GF took 45mg of Klonopin in 2 days, shot H, and cheated on my boy!

[McToothless]

i'm glad you told more of the story. you're right her future ultimately lies within your hands.. not to guilt you but this girl is on the verge of suicide and if she loses the person she loves... think of her wellbeing. i know it's not about her at this point to you but will you always wonder what happened to the girl you used to love??

OMG my biggest fear is her dying on Oct. 20th, the date of her next appointment, it keeps me awake all night. I need to get in touch with her and let her know I'll support her if she chooses the right path, I guess I need to give her some hope, but its so hard, I'm so mad she put me through this, maybe if she does it again, Ill call 911, that will atleast get her on record for abuse so her doc can have the evidence in her face. Ill know if she gets them too even if i dont see her until then cuz Im friends with her bestfriend, and her friend is against it so she tells me everything.

 

[molly897]

OMG my biggest fear is her dying on Oct. 20th, the date of her next appointment, it keeps me awake all night. I need to get in touch with her and let her know I'll support her if she chooses the right path, I guess I need to give her some hope, but its so hard, I'm so mad she put me through this, maybe if she does it again, Ill call 911, that will atleast get her on record for abuse so her doc can have the evidence in her face. Ill know if she gets them too even if i dont see her until then cuz Im friends with her bestfriend, and her friend is against it so she tells me everything.

aw dude you love this girl i hope you can work things out cheating is something i would never fucking forgive EVER EVER EVER, and if you don't either that is up to you i don't blame you. even the situation, i understand completely why it wouldn't matter and seems unexcusable. i'm sure you still have your doubts whether she really doesn't remember or not due to the confession circumstances but this is something that can be dealt with later. i think she needs you right now, to get better in general. and i know she would feel forever in debt to you if you ever took her back. so if you can't forgive if you're just able to forget a LITTLE bit right now and try to make it work, i think you would be much happier than not having her in your life at all.

wish you so much luck this sucks

 

[panic in paradise]

you asked if 45mgs klonopin would cause someone to do and say even think things they never normally would, oh yeah you betcha it would.

but dont let that be an excuse in the future. if you have a good group of friends, her complete involvement, and five years invested, id try for it...

Enki gave good advice about really really listening to your brain and heart though.

 

[Jabberwocky]

I guess I can come up with steps she needs to take to get me back and prove shes done with kpins, sound like a good plan? I just dont want to make things too easy on her cuz I feel that will condone her drug use, I want her to realize what life is like when you do to much drugs. Sound like a good plan?

Sounds like a great plan! Just remember that neither of you really need to this alone. Sounds like she can end up leaning on you pretty hard. Probably best for both of you if she has some solid support systems to utilize that aren't you. I'm sure your great, but spouse plus drug counselor plus parental figure will likely wear you down too much. It also has got to be difficult for her. Helping her frame a plan might include her finding and utilizing multiple resources. Someday your domestic life could mostly be about stuff other than drugs and drug recovery if everything works out.

 

[ech0s85]

idk what to do about taking he back or not, but benzos are the gnarliest shit ever.

The first time i tried them i took 6 or 7 mgs, fell asleep driving at a stoplight with my foot on the brake, woke up being carried to an ambulance by police, was able to somehow talk my way out of it and have the cops just drive me home, then woke up in the morning vaguely thinking i had some weird dream where i was in an ambulance until a few hours later when i discovered the electrodes stuck to my chest. Over the the next couple days i slowly remembered bits and pieces but large chunks of memory are just gone.

So you can be fucked up enough to have some wild shit go down, but still function enough to pass off as normal. Or at least thats how it went for me.

I have friends who take xanax and its like they have a whole nother person inside that comes out with the xanax. like split personalities its crazy stuff.

Anyway good luck with whatever you end up going with, i know itll be tough.

 

[Bojangles69]

I just want to state a statistic about cheating, 90% of people say "if ___ ever cheated on me I'd never take them back", but the same amount of people also wind up taking cheaters back.

Theres a good reason for it that I can't get into. But what I will mention is this, the 6 most important traits of any relationship.

1) Knowledge (you know things about your partner that nobody else knows)
2) Caring (you care about your partner in a way that you don't care for other people)
3) Interdependence (the way a couple is always interacting/influencing each other)
4) Mutuality (it is not "me" and "her", it is "us")
5) Trust (you trust that they won't hurt you)
6) Commitment (the longer you are together, usually the more commited you become)

This isn't my theory, its what relationship research has found.
Do you notice the 1 thing missing from that list? Its honesty. Notice that the word "trust" was used over honesty, that the majority of people care more that they can actually trust their partner, as opposed to their partners actually being honest.

This is not to make you think "wow people are fucked up". It would take me like a page to explain why this is normal, but its VERY normal to take a partner back after they cheat. I could explain it in a way where you wouldn't really feel any anger at her too, but just trust me when I say your anger is more derived through society, then the concept that shes actually a bad person. And its these same mistakes in relationships that are often *required, to reach a specific degree of intimacy/commitment in later life.

Just don't be toooo angry about it is my point.