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For people who are bisexual did you come out as gay/lesbian first?

PriestTheyCalledHim

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I read this article http://www.salon.com/2014/04/07/coming_out_of_the_bisexual_closet/ and it made me wonder how many bisexual people here on bluelight first came out as gay or lesbian before accepting that they're bisexual?

I did first come out as gay when I was a young teenager at 14. I did it at school and I didn't get beat up or anything but nobody took me seriously or believed me.

It wasn't until a few years later that I realized I'm bisexual.

I never really needed to come out to my mom since she always knew I was not heterosexual since she caught me with a male peer/friend once growing up and said it was normal. I did not tell my dad or other relatives until I was an adult and living on my own.
 
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I never really came out at all. From the time I left school I'd worked out I was bi and identified that way around everyone. However there was a long period of time that I didn't have any contact with my family and one of the first times I did I was straight up that I was living with my boyfriend in another state. They knew I'd dated women before and never made comment on it.
 
Yes but technicaly no.. it's confusing a bit.

I came out as transgendered but still interested as girls (so lesbian?) But later decided that I identify as gender fluid and that I have a bit of a thing for all gender identities as well.


That being said I'm much more attracted to feminine types
 
I came out as lesbian and then went to bi but I haven't really told my family yet, they are all hardcore homophobes and I am scared that they will disown me.
 
I sincerely thought I was gay when I had my first gay relationship but I probably should have realized that I had never felt attraction to women before. Now I identify as bi though I am, in the world's eyes, straight since I have been married (and monogamous) to my husband for over 30 years. If anything ever happened to my husband or we split up I would be open to a relationship with any gender. Next month I will be in the Gay Pride parade here in my town as one of the "trailblazers" (people that were out in the 1970's) and I had to laugh when I asked if it was OK to be a lapsed lesbian. The organizers said, "Sure. Thanks for blazing the trail; too bad you stepped off it and lost your way."=D
 
I think this is answered differently for different people. For me, I never came out as a lesbian, or gay, but bi-sexual frpm the beginning. When I was 13. I thought I was straight, because I knew I was attrached to boys, but I knew I looked at girls way too much, and shouldn't be interested in them naked more than I was interested in seeing guys naked. But I knew I had crushes on guys, and was kind of blind to the crushes I had on girls until I realized, after seeing Tila Tequila's Mtv bisexual bacholarette tv show. It never occured to me that I could be attracted to, and fall in love with both genders. I didn't know there was an in between. I thought you were either straight, or completely gay. Then it blew my mind, and everything made more sense, and fell together. And I have never felt differently since then. I kissed a girl before I kissed a guy. I lost my virginity to a guy before a girl. I typically date more males, but I have always been more attracted to females. It's just hard to balance a lesbian relationship. And girls I usually take interest in, are straight, or taken.
Lesbians are picky about dating bisexual girls, because they don't want the girl to leave them for a man. I have had 5 serious relationships, and only one was with a girl, but that one was my longest relationship. I do not like either more than the other. I think being bisexual is very stressful, confusing, complicated.. just hard. you have to adjust, and deal with different impulses, and desires.. while giving yourself the others. You have to deal with judgement, and confusion, misunderstandings from others. You might be made to feel guilty about your sexual orientation, and called "a whore" for just enjoying all sex, with both genders. You might be called confused, or indecisive. You might be called greedy, or selfish. Society doesn't understand why you choose both, and so everyone hates on it because it doesn't make sense to them. Straight people, and gay people. Bisexual people are the most openminded, and understanding, I think, of everyone.
 
Actually I have also some information regarding this. When I used to study at school level, at that time there was a boy who was my friend, he was a gay. He mostly attracted to the other boy. I always told him that just go and talk with your parents about your sexual issue. But he was afraid and always denied to say that his parents won't accept any bisexual relationship. But, after 4 years I met him and he got married to a guy and they are living with a happy relationship. So I want to say that happiness is important thing it is not important from where you got it.
 
I came out as a lesbian initially, at the age of about 16 but as I've got older (just about 27 now) I've realised I'm a wee bit bisexual. I don't see men as romantic interests (though if I did I'd go with it assuming I was single) and just enjoy sleeping with them, but romantically I'm pretty gay and have only ever dated and been in love with women.

edit: That makes it seem like it took me til now to realise. It didn't, I just didn't want to admit it to myself for a while after coming out as a lesbian. In some ways I still see having sex with men as just a fun thing to do, whereas with women I take it a lot more seriously and emotionally.
 
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