Hi, I'm new here.

[keiko14]

Hi everyone,

I'm new here. I am currently experiencing my boyfriend's first relapse since we've been together and it has been very difficult for me. I wrote a longer post about it here and would appreciate any replies or just hearing from others in general. I'm looking for a place where I can find support and maybe help others too, and I hope it is here at Bluelight.

 

[Mr.Scagnattie]

Welcome to BL.. sorry to hear about your boyfriend's relapse.. it's an unfortunate part of recovery and a lot of us are constantly falling off and on the wagon before we get it right. Props for sticking with him through all of it. I know it's not easy.

 

[keiko14]

Welcome to BL.. sorry to hear about your boyfriend's relapse.. it's an unfortunate part of recovery and a lot of us are constantly falling off and on the wagon before we get it right. Props for sticking with him through all of it. I know it's not easy.

Thank you. Dealing with his relapse has been very lonely so your reply means a lot to me. Unfortunately, I understand and have seen him relapse a couple of times since knowing him. I do hope you are right and then he can find a way to 'get it right'.

 

[MarshmallowKitten]

Welcome to BL keiko. I can only imagine how hard it is for you to have to watch him struggle with his addiction. He is lucky to have a wonderful woman by his side to give support and help him get through this. Hopefully we can help support you a bit as you both work through this tough time. Big e-hugs and lots of positive thoughts headed your way. Stay strong girl!

 

[keiko14]

Thank you! There is a part of me that wants to stay by his side, but I am wondering if that is the right thing to do at the moment while he is in treatment. I know I can't find all of the answers here but your support means a lot to me.

 

[bronson]

Welcome to bL. I've seen close friend in relationships go through similar thing before, so while I can't personally relate, I know how tough what you're going through is. In addition be sure to check out The Dark Side. They have a great group of understanding posters, and it might be a good idea to talk about things you can do for yourself personally. Sometimes you have to put yourself first, even above people you care very much about. It's not selfish, it's healthy.

Also if you ever want to talk in private I'm willing to lend an ear and share what my close friends have been through, I'd just not feel right doing it publicly. Simply click the PM link in my signature.

The very best to you and yours and I hope to hear things improve soon.

 

[keiko14]

Welcome to bL. I've seen close friend in relationships go through similar thing before, so while I can't personally relate, I know how tough what you're going through is. In addition be sure to check out The Dark Side.

Hi bronson, thank you for replying and reaching out to me. It's nice to hear from others who can relate on some level. I have some wonderful friends in my life who are very supportive, but I feel this subject makes them uncomfortable. In such a short time, BL has been very welcoming, and I read quite a few Dark Side posts as well. It's helpful yet very hard to read what my boyfriend might be feeling. I wish I could do more for him.

 

[stellablue]

I agree with Bronson TDS is a great place for you to go for support and to ask people like your boyfriend their advice. Let us know or PM one of us if you need anything. Welcome to Bluelight.

 

[keiko14]

I agree with Bronson TDS is a great place for you to go for support and to ask people like your boyfriend their advice. Let us know or PM one of us if you need anything. Welcome to Bluelight.

Thank you for the welcome, stella, and please feel that you can do the same. I have been considering counseling for myself as well, thanks to everyone's encouragement.