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MissBehavin'_416
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My understanding is that you might like her more than she likes you. Coming from another girl, you're pretty much fucked if you're tiny. No one likes a small dick. Now I don't know how big you are, but I hope you're not a micro-penis sporter. It's very true that vaginas vary in size as well. We can be born that way, or the number of sexual intercourses makes them as such. It can tighten up with abstinence.
Don't leave her just yet. Try experimenting with different positions before you guys separate, if sexual intimacy is what you want. If sex isn't even that important to you after all, like you stated, and she's not interested, then I don't even see a reason to do it in the first place. Sex is very important to some, and really not that important to others. There are other things you guys can do. Don't do it just because other people are doing it.
Don't leave her just yet. Try experimenting with different positions before you guys separate, if sexual intimacy is what you want. If sex isn't even that important to you after all, like you stated, and she's not interested, then I don't even see a reason to do it in the first place. Sex is very important to some, and really not that important to others. There are other things you guys can do. Don't do it just because other people are doing it.
Lots of good advice here. My advice in these scenarios sounds like this:
Your best weapon is indifference. Your best revenge is to live a good life.
If she is indifferent towards you, she is controlling you. First, get out of this relationship. It isn't going to turn around. Sexual incompatibilities are one thing; a lack of intimacy and emotion is completely another. People that have the intimacy and closeness, can work through the sexual incompatibilities, because they have a desire to. She totally lacks this desire, and all this is going to do is diminish your confidence. Seriously, small dicks mean nada. You will find a nice ripe vagina somewhere else.
Once you get the cojones to get out of this relationship, you turn the tides by remaining indifferent. You can cry and sob all you want to friends and family, and alone...until you get over it. But she NEVER gets to see you like that. When she texts, you reply with one or two words. "I'm fine." "Ok." "Wish you well." Or even better yet, nothing at all.
The indifference does a number of things, including turning the tables. She will wonder why she doesn't have that control over you anymore. But most importantly, it empowers you and makes you feel strong and in control. You realize, you have control over the emotional aspect of this situation. That will make you feel a million times better about yourself.
Finally, get revenge by living a good life. 5 years down the road, you want her to look at you and say "well damn. I lost a good one." Get healthy, be successful, develop a hobby. Just do things that are good for you and your life. Create positive habits. Go back to school. Get a gym membership. Buy a mountain bike. Pick up the guitar. Whatever man, just live a good life. These are all things you can control. He cuntish attitude and lack of respect are things you can not control; and if you continue to place yourself in that scenario, then you will continue to submit yourself to a scenario that will only serve to break you.
Get out. Don't look back. Live well. It's really that simple. The processes in between may take time, but really, it's that simple.
Your best weapon is indifference. Your best revenge is to live a good life.
If she is indifferent towards you, she is controlling you. First, get out of this relationship. It isn't going to turn around. Sexual incompatibilities are one thing; a lack of intimacy and emotion is completely another. People that have the intimacy and closeness, can work through the sexual incompatibilities, because they have a desire to. She totally lacks this desire, and all this is going to do is diminish your confidence. Seriously, small dicks mean nada. You will find a nice ripe vagina somewhere else.
Once you get the cojones to get out of this relationship, you turn the tides by remaining indifferent. You can cry and sob all you want to friends and family, and alone...until you get over it. But she NEVER gets to see you like that. When she texts, you reply with one or two words. "I'm fine." "Ok." "Wish you well." Or even better yet, nothing at all.
The indifference does a number of things, including turning the tables. She will wonder why she doesn't have that control over you anymore. But most importantly, it empowers you and makes you feel strong and in control. You realize, you have control over the emotional aspect of this situation. That will make you feel a million times better about yourself.
Finally, get revenge by living a good life. 5 years down the road, you want her to look at you and say "well damn. I lost a good one." Get healthy, be successful, develop a hobby. Just do things that are good for you and your life. Create positive habits. Go back to school. Get a gym membership. Buy a mountain bike. Pick up the guitar. Whatever man, just live a good life. These are all things you can control. He cuntish attitude and lack of respect are things you can not control; and if you continue to place yourself in that scenario, then you will continue to submit yourself to a scenario that will only serve to break you.
Get out. Don't look back. Live well. It's really that simple. The processes in between may take time, but really, it's that simple.
