How do i get my friend to be safer? please help

[nancy145]

my friend does a lot of drugs and so do i but im really worried about her now because shes doing really dangerous things. the other day she took 40mg of oxycodone, and when i asked why she said she guessed it was the right amount. she knows i know how much is safe and she knows she can ask me and she knows she can just google how much is safe but she doesnt, she just guesses. she isnt suicidal or depressed or anything, she just doesnt seem to care if she dies. shes always happy and i know shed tell me if she wasnt, it just seems like she isnt really comprehending the fact that death is bad. and shes doing opiods and ampthetamines enough to get addicted, and she couldnt even quit smoking after only 5 months. how the hell is she gonna quit opiods or ampthetamines? i tell her all of this, that shes gonna overdose or get addicted, and she says "im sorry" and "i know better now" and "ill be fine i wont do it again" but she keeps doing the same dumb dangerous stuff. i dont mind her doing drugs, i just wish shed take safe amounts and space it out so she doesnt get addicted. is there any way i could help her? i just dont know what to do anymore, im worried one day ill go into school and ask where she is and then get a funeral invitation as an answer. and im worried shes gonna ruin her life, she has stright As, is a really nice person, and is really attractive too. shes got a great life ahead of her, but not if she ends up going to rehab instead of colledge. please, can someone tell me any way i can help her?

 

[nygiants1313]

If she doesn't care about herself enough to be careful with drugs all you can do is try and educate her, and caution Her with words. There is not much you can do if someone doesn't their life while putting dangerous drugs in to their bodies.

good luck

 

[T. Calderone]

I know people like this that indulge recklessly and really don't heed my advice. Sometimes it takes a bad experience to get someone to slow down, others just never learn. Has she been using for a long time? Just keep talking to her and let her know you're still her friend even if she does stupid things with drugs.

 

[herbavore]

is it possible that the life that looks perfect to others (from the outside) does not feel perfect to her. It is very hard to be scared of death when someone is young--it's an abstract and that's why using the fear of death usually never works to stop anyone doing something dangerous--and sometimes it is that very risk that makes it attractive.

I can only imagine how hard this is for you. All you can do is to keep being honest with her. If you share a lot of non-drug interests and activities, keep those up. Maybe even suggest something new that you two could try together. A lot of people get in over their heads with drug use from simple boredom.

 

[neversickanymore]

I would try and introduce and get her fired up about harm reduction. Maybe turn her onto BL.

 

[herbavore]

^Really?? My son's drug using friends literally knocked on his door for months trying to get him to see what he was doing when it was obvious that it had gotten way beyond his control. He died. Their concern was genuine and came from the fact that they loved him. Knowing that those kids were trying to help him means a lot to me.

 

[nancy145]

I think u should let her make her own decisions and mind your own business..its her life and not your responsibility to hold her hand..your doin drugs too and if one of my drug user friends came at me about using drugs id laugh in their face..just because she uses more than you its not a problem..worry about yourself

i know its her choice, im not forcing her to do anything. im not telling her parents, im not calling the cops,im just trying to get her to be more careful. if she wants to do oxycodone, she can do oxycodone. im just trying to tell her not to guess whats a safe dose instead of asking me or a site like bluelight or even google. im trying to tell her she can get addicted to oxy,along with most of the other things shes doing, and she should make an account on a site like bluelight and ask for advice from addicts and ex addicts. im not making her choices for her, im just trying to tell her to be safer and less reckless.

 

[P.o.T.u.S]

Then tell her to join bluelight..i dont really see what u can do besides give her the information and tell her to be careful..people are goin to do what they wanna do..all u can do is educate and give them support if they need it..i thought u were worried about how much she is dosing and that she was using more often then what u think is reasonable..not her dosing without knowing whats safe..thats my bad..lil messed up last night when i read your post 8(