Friend with issues...(any thoughts?)

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pod

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Ok, this is a bit complicated...
A friend of mine, like myself, has been doing E for about 6 months now. At first, he maybe popped a pill once a month and went out with my main body of friends (He's sort of a second-tier friend, I have no problems with him, but don't explicitly hang out with him) when we went clubbing. Anyway, we all went home for break. He comes back a fiend for e. To the point where he's taking innuendoes of 'maybe I can get you a pill' as 'I have pills and you can have one'. Or, in other words, he's descended into the whole 'druggie' phase...he smokes up before he does anything, and refuses to go clubbing or to a rave with us without popping a pill. He gets desperate for pills, to the point of pounding incessantly on the door of a supplier (who no longer supplies to him) whilst said supplier was busy with his significant other. We now have to keep quiet about our stashes so he won't harass us. At first, we thought it was funny...'oh there goes Jack (name changed) on another drug-scouring mission'...but now it's kinda worrisome since he's going to all sorts of weird and sketchy measures to get his pills, weed, or whatever...
-pod
 
he sounds like he has a problem...try talking to him about it in a non-critical way...don;t make him feel like you are accusing him...just be honest and tell him that you think he may have a problem..
anyway, i'm no expert but i think talking may be the best thing...you may have alrady tried that but good luck anyway...
plur everyone!
 
good advice ravers... i would be up front with him and tell him that hes outta hand.. actually knowing myself i would puss out on that whole conversation but resent it the whole time he asked. then id prolly have one of my mean un-plur friends to be hardcore up front with him so that he would stop, hopefully that would work.. good luck whatever you do .
 
Thanks for the advice guys. He's definitely one of those who is into the scene purely for the drugs and not the music or community feeling. I'd have to take a harder approach with him...
 
pod,
that sucks man. i am in a similar situation with a girl Im seeing, and Im worried for her in the way you are worried for your friend. i sat her down last night and talked to her about her pill popping(Xanax, sleeping pills, etc,) and her excess drinking habits and told her that I was worried and if she was going to be around me and part of my life she needed to seriously curtail her habits. She has an addictive personality and so hopefully I can keep her from descending into addiction hell, but I think sitting down with her and showing her genuine concern and care really made an impression on her(god I hope so), and I think that you seriously need to talk to your boy. He keeps going how is he going he is going to start getting into more serious shit then E, and with him running around indiscreetly in search of pills he is going to get busted. Be a friend, talk to him, explain to him how you all see his behavior. And if he chooses not to listen and continue on his destructive path then you have to decide if being his friend is the right path for You or not. Dont let him drag you down with him, if hes not willing to be responsible etc. The hardest thing to decide is if you need to cut a person out of your life because they are destructive and Im facing the same thing, so Im feeling your situation bro.
Peace
soulwatcher
Thank God I dont have class today until 5pm...I am still exhausted from Sat night
 
I cant relate EXACTLY to what you are saying, but Ive been having some thoughts about my sister latley which are probably on the same level. She started doing pills in october after I had told her about me doing it in amsterdam, I said she should definatly try it but that her first time should be with me. Anyway, she has some freinds which are quite into the drugs, almost over the top, like doing it for 4 days non stop, and in large amounts. so one day she came home and said she had done it, i was interested but a bit sad because I wanted to be with her for her first time. For the past few months shes been doing it almost every week (apart from the last one) and sometimes she drops just for the sake of dropping, shes never done it in a club before, which is about to change, but I cant help feeling a bit worried sometimes, especially since if it wasnt for me she probably wouldnt have got into quite so soon (she's nearly 17) I guess Im just being a typical big brother and worrying to much. its quite hypocritical that I said all this because this Friday im taking her to the UK for her 17th birthday to do E in a club for her first PROPER time
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I dont mind if shes with me.
PLUR
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