Subject her to witnessing her father under the influence. She is too young to understand, but in a couple of years she will. Also witnessing fights, me crying etc. I try not to fight with her around, but it's easier said then done unfortunately.Subject him/her to what, exactly?
Yes, I am very resentful. I resent him for not keeping his promises and I resent myself for not getting out when I probably should have. I chose to bring a child into the equation on the belief that he would follow through on his promises. He had come so far already, how hard could it be right?you sound bitter and resentful but you have chosen to be a partner to this man for twelve years and then bring a child into the equation.
Bitter partnerships are toxic for children. It is almost never just one parent who is at fault. As harsh as this may sound, it seems like you should have made your decision (to leave) before bringing a child into the equation.
He has been taking anti depressants for a few months now. He says they seem to be helping slightly.So that's a plus I guess. He loves his child with all his heart. He loves me the same and he treats us well (apart from the dishonesty)It sounds to me like he has issues (depression/anxiety). A lot of people with mental health issues want to live a sober life but find sober living too painful. These people are often extremely sensitive and caring. Does he love his child? Does he treat you and the child well?
Yes, he is wonderful when sober and I love him very much. But after all the lies and deceit I wonder if I will ever be able to trust him again. So many lies for so long. I am not comfortable with allowing him to continue to use. He just wants to work and come home to us, that's what he tells me.Surely you would know about his good characteristics after being with him for so long. Is it possible that you are creating a drama by trying to force him into something when in fact he might well be a wonderful yet damaged individual? Would cutting him off be better for the child, or for you?
No poledriver, I named it after my partner. Seems ironic now hey.Hi, xuser, does your nic indicate you used to be a user as well?