I need to vent here. This is in response to somebody else's blog entry that I don't want to clutter with my own comments. I just need to get this out of my system. I can relate to the significant others not appreciating time spent on a harm reduction site. I realize that people sometimes post things that are adolescent and that threads often degenerate into a pissing contest or childish name calling. She doesn't just hate Bluelight (in fact, she doesnt' know it exists - but if she did, she would start a fight. I need to change my avatar.), but she hates any time I spend on the computer that I could be spending with her and her cats. She knows i post in Slashdot (news for nerds, stuff that matters) and somehow takes this as a form of cheating on her. And then my occasional online gaming (as in dungeons and dragons online, chess, or evony a year ago) makes her jealous. She thinks it's all vile and obscene and full of perverts, and that i'm spending time with imaginary girlfriends. These girlfiends, she imagines, are planning to fly me out to New Zealand or some place and elope. What i think it boils down to is that when i'm not in the same room with her when i'm not at work, she gets jealous.
I am not the only 1! I think I will throw a party. Oh, wait, I have been partying since I got here so what's the point?
Seriously though, it is an issue that I would imagine many couples go through. When we are online we are not interacting, at least in any real way, with those people that actually share our lives. This can be very problematic.
Rizza, my "ex" if you can use that term in a nation that doesn't have divorce, used to go apeshit anytime I went online for anything. Luckily for me I had just retired and was still used to 4 hours of a sleep per day (army thing). While she slept I did my thing though after awhile I just said to hell with it, life is too short.
Jackie on the other hand, the most jealous woman I have ever met in a nation where jealousy is a valued attribute (seriously), encourages me to go online as long as I am willing to do it in a shared space. I believe this agreeable attitude is the result of my trying to get her out of my life. Interesting though...
Seriously though, it is an issue that I would imagine many couples go through. When we are online we are not interacting, at least in any real way, with those people that actually share our lives. This can be very problematic.
Rizza, my "ex" if you can use that term in a nation that doesn't have divorce, used to go apeshit anytime I went online for anything. Luckily for me I had just retired and was still used to 4 hours of a sleep per day (army thing). While she slept I did my thing though after awhile I just said to hell with it, life is too short.
Jackie on the other hand, the most jealous woman I have ever met in a nation where jealousy is a valued attribute (seriously), encourages me to go online as long as I am willing to do it in a shared space. I believe this agreeable attitude is the result of my trying to get her out of my life. Interesting though...
You must be having a good time in Luzon... Hash and hashish oil are very rare here, despite the large amount of marijuana that's grown in this state. I've tried it only once in my life, and that was overseas.
I don't know how to resolve it this conflict with my gf. I often end up bringing a laptop into the room or yard (or wherever she may be) and doing my computing with her. Like you said, I'm not interacting with her even though I'm in the same room.
Also, i don't dare to visit bluelight in the same room with her, even when not logged in. Even though she smokes some marijuana and is OK with some other drug use too -- it's not so much the drug discussion/harm reduction that i'm worried about. She tends to look over my shoulder -- if she sees some of the thread titles, comments (including some of my own), screen names, avatars, (including my own which I need to change) etc., she won't react positively. That and the her jealousy.
Thus, like you, I often end up staying up late after she has gone to bed. Do Rizza or Jackie know what bluelight is? How would they react to the drug discussion or to the other content?
I don't know how to resolve it this conflict with my gf. I often end up bringing a laptop into the room or yard (or wherever she may be) and doing my computing with her. Like you said, I'm not interacting with her even though I'm in the same room.
Also, i don't dare to visit bluelight in the same room with her, even when not logged in. Even though she smokes some marijuana and is OK with some other drug use too -- it's not so much the drug discussion/harm reduction that i'm worried about. She tends to look over my shoulder -- if she sees some of the thread titles, comments (including some of my own), screen names, avatars, (including my own which I need to change) etc., she won't react positively. That and the her jealousy.
Thus, like you, I often end up staying up late after she has gone to bed. Do Rizza or Jackie know what bluelight is? How would they react to the drug discussion or to the other content?
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