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How many good friends can you say you have (in real life) ?

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I can honestly say only about 2 (and that may be stretching it if I think deeply about it), which is somewhat regretful. The rest I have to, in all honesty, consider friends/good aquaintances. Would just like do get a general idea on this site.

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Difficult question.

I have several friends who I used to be very close with, but now we live in different countries/continents, so it can often be difficult to stay close. But we do keep in touch and call each other on birthdays and such.

I'd say maybe 3-4, but that's probably stretching it a little. I think it's pretty common in our age to typically have less good friends and more buddies/acquaintances etc.
 
I have got one real good friend who I have known for nearly 20years. Quality over quantity any day.
 
i think there was a study done awhile ago that says you only have room in your brain for 150 relationships in varying degrees. after that it gets to be too much and none of them really mean anything. so at any given point, you could have 10 extremely close friends, 20 friends, 30 acquaintances, etc etc. but only 150.
 
A handful after learning the hard way. I learned quantity isn't worth over quality, and very few people don't have motives.
 
i have about 5 or 6 friends that i would consider really good friends. these are people that will do anything they can to help me if i am in a bind and i would do the same for them. we have all known each other for a long time and our friendships have been the one constant in most of our lives.

i have a large network of friends and acquaintances too.
 
ya definatly quality over quanity..i have way more acquaintances than friends, but true friends less than 5
 
Right now I have ZERO friends IRL that live within 2,000 miles. And then even those that are far away are only 2 that I consider close friends.

No IRL acquaintances where I live and just a handful of co-workers.
 
I would say I have 2 or 3 really good friends. Like most of you guys, I'll take quality over quantity. There's a few more people I'm good friends with, but I can see myself losing contact with them once college is over.
 
good friends probably 5-7. just about all of them i have been friends with for 20+ years.

i used to be overwhelmed with friends but people grow up, get married, have kids, and slow down.
 
I actually have more good friends now at 38 than I did in my twenties. Still just a handful though - probably five or six good friends that I am completely open with, then a handful of people who I like but don't really have a strong relationship with, then no-one, it tails off quick, and I like it that way. I don't like spreading myself thinly.

Best thing about them is the variety, some of them go way back and are the same age as me or older, while I'm also good friends with a guy in his early twenties and another guy who just hit 30 and we've known each other for a few years. Some are a short drive away while others live across the sea. Some are super intelligent, others are fuckwits. They all like drugs though! Haha.
 
I only have about 3 good friends I can depend on, but I don't stay in touch with them as much as I should. I have some acquaintances I hangout with, but I feel like they're using me or we're just together for mutual benefit. I don't really trust most of my friends that I used to hang out with so I don't bother trying to keep in touch with them. I hate rejection and being let down, so I do everything I can to avoid it. It's quite self destructive. The best friend I ever had died in 2007, and since then I've been very reclusive for whatever reason.. I can't help but compare my other friends to him and no one really stacks up in the same way.

I have a few really good friends I've met online. I've only met them a few times, but they've helped me out a lot in life and I'd love to hangout with them more if we didn't live so far away.

I'm going to be moving away soon and I hope to make some new friends. I'll miss my family but I think I really need to start over like I am. It will be good for me. I have lived in rural towns in MA and NH my entire life so this will be a huge change for me.
 
I have probably only 2 or 3 friends that I actually TRUST 100%. The rest i would consider just "friends"
 
I have 4 really close friends. And many friends that I see occasionally.
 
many of my closest friends i don't see for years at a time. the fact that we continue to care for each other marks the truth of each of these friendships, despite the lack of actual contact.
 
with me its weird, I have 3 friends who I consider really close friends, 4 if you count my girlfriend but to me thats different, so 3.

the thing is, 2 out of those 3 I really only see once or twice every couple of months, on the lesser side when school is in. This makes me sad sometimes but I find it hard to hang out with them as much as I would like because getting fucked up rules so much of there life while responsibilities like school/work rule mine. The third I see more frequently than them but its more because his gf and mine are friends too, so its easy to double date. Its the other 2 I miss.

Sometimes I wonder if getting fucked up was the only thing we had in common, but then I know thats not true. we were best friends since freshman year of highschool, and now at 22 im finally transfering to a university and they still are getting thrown in the drunk tank every night.

deep down we still care for each other like we always have, but the fact remains that im moving away soon, theres an unspoken hurt on their side that I dont hang out as much and an unspoken guilt on my side to.
one of them i know will die young from alcohol, I worry about him.

it just sucks growing up, i miss the days when all 4 of us were like just a little group of punk juveniles without a care in the world.

L2R said:
many of my closest friends i don't see for years at a time. the fact that we continue to care for each other marks the truth of each of these friendships, despite the lack of actual contact.
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I like this,
 
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I have only one friend, and that is my dog. My family is family, and that is more valuable to me than anything else.
 
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