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How do I ask her?

So I just met this new girl and we have hung out twice. I am having a roll party soon and want her to try it she has never rolled but I dont know how to bring it up to her any advice? Thanks

You are aware she's never done MDMA, so you must have had at least a brief conversation about the topic.

MDMA is a very important part of my life, and my first year of doing it, I let every single friend I had know that I really wanted them to try it- I was extremely passionate about sharing this experience with everyone I cared about. Now, I can contain myself, and I have only done MDMA twice this year, but I accept that though it's helped my personal development a lot, and I enjoy it tremendously, it's a very serious thing to propose to friends and family, and (unfortunately) due the legal status of it, as well as the social/political view of it- it's not something to offer to newer friends who may not be OK with it.

That said, it's your judgement call if you want to do this with her. Ask yourself why you do, and what the outcome would be- MDMA can be extremely alluring to do and do and do and do to a new user, are you prepared to tell her "no" if she wants to do this every weekend? Also, be honest with yourself- do you feel this is a way of bringing you much closer to her in a short period of time? Do you feel that maybe her discovering MDMA and loving it will make her a bit more dependent on you, which you'd like? I do not ask you as an attack- these are questions you really need to ask yourself. I myself have introduced MDMA to many friends, and there are still a few (to this day) I wish weren't so attached to me, and always wanting to include themselves in my "roll friendly" activities.

Also, ask yourself if you are ready for the variables that a first time experience may have- MDMA causes people to be very emotionally open for the first time, and this may cause her to tell you information about her past that you are not comfortable with. You take on a huge responsibility and role as the introducer to MDMA sometimes, and though the closeness may seem like a great, and alluring idea, it may be too much for you to take on as well.

Also keep the scenario in mind- this is a roll party. There will be strangers to her there on MDMA, and probably other things she isn't familiar with. There will be all sorts of conversations and activities that are odd to someone who isn't an MDMA user or familiar with this (amazing) family of drugs. I know at my roll parties, I'm walking around massaging people, standing cheek to cheek with people getting light shows, petting the carpet, cuddling my friends girlfriend/boyfriend, talking about super personal, emotional stuff etc- that would be a bit odd to someone who is completely unfamiliar with this culture. Frightening perhaps.

I would love to share MDMA with the world, I think it's absolutely profound and necessary experience for those medically and emotionally healthy enough to enjoy it. That said, in reality, there are huge consequences for bringing someone new into this world. MDMA has the capability of achieving just as much as it can destroy for some people.
 
Well thanks for the advice peeps, the for it and against it. Thats what I was looking for different perspectives on it. I am going to go ahead and get to know her a little more and bring it up here and there and get a better idea of where she is at on it. I guess I just got a little excited because I just met her and i have a roll party around the corner. So slow and steady I think will be the answer here. Thanks again though for the input I appreciate it!=D PLUR
 
Honestly, I'd say your best bet would be to inform her about everything that is MDMA. From what kind of buzz you get to drinking lots of water to how it affects your brain. Show her that you know wtf you're talking about and what you're taking and she'll probably take you more seriously than if you just go "Here! Pop these pills with me!"
 
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