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Girlfriend rarely wants to have sex anymore

I hate to say it, but I agree with Pete.

But, assuming it's not that, being more proactive in arranging dates, buying her dresses and jewelry will help.

Talking about your turn ons may do wonders...or destroy the relationship. Either way, it's better than its going now.
 
It could be that ^^, but there are other factors I could share from experience. There was a time where I was "bored" of having sex with my gf (That was my excuse). This was actually because I was addicted to pornography and it was draining my energy.

In her case, it could be a multitude of things, something going on psychologically, anxiety, etc, drug use, or pornography tiring her out.

It could also very well be another man (or woman) in the picture.
 
Yeah, I'm inclined to side with Pete on this one.

When your GF suddenly loses interest it should set off some alarm bells.

What I would do is tell her that you have sexual needs, and if she isn't going to meet them then you'll get them satisfied elsewhere.

Don't put up with BS like that.
 
Has she recently gone on birth control? (pill, patch, ring, implant...anything hormonal) Birth control will squash some women's drive completely.
 
My girlfriend at one stage thought I was going off her, but I was taking silly amounts of flubromazepam, which had me pretty much impotent for 2 weeks. It was such a horrible conversation as she was so upset and I fancied the fucking skin off her, and so I was honest and stopped, and my sex drive returned with a vengeance.
Could something like this.be going on?

Other possibilities are, you're not sexually compatible, you're not communicating enough (try and talk indirectly if possible, as she sounds uncomfortable), or she's just not into sex or, sorry mate, you.

Are there any other problems in the relationship? Women will withhold sex sometimes if they don't trust you or are angry about something.

It could be the end. Sex is an important need for most people...
 
In my experience, if a woman suddenly loses sexual interest it's either birth control or she's fucking everyone but you.
 
247csws said:
My bf and I dont have frequent sex, and I feel I dont turn him on, but he assures me he cares more about the quality of the love making opposed to just fucking everyday.
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maybe mismatched sex drives?

common problem
 
She needs a sexual reset my friend. Il do it for you. One night with old pervy King of Sexex and she will be back in business
 
Lucy20 said:
Who said chivalry was dead
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Im Just here to help and offer a service. Ill get the old girl naughty again.... Couple of tongue lashings here and there, a few hair pulls and she will be back in business
 
Lackasham said:
Another note out relationship is good other than when she gets mad over dumb things from time to time. (The other night she got mad I spent time with my mom rather than her even though I hung out every other night that week with her). Other than those times it's great though
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I’m not trying to demonize her behavior but in no relationship should it be necessary to sacrifice close relationships for the sake of one person. Of course some circumstances permit a need for a partner or loved one to be there above others (such as damaging accidents, trauma, or if you decide to give that person your full attention). But in general, behaviors such as this reflect potentials for increased insecurity which can spiral into jealousy and shaming of the partner. It may not be extremely damaging now, but if you don’t make an effort to talk to her about her behavior, it can potentially get worse and lead you to feel shame or isolation. Try to have an honest, open, and non-blaming/demonizing discussion with her.
 
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Lackasham said:
So my girlfriend and I used to have sex all the time sometimes daily for weeks. We had a long break when I went to college but we got back together in the spring. The last couple months though she doesn't want to have sex with me very often. Right now has been the longest period. We last had sex on my birthday, 3 weeks ago and the last time was 2 weeks before that.

She says she's moved past having sex a lot and it doesn't interest her anymore. She says it's not my fault and she acts like she loves me just as she always has but is it me? I'm just confused as to why she never wants to and it's bothering me
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It can be scary, disconcerting, or disheartening when a partner’s sexual desires and interests no longer align with yours. If she says her lack of interest in sex has nothing to do with your character or her personal interest in you then you have to respect that response. She may be going through emotional or mental troubles that are preventing her from experiencing arousal or desire. She may feel shame about something on her end be it body insecurity or insecurities about her personality.

The most you can do if she is unwilling to go into detail about the situation is offer support and unbiased, open communication so she knows she can communicate with you when she’s ready.

Sometimes factors like birth control can completely diminish a person’s sex-drive even if they experience mental/emotional desire— in this case the body is simply not responding the way you want it to (similar to erectile dysfunction but for females) and she may become dejected about her inability to become aroused making her more opposed to engaging in sexual contact.

There are so many possibilities, but until she directly states that she’s lost sexual desire and/or attraction towards you, it is best not to jump to conclusions otherwise you could make her more upset and inadvertently direct her annoyance/frustration toward you.
 
Lackasham said:
Another note out relationship is good other than when she gets mad over dumb things from time to time. (The other night she got mad I spent time with my mom rather than her even though I hung out every other night that week with her). Other than those times it's great though
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A lot of women have hormonal issues that effect there sexual drive and emotions (getting mad a little thing). A change in sex drive could be that, she wants to break up but don’t want to admit it even if it’s not the right thing to do, most extreme she could be with someone else but you must have absolute proof of this before you accuse her blindly. Sometimes it’s just women’s hormonal changes and I advise you talk with her about how she is feeling physically and mentally. Nothing is more attractive then when you man shows he truly cares about both of those things.
 
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