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Going on a "first date"

PortalFloyd

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So I recently got in touch with a guy I used to work with like 3 years ago. We're going for drinks tonight at a local pub. We've had drinks together in the past and they have always led to a great night...

We have a lot in common, but I'm very nervous and excited about seeing him after 3 years, I mean a lot can change on both ends. Basically any tips for the date tonight/or for hooking up...to put it bluntly.

Thanks! :)
 
Just be yourself and don't go over board trying to impress him more. He already likes you (from what I can understand) and if you are saying you have a lot in common, it should turn out to be another great night! Goodluck! ;)
 
It's certainly a nice change of pace for the woman to contribute like that. I go into every date fully expecting to pay for it all, and I insist on it. But if a chick is persistent enough, I'll concede. I find it rather charming (and easier on the wallet =D). Definitely a sign of a quality girl IMO.

Make a joke like, if you get the first round, the second's on me, but then the next eight are all you :P
 
It's certainly a nice change of pace for the woman to contribute like that. I go into every date fully expecting to pay for it all, and I insist on it. But if a chick is persistent enough, I'll concede. I find it rather charming (and easier on the wallet =D). Definitely a sign of a quality girl IMO.

Make a joke like, if you get the first round, the second's on me, but then the next eight are all you :P

HA! The last time we were out 3 years ago was with coworkers and we all paid for our own drinks, that wasn't considered a date though. I was going to chip in for sure, that's just how I am, and at least pay for a few drinks. Any tips on how to continue the night?
 
Whaaaat, don't pay for your own drinks! That's lame. He's suppose to pay for them--that's why it's called a date. I feel like if you insist on paying for your own drinks or buying every other round--it seems more like friends hanging out vs a date.
 
be yourself. don't be tempted to plan ahead what's going to happen and start second-guessing his responses and changing your behavior in return. in short, don't overthink it.

alasdair
 
Whaaaat, don't pay for your own drinks! That's lame. He's suppose to pay for them--that's why it's called a date. I feel like if you insist on paying for your own drinks or buying every other round--it seems more like friends hanging out vs a date.
Screw that! We expect to pay for everything, so we really appreciate a girl buying a round here and there. Not every other though.
 
Whaaaat, don't pay for your own drinks! That's lame. He's suppose to pay for them--that's why it's called a date. I feel like if you insist on paying for your own drinks or buying every other round--it seems more like friends hanging out vs a date.

The idea of a date is not to get free drinks/meal out of the other party. If PF wants to pay for their drinks it's their choice, but of course it'd be welcome if the other party offers.

It's a rather selfish notion that males have to pay for everything during the dating process.
 
I hate it when the guy is expected to pay for everything.
Girls - chip in! You don't have to pay for half, but pay for something!!!
Like if you're buying drinks, don't make sure that you're buying every other round, let him start off and then buy the second or third round. The guy will appreciate it.

My boyfriend hates it when I pay when we go out, but I've convinced him that I"ll pay "on occasion". He also does make more money than me so that's how he convinces me I don't have to pay for more.
 
I asked my bf and he agrees with me (smart man.. lol). But seriously, I buy my boyfriend stuff all the time and have nothing against buying stuff or picking up the tab here and there. But as a first date? It just seems weird. Idk, maybe that's just me. :shrug:
 
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