I Can't Even..

AbbeyLee

AbbeyLee

Bluelighter
Joined
Dec 24, 2019
Messages
7,663
Location
Melbourne, Australia
I am so tired of this. This is the guy I'm applying for an Intervention Order against. I can't just block him and forget about him because he's homeless and my mother is trying to help him. I need her and so he's in my life whether I like it or not.

For over two years I have told him I'm not interested. My mother has told him I'm not interested. His mother had told him I'm not interested.

I refrain from being rude and just tell him to stop and he tells me to "cheer up".


 
What can be done is journaling or compiling all of it into a harassment order or stalking. Even tho I don't stalk, harassment is not a crime in my opinion. Freedom of speech.

Then take your case file to a police officer and have them process him through court working.
Police will then attend to you. It could escalate things too. So it's not always an answer.
 
ions said:
What can be done is journaling or compiling all of it into a harassment order or stalking. Even tho I don't stalk, harassment is not a crime in my opinion. Freedom of speech.

Then take your case file to a police officer and have them process him through court working.
Police will then attend to you. It could escalate things too. So it's not always an answer.
Click to expand...
Sorry, but at some point harassment is definitely a crime.
 
ions said:
What can be done is journaling or compiling all of it into a harassment order or stalking. Even tho I don't stalk, harassment is not a crime in my opinion. Freedom of speech.

Then take your case file to a police officer and have them process him through court working.
Police will then attend to you. It could escalate things too. So it's not always an answer.
Click to expand...

Yeah, I've spoken to police and read up on it. I'm not worried about physical violence (he's turned up here before and I just refuse to open the door and tell him to go away or I'll call police. Luckily he's actually scared of them (many aren't) so he disappears.

But it's my mental health. I'm anxious enough as it is and here alone (I probably don't have to be but prefer it because in the long run less drama) and I don't need this idiot on my balcony at random hours of the day and night. The stuff I read included "psychological danger" so it's worth a shot. He's got a guy charging him with assault and had intervention orders on him before, so hopefully they take that into account.
 
He's still SMSing me. But last night I was really fragile and certain things triggered me into a rage attack.

I've got C-PTSD after 20 years of doing battle with my sociopathic ex-husband over our daughter.

<details edited out after writing because too traumatic for me to share publicly>

So I've been burnt very very very badly by men. Like a Trial by Fire. I've been single by choice for 8 years after more toxic relationships.


Anyway. This latest guy has schizophrenia and epilepsy. His mind is very damaged. My mum's trying to help him as he's homeless, but he has delusions about us being destined to be together.

When I'm more stable I can tolerate his constant messaging. Other times it makes me so angry I feel like I'm going to explode. The protection order is simply to give him the message that he is NOT allowed on my property. Like I say, he's actually scared of police (unlike my ex).
 
AbbeyLee said:
I am so tired of this. This is the guy I'm applying for an Intervention Order against. I can't just block him and forget about him because he's homeless and my mother is trying to help him. I need her and so he's in my life whether I like it or not.

For over two years I have told him I'm not interested. My mother has told him I'm not interested. His mother had told him I'm not interested.

I refrain from being rude and just tell him to stop and he tells me to "cheer up".


Click to expand...

oh yes. feel ya. this mfer who i was trying to help with a lil money began harassing tf outta me, no matter how blunt i was about not even wanting a friendship with him, he somehow got my ig account, had to block him cus he seemed like the type to start talking to ur friends and stuff, but then he got my damn phone number and thats when i had to stop helping him. u lend a hand to a mfer an they take ur foot. my patience ran out the moment he found out i was a christian an began calling me "my sister in christ" when i knew damn well he was not a christian, might sound petty to u but that was like telling me to my face that he did not respect me. i think u should block his dumb ass an tell ur mom to contact him through her own phone. u dont deserve any of it.
Having to take legal action just because someone is too stupid to take no for an answer should be ur last resort, right after violence.
 
Last edited by a moderator:
strangeaeon said:
oh yes. feel ya. this mfer who i was trying to help with a lil money began harassing tf outta me, no matter how blunt i was about not even wanting a friendship with him, he somehow got my ig account, had to block him cus he seemed like the type to start talking to ur friends and stuff, but then he got my damn phone number and thats when i had to stop helping him. u lend a hand to a mfer an they take ur foot. my patience ran out the moment he found out i was a christian an began calling me "my sister in christ" when i knew damn well he was not a christian, might sound petty to u but that was like telling me to my face that he did not respect me. i think u should block his dumb ass an tell ur mom to contact him through her own phone. u dont deserve any of it.
Having to take legal action just because someone is too stupid to take no for an answer should be ur last resort, right after violence.
Click to expand...

Hah. I actually just unblocked that guy last night (after a month). I can't get him out of my life cos my mum helps him. I felt bad for him last night cos he's living in a tent and it's getting cold and wet.

But already he's saying how he wants to do this, this and this with me 😐
 
Oh i have a technique 4 that kind of ppl but it's not nice... Make em feel uncomf when talking to u... I managed to stop another dude harassing me by saying stuff like "i dont fucking like you" but he really drove me to that.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top