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How to find "the one"

I suppose you have to try to go out. Meet different people. Be nice, romantic. Don´t be afraid of rejection. It happens to most of us. Just be yourself. Are you fine? How´s your self esteem?
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You can't literalky force yourself to find 'the one'.

Fining the one can take many years of searching and getting to know a person.

You need to start out by socialising, have fun, get out there and think to yourself whatever happens, happens.

There is no quick fix hunni, things will happen when they are ready to happen. Love cannot be forced.
 
Steps to finding "the one":

1. Be at the point where you're happy as a single person and comfortable in your own skin.

2. Put yourself out there. If you sit at home, or don't make an effort to meet people, you reduce your chances greatly.

3. Have a bit of game. If you meet someone you like, don't puppy dog them. Don't be desperate or needy. Be confident and enthusiastic.

4. Lose the game as soon as there's a mutual love relationship and let yourself be vulnerable.

5. Tip: friends of friends can be a great source of partners.
 
1. Realize there isn't only "one".
2. Go out and meet people.
3. Meet someone that you click with. Go with it.
4. It might work out, it might not.
 
When I meet the "one" on our first date, I told her I will tell no lies or play any games with her.

You'll never find the one by waiting.
 
The one?

I have to scoff at that a bit. How many, "The one's" have you met already? How about people you know? How many "the one's" did they go through?

There is no 'the one', there is only someone. When you substitute the word it becomes "how to find someone" and suddenly everyone's posts makes sense.

Idealizing love is one of the best ways to keep having it elude you.
 
I never went looking for love. When I was a teenager I met my high school sweet heart by accident at a party and I met my fiance through trying to party but I never though "let me look for a girlfriend because i want a companion" I was always as fine as a depressed alcoholic in feeling alone at a university could be... those were not fun times but i still managed to find the love of my life.

We are two completely different people, i am into festivals and the grateful dead, shes into metal tattoos and all that goes with it. She use to be a goth back in high school and i mean like 100% dedicated to the scene. I was friends with her brother for the longest time but when i met her i hadnt even spoken to him in like 5 years. I would have never thought that the girl i knew at like 13 would be my life long friend and companion, that we would discover opiates and get clean together and dedicate so much of ourselves to each other.

My only point is if you asked me 6 years ago if i would have all of this to say, i probably would have been passed out drunk crying about how girls use me, and thats the truth. We have become so much the tail of a good relationship after what it seemed to be God trying to tear us apart with dope or crazy trials that would have destroyed anyone else only to prove our dedication to each other. I just want you to know its possible and it happens without warning when you dont expect it.
 
My friend I've been lonely for a long time and I look for that one everywhere I go even today (to an extent anyway) but well for years I looked and realized that it's most likely to happen when trying be as open as u can and wait when the time is right time will give until then don't spend time depressed looking for her/him every single second until then distract yourself from it you know things like hobby's or drugs or something the people above have good methods of being an option for girls so if looking try them but remember be patient and don't bring yourself into depression I'm right now taking meds for depression actually (Zoloft) and other than some personal issues that was part of it so cheer up and good luck my friend

-Streetcow
 
My friend I've been lonely for a long time and I look for that one everywhere I go even today (to an extent anyway) but well for years I looked and realized that it's most likely to happen when trying be as open as u can and wait when the time is right time will give until then don't spend time depressed looking for her/him every single second until then distract yourself from it you know things like hobby's or drugs or something the people above have good methods of being an option for girls so if looking try them but remember be patient and don't bring yourself into depression I'm right now taking meds for depression actually (Zoloft) and other than some personal issues that was part of it so cheer up and good luck my friend

-Streetcow

Sure. With me it happened while I wasn't looking, and I feel like it can happen anytime to anyone. A very practical example of how things work sometimes is how it does with practical issues such as looking for work. I have always found the best jobs while I was already working on something else.
Although I do not want to compare love with work AT ALL. The principle may be alike, while you are distracted doing other things love may just find you.
You have to put yourself out there. Go out. Learn to live with yourself and be fine with it.
It may just happen when you least expect.
 
If you treat or think every date is "the one" - it'll never be. And there is more "ones" out there than just one. Any time I have fallen in love, which I only count a few times out of 140+, it was when I wasn't looking. As compared to dating women who I thought would be GF/marriage material.
 
Yep! It´s a natural process and it may just happen out of the blue. You are young. Do your part, like go out have fun, etc and let it be.
:)
 
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