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Full disclosure?

being a guy, any girl ive ever dated that knows of my habits, uses it everytime we fight..like said above. Some girls have even had a relationship with me, and wouldnt bring me home to her parents cause of my past.. which i guess i get cause what girl wants to tell her parents "Oh i met this nice boy and hes only been in rehab twice!" haha..but its all about perception. once a druggy always a druggy is most peoples look on it..soo..depends on how much SHE likes YOU. telling her would be a good way to find out how dedicated she is, but then if it goes wrong...shiiiittt...

good luck brother
 
Well I did it! Last night went to a friend's private viewing (which was dire but I deck out my house with Rothko prints so what do I know). Funny thing was she was almost happy when I told her. She had prviously dated a depressive and was worried that my unusual behaviour sometimes at work was due to depressive episodes. But she did say that she appreciates my honesty and knew I was on something, apparently the rumour going round was that I was on crack! Anyway she did make it clear that she won't tolerate any nonsense so at least I've got an easy way out if I get bored! Only joking really like her and we're hitting a club tonight. She's had quite a sheltered upbringing I think and maybe likes a so-called bad boy. I left out my spells in Rehab but some of my chums (who've invited themselves tonight) will probably mouth off (they find the fact I was in rehab with Amy Winehouse really cool when in fact it's quite tragic)

Anyway peeps, honesty is the best policy and here's to natural highs!!
 
Thank G*d for that! Always slightly concerning with situations like this that someone might actually follow the advice we give between us once in a while and it turns out to be a complete disaster, total car crash. 8o Cool, that's a relief anyways! Good luck! :)
 
If it had gone wrong I would have been on here shouting the odds. Nah, I guaged the situation and it's not as if I hurt someone or anything. Did play up some nasty stuf in my life but that was all true so not as if I was lying. And she knew!! I mean some of the states I was in at work were pretty obvious. She reminded me of a time when she saw me coming out of the toilet looking like death and asked me if I was ill. I said 'Something like that'. So she had a good idea that something was amiss. Anyway, game on!
 
i think i understand correctly that you have a history with drugs, but dont use anymore. in which case i think the most reasonable course of action would be to be honest with her, just like others said, when it seems natural. maybe dont lay it all on at first, but if asked directly dont lie either. but nothing can diminish the fact that you dont use anymore. in fact i have immensely more respect for someone that used to use but no longer does over someone who never did and just condemns it all. i think she probably would as well. good luck, and it sounds like you may have found (at least the foundation for) a real, healthy, functioning relationship. something thats become seemingly rare lol
 
Thanks Gay in Texas (having been to that great state it must have been fun growing up in a place not known for its tolerance unless your from Austin which is one of the coolest places I've been). I wasn't going to volunteer an entire confession but she knew something was up from when she worked with me so had to explain. ANd yes I'm clean of drugs but I am prone to the odd relapse. Hopefully with a wonderful person in my life I won't relapse as I have much more to lose. I haven't felt like this since I was engaged six years ago. That broke down partly due to my cocaine use and also the fact that I quit Bar school to become a journalist (her parents were strict Jews and thought the profession was beneath their daughter). I'm not talking about marriage yet of course but she reminds me of my ex in so many ways. She's fantasticallly smart, really self deprecating, a proper nerd but extremely sexy (kinda like Natalie Portman I think). So watch this space!

Cheers fellas, certain things that have been happening behind the scenes on this site meant I was going to close my account by the advice is top notch
 
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