How common is it for young adults to get kicked out by family with nowhere to go?

[cowardescent]

Might be getting kicked out in September (won't go into to much details). My mother went to the police station and they said I'd have to leave regardless if I didn't have anywhere to go. Not really worried but I'm wondering is it uncommon for this to happen to people my age (20).

Some of my classmates that I've talked to on Facebook said that they've never heard of this happening unless someone has an argument with their parents and voluntarily leaves, never kicked out. Is this true?

 

[EPL1]

I wouldn't say it's unusual to try to get young adolescents to leave the home, but the going to police first is definitely not usual.

Why did she feel she had to go to the police?

i'm glad you're not really worried, however, if I were you, I would start looking for a cheap room to rent or a friend to stay with now. You still have a month and a half to find a place.

I wish you the best,
Ash.

 

[Mafioso]

It does happen, although idk if it's exactly common. there was a court case in NY about two parents who were filling to have their son evicted and he was countering to try and stay longer.

Was there a reason she went to the cops? Like were you two arguing before or do you have trouble communicating?

 

[Chronicpain54]

All families are different. We were told our entire lives that when we graduated from high school we had six months and then we had to move out. There were six of us kids and we all moved out at the age of 17 to 18.

I've no doubt that if we did not move out that my mother would have forced us out. So at the age of 20 I would assume that you are either going to college or you are working or doing something.

I haven't seen a case of a parent kicking out an underage child but at the age of 20 I feel like the person would be plenty old enough to make it on their own.

But again, that's just the way my siblings were raised so like I said, every family is different.

In some cultures they want their children to live at home forever. I personally would have loved if my kids stayed home longer but they either went to college or the Marines so they all left by 18.

 

[spacejunk]

Sadly this stuff does happen, and probably more than people think. This is how some people begin a life of homelessness.
I've had friends that experienced it. Some of them landed on their feet, some couch-surfed in various friends' places and squats - and other friends who moved in with people they were dating who weren't really right for them, but they sought the sense of stability - and the place to stay - that the relationshop provided.
That often gets really fucking messy those people.

Some thoughts;

You've not given much context.
it sounds like a pretty unhealthy situation. If i were you, i would be plotting my escape. Do you have a job?
If not, whatever you can to find work (anything you can do) because you don't want to need to rely on your friends' charity.
It's not a long term solution - even if you do have people that can put you up, it'll really test the friendship.
And if you're relying on friends, you'll end up losing friends - and leave you utterly fucked.

The thing about homelessness is that it's really tough to dig yourself out of - it makes it all the more difficult to get work, find friends who'll let you sleep on their couch.

This seems like a pretty big hint - time to move out. If you can get a job behind a bar, flipping burgers, waiting tables, doing office temp work or whatever - and find a place to stay where you won't have to deal with this kinda shit.

 

[Soso78]

Well it's happening to you isn't it.
Usually it's down to the cunt factor, either you or your parents are probably cunts. Possibly your all cunts, it's hard to tell.
I would be able to tell you if I had more information.

 

[cowardescent]

No, I'm looking for one now. Don't have any friends and my parents only moved to this country.

 

[washingtonbound]

More common than you might think, especially if there are drugs involved. Happened to me when I was 21, Mom was going to cops as well when she found out I was taking acid.

Try not to let it form a negative perception of yourself, perhaps also try talking to your family about what the crux of the issue is, and convey that you’d be open to other options.

I ended up having to go to rehab and a 3 month inpatient program after that but then I was allowed back in the house. I felt it was a bit over the top, but when you are living with family you have to abide by their rules & regulations.

 

[Asclepius]

No, I'm looking for one now. Don't have any friends and my parents only moved to this country.

Happened to me at about the same age but I was a bit oblivious to the problems att.

Find some agencies ( any social and health agencies) to connect with ASAP. Look for mediation and aim to reconcile difficulties with your folks, if possible - without friends to rely on you dont want to be in a powerless situation where you rely on people who can undermine you further.

Like Spacejunk mentioned, it is wise to take this situation seriously, for your own welfare's sake - your folks may be taking desperate measures, simply and ignorantly from their own perspective; not realising what they are subjecting you to but you need to start taking your own situation and welfare very, seriously now.

Let us know what measures you're taking, yeah?