TacototheCloud
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I'm sorry but she sounds like a bitch and a waste of your time OP. Your significant other should never say demeaning things to you like that... even if your penis is "small" she could have chosen a much better way to bring up the lack of sensation she has been experiencing. You guys could have experimented with positions, toys, oral sex, manual stimulation, etc. There are so many different ways to please your partner. IMO it sounds like you were trying to find ways to pleasure her and she didn't want to reciprocate. This is NOT the type of girl you want to spend your time with, let alone your life! You need to get out there and find a girl who actually cares about you and takes the time to make sex pleasurable for BOTH of you. There are women out there like this... I promise you. Don't waste one more second on this selfish twat! Sex should be intimate and fun, not selfish or demeaning.
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I used to shortly be with a girl who had a loose vagina after giving birth to her second child. It was loose enough so that I was losing my erection a few moments after I got into her, because honestly speaking I didn't feel anything at all. I even tried suggesting her that I need a little bit of help but seeing that she could never really understand what I was saying between the lines, I'm sure she didn't know what was going on during our two intercourses either. We matched neither emotionally nor physically. When I'm in a relationship, I need a girl and myself to be equal in everything and she was that type who does best with a man completely dominating her and who would also be the only active side in bed. She would repeatedly say that she doesn't change because she simply is that way. I'm a very emotional guy and I need a lot of intimacy, and I guess she mistook that for me being so into her that I would basically accept just about anything. She was so sure of herself. I broke up with her right after she confirmed with her actions that she's not mature enough to have a serious relationship, no second thoughts. It's been over a year since then and she still wants me to get back to her. I actually feel sorry for her because she basically ruined her life by getting pregnant with the wrong guy at a very young age, but that's a different story.
With that being said, loose vaginas are as real as small penises and if your girlfriend doesn't treat you seriously (it's actually much more than that in this case), then simply break up because there are so many girls out there who you would be much happier with and they'd be happy with you. The first love is unique because you just don't have anything to compare it to, so it can be very illusive. You can't also really know whether sex is important for you or not after one terrible relationship, I can imagine you could get a lot of pleasure sharing pleasure with another girl.
I know this thread is a few months old and the OP isn't even registered but perhaps he still reads it. If you want to meet a girl who you would have a happy relationship with, ironically you shouldn't think about finding love at all. Romantic love between a man and a woman hardly exists without lust, you can have lust without love but I doubt that you can have romantic love without lust (I certainly can't and I'm not that much into loveless sex). Focus on meeting girls that you feel comfortable around and can talk to without being anxious, if you feel at ease being around someone, you will also feel at ease having sex with them and it will give both of you much more pleasure. You can't have love without having friendship, so you should first focus to find a girl who you can be friends with and then perhaps love will follow at some point.
With that being said, loose vaginas are as real as small penises and if your girlfriend doesn't treat you seriously (it's actually much more than that in this case), then simply break up because there are so many girls out there who you would be much happier with and they'd be happy with you. The first love is unique because you just don't have anything to compare it to, so it can be very illusive. You can't also really know whether sex is important for you or not after one terrible relationship, I can imagine you could get a lot of pleasure sharing pleasure with another girl.
I know this thread is a few months old and the OP isn't even registered but perhaps he still reads it. If you want to meet a girl who you would have a happy relationship with, ironically you shouldn't think about finding love at all. Romantic love between a man and a woman hardly exists without lust, you can have lust without love but I doubt that you can have romantic love without lust (I certainly can't and I'm not that much into loveless sex). Focus on meeting girls that you feel comfortable around and can talk to without being anxious, if you feel at ease being around someone, you will also feel at ease having sex with them and it will give both of you much more pleasure. You can't have love without having friendship, so you should first focus to find a girl who you can be friends with and then perhaps love will follow at some point.
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baggerr
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You clearly missed the point of the post. The extra stitch comment was meant as humor for the post, not something to actually say unless she's being a bitch about your size. Because you cant make your dick any bigger. Chicks can get bigger boobs, botox, a stitch lol to enhance things, we cant do that. It goes both ways, it really isnt all about the size of the dick. Porn, ego and men always wanting, needing to be better, bigger, faster, stronger, taller, better looking, better in bed than the next man. Its just natural men needing to be as manly as the next man
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This happens a lot man. You could have said the truth to her. There are exercises and/or surgeries that can easily repair this, if it´s bothering both of you in that level.
Anyways..I guess you took the best decision. Good for you.
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