends IRL. I'm lucky that I have my boyfriend and my family that I'm close to but I don't have any really good friends.
 
Making friends and keeping friends is every bit as difficult as marriage IMO but it offers a lot in return. It means making a commitment to a person long after the initial infatuation won't carry things anymore. Everybody wants to be seen for who they are but we grow in a culture that teaches more and more intricate ways to hide ourselves and lie about ourselves (even to ourselves) so friendships are hard to get to. Everybody is trying to excel, be perfect, stand out in some way. When you find someone that you can be your imperfect, flawed, natural self with it is a relief. But then you realize that you have to accept their imperfect, flawed and natural self too! Now it is more complicated.this is when it starts feeling more like a marriage and you have to decide are you in or out. I have a few friends that I decided to go very deep with. We have now been friends for years. Sometimes weeks go by and we are too busy to talk even though we all live close by. Still, when the shit hits the fan, they are there. It hasn't been easy but it has been a priority. I think it all comes down to that. You have to reach out in the first place, not get your feelings hurt or take things personally and not expect to have every need met by the other person. (Also, not sure what gender you are but I know that friendships can feel harder for guys after childhood).
 
I've had a lot of so called friends ditch my since I've tried to clean up my act lately and while it irked me at first, it's nice to find peace in seclusion with yourself. Friends are great and awesome, but at the end of the day, you're the only one inhabiting the couple of square inches between your ears. Get to know yourself and love yourself. Kind of cheesy? Yes. Difficult? Sometimes, yes. But super fucking important and the more you do it the easier it gets. You'll find your way bud, there's people out there for everybody, friends and lovers, just got to spend some time looking.
 
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