God.... Dammit.

[duckbin]

I haven't seen my ex girlfriend in about 2 months, she finally comes over today (I haven't came in over 3 days)
I snort an 8mg subutex so I can last longer in bed, but since I'm stabilized on subutex, i didn't really feel it so the "dope-dick" wasn't really there.

we start having sex, I IMMEDIATELY feel the urge to blow my load, I pull out, tell her to get on her stomach, I'm getting softer and softer, I can barely fuck her now, I'm so pissed at this point. With a semi-soft dick, I premature ejaculate in 2 minutes. Usually when I do subutex I can last at least 45-60 minutes, or at least I used to.
we had sex bareback, and I'm uncut.

What can I do to help this. I get nervous about not cumming too quickly so I get ED. Just my F-ing luck....

EDIT: Someone care to tell me why I'm such a loser? I've been trying to get this girl to see me for weeks, finally it happens and I dissapoint. I used to do a bag of heroin and fuck this girl until she cried.

 

[Cohesion]

In my extensive experience, drugs will make sex hit-and-miss.

 

[psytaco]

yeah try it sober. It generally makes for less performance problems. Not that I use opiates regularly, but I have found they can lead to erectile dysfunction or not being able to blow.

Alot of what you are going to is psychological. I know this isn't much help but try not to stress about it whilst having sex. There was a time when I was blowing after 5 minutes or so. The more I thought about it the more likely it was to happen. It went away after a while. If you can figure out a way to do it, don't stress about it and try not to think about it.

 

[purplefirefly]

You really should try sober sex, chemicals (of any sort, including alcohol) seem to really mess with the ability to perform. Even though I'm a woman, I have experienced issues with my ability to have sex and orgasm if I'm on anything or when I'm drinking. Sex is also largely psychological and it sounds like you are putting a whole lot of pressure on yourself. Try to relax, if you can.

 

[duckbin]

I'm an opiate addict. If I were to try jacking off during withdrawal, I could cum in under 15 seconds. While on heroin, I can last a good 2 hours or so.
Maybe I need to get off this shit once and for all.

EDIT: purplefirefly, yeah that's exactly what happened, I was nervous about premature ejaculation, which in turn got me soft.
So... so embarrassing...

 

[Disraeli_Beers]

Opiates play havoc on your limbic system. If you're going to use them for any length of time you should get used to having a weird sex life.

That being said it took me about 6 months off opiates to get back to normal sexual function.

Might want to consider kickin the opiate habit, but if you're stabilized on subs I wouldn't say it's any reason to jump off or rush it. I know many people on subs find they get some of the negatives, such as sexual dysfunction, but none of the high of a full agonist.

You could always try edging and some of the other ways to boost sexual stamina.

But it can definitely mess with your confidence too, at least when you have dope dick you're high.

Gotta love the moment after you but prematurely becuse you're brain is opiate deprived, always fun afterwards

Go again after a cig? 8)

 

[llama112]

It happens sometimes. Especially with drug use.
When my bf and I tried to have sex for the first time (completely sober, I didn't use drugs at that point and he didn't use them around me), he could NOT get hard. He told me later how embarrassing it was lol. It wasn't a big deal though. It happens from time to time.

 

[amnesiaseizure]

I haven't seen my ex girlfriend in about 2 months, she finally comes over today (I haven't came in over 3 days)
I snort an 8mg subutex so I can last longer in bed, but since I'm stabilized on subutex, i didn't really feel it so the "dope-dick" wasn't really there.

we start having sex, I IMMEDIATELY feel the urge to blow my load, I pull out, tell her to get on her stomach, I'm getting softer and softer, I can barely fuck her now, I'm so pissed at this point. With a semi-soft dick, I premature ejaculate in 2 minutes. Usually when I do subutex I can last at least 45-60 minutes, or at least I used to.
we had sex bareback, and I'm uncut.

What can I do to help this. I get nervous about not cumming too quickly so I get ED. Just my F-ing luck....

EDIT: Someone care to tell me why I'm such a loser? I've been trying to get this girl to see me for weeks, finally it happens and I dissapoint. I used to do a bag of heroin and fuck this girl until she cried.

Don't worry so much. If you've "fucked her till she cried" in the past then I'm sure she'll forgive and understand a limp willy here and there. Sex needs to just be about having fun not full of underlying pressures so try moving towards that ideal through communication and practice. But yeah, coming off the subutex will certainly help. I'm currently taking just 3.2mg and it definitely lowers my libido somewhat. Going the step further of using opiates to control when you orgasm is a step too far imo. Tell her you're embarrassed when you either cum early or not at all and talk about it to find a solution.