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kaylee.wise

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i cant do this anymore, he already got my mom on drugs now hes ruining me and my moms relationship by manipulating her and brainwashing her basically telling lies to her about me. I hate him so much he is a bad person and hes ruining my life and messing everything up for me because im trying to stop him and save my mom but its just getting worse. How do i get rid of him out of me and my moms life? my mom is in denial because of him too =(
 
Sometimes you gotta let people figure out things for themselves. Be supportive of your mom, but dont be supportive of him.

Stick to your beliefs, never back down, but dont start a war.
 
I dont have anyone because he brainwashed everyone that was close to me, im so sick and hurt, i really dont know what to do anymore i try everything but nothing works. My life is fucked up and im going through so much pain
 
kaylee, i'm going to encourage you again to get into some kind of counseling. You need someone that can help you sort out all these stresses you are under. You have so much going on--too much for anyone to deal with on their own.<3
 
herbavore said:
kaylee, i'm going to encourage you again to get into some kind of counseling. You need someone that can help you sort out all these stresses you are under. You have so much going on--too much for anyone to deal with on their own.<3
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It sounds stupid I know and I do believe that a lot of therapists are bs and obviously jsut in it for the money. Even just talking about all this shit makes it easier to figure out in your head and actually helps, I don't know how but it just does. Stay strong and try to do something about this asap, people are here for you on bluelight. You can post anytime and if you want pm me, just for someone to talk to. I highly reccomend talking to a counsellor or someone similar. Goodluck :)
 
yeah i know i need to go to a counsler or a therapist its just hard for me to open up and speak about the topic theres so many problems for me to sayy it all it out loud it just makes me hurt more when i speak on it out loud, but i will find a way. I like it here because it is anonymous but im going to try to talk to someone and see if they can understand and help me. Thank you Herbavore, and well said OTGee thank you. Thank you to everyone who tries and helps me go through these problems i have very much appreciated.
 
Kaylee,

I hope you do follow through with the wise advice that Herbavore and OT have given you, to see a mental health professional. I will add that no one can tell anyone what to do, and that manipulative behavior is difficult. You've got friends here on BL as well - though we aren't a substitute for professional help, we can lend you an ear and a sense of encouragement.

I am confident that you will get through your problems, and I am hopeful that your family members do the same.
 
Kaylee.wise WHere abouts are you?...If you dont want to put your location (not exact, nearest large city that you have access too) on here could you PM me?

DO you have enough posts to PM? I cant remember how many you need!

As always herbavore is spot on!<3
 
OTGee said:
It sounds stupid I know and I do believe that a lot of therapists are bs and obviously jsut in it for the money. Even just talking about all this shit makes it easier to figure out in your head and actually helps, I don't know how but it just does. Stay strong and try to do something about this asap, people are here for you on bluelight. You can post anytime and if you want pm me, just for someone to talk to. I highly reccomend talking to a counsellor or someone similar. Goodluck :)
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It sounds like to me one on one counseling may not be the ticket for you Kaylee, but I will bet that for you, you should look into biofeed back sessions, where as you basically meet with people that are your peers and come from like situations. One is will help you to move on a little, you may get some great feedback and at the very least just to let you know that you are not alone in the world with problems such as these. There are also Alanon meetings and while I am not a fan personally AA type programs, Alanon may help to give you some assistance in how to deal with family members in a situation like this. I feel so bad for you Kaylee, I wish there was more I could offer you. There is no magical answers here. It's a hard place to be in, but remember you are number one, and while I know you want to be close to your mom, right now you can't so just make sure your taking care of you. All my best <3
 
How is your father forcing drugs upon your mother? I am wondering exactly what you mean, because this could mean a lot of things.
 
Mariposa thankyou im going to try to get some help proffesionally im going to try.

Miss Kirsy i will PM you.


Painenduser thankyou for taking the time to tell me the information i need for help, i will definetly look that up i appreciate you telling me about that.

Alex000 my father forces them on her from what i see, he usually brings her in the backyard, garage, or for a car ride and manipulates her to do them. He first stresses her out i noticed and gets her in a really bad upset mood so that she will want to run to them. He basically slaves her, makes her do EVERYTHING for him and doesnt appreciate anything she does. He treats her like shit and is always hurting my mom, so bad to wear she crys. I dont understand how someone can do that to a person that helps someone out like that. Thats another reason why i want to be here for her because i feel like she needs someone by her side because nobody treats her nicely. It hurts me so much to see my mom doing her own thing then him convince her to go get high. It hurts to even see her on these drugs it really does hurt me and people over here dont understand what im going through and all the pain i have because of this situation it just keeps on getting worse for me. I just dont understand.

Thank you so much for the support everyone, and im very thankful to have friends on this website that care enough to help me with such great advice.
 
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So much stress for such a young girl...I wish you could just go out with some friends of your own age and liking and have some fun instead of being the parent mate...Its like you are your mums mum!<3
Im looking into a few things kaylee.wise....Will pm you back soon...Hugs chickadee..x.x.x.
 
My wishes are with you. I hope you are looking after yourself the best you can despite the very unfortunate situation with your mother. Of course, do help your mother in ways you can, even if it seems small. I honestly don't know what I would do in your situation, but it must be a very hard one. Do what you feel is right, do what you feel you must. I really hope for you and your mom's sake that things change.

- Alex
 
Ahww thank you Alex000, yes that is what im been doing to do whats best for my mother. And i do hope and wish things will change everyday i pray. Thank you, take care and very much appreciated.
 
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