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Finally found a girl perfect for me except I can't accept her past

I think people are being a bit harsh on you. That is a lot to accept. Perhaps you need to get philosophical with the truth. Would it matter as much if she had x amount of one night stands instead of x amount of paid encounters? It amounts to the same thing in the end if she was careful enough to not contract anything. It does not say anything about her potential faithfulness to you. She had an addiction and made some wrong thinking. All addicts do, in one way or another. If you love her, you can get past that. It may bother you at times, but remember, it is history. She's all yours now.
 
to me, the word 'whore' carries a lot more negativity with it than the word "prostitute"
 
Wow way to be judgmental over the choices (not easy choices I can say from personal experience) someone makes to support themselves. Don't be so holier than thou, she went through a bad time in her life and probably would be really hurt if you let her know you couldn't be with her because of that. I've been in this situation with my ex who worked after we broke up to support her drug habit, I can tell you those were sad times for her. In the end being there for someone and accepting what they do and just being someone who doesn't use them as an object and stays as a friend is really helpful towards them emotionally. I mean look at it from her perspective, I''m more than sure she's not proud of that moment of her life, but if she was open enough to let you know, you should be open enough to not let that make you have any issues.

All in all I say leave that in the past don't judge based on what people are forced to do, go forward and be happy.
 
I just read thru the whole thread and really you're being a pos, get over it and be happy to be with a nice girl.
 
if we took a poll i think most women would be offended if they were called whores
 
deano88 said:
I call my girlfriend a whore and she loves it ;)
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I love it when my sexual partners call me a whore. If someone was talking smack about me and called me a whore I wouldn't be happy though. Funny that.
 
Everybody deals with addiction differently, and just because you were strong enough to not "degrade" yourself doesn't mean everyone else is. You sound extremely selfish, to be honest. If you love her, it's real. The past is in the past, where it belongs. If she doesn't strike you as that type of person, it's because she isn't. She grew up, she changed, and evolved as humans are supposed to. Try to do the same.
 
People are a lot more complex than the poor decisions they make. Everyone has a dark side and has dark things they have done. She never had to share her past with you but she trusted you with it in hopes that you wouldn't judge her for it. She is not a whore she is your woman! So she did some questionable things. Big deal. Everyone is not all happiness and smiles and good choices. I find people that do questionable things much more interesting. You should relish her poor decisions because that's what has made her the great person that she is today. Get over it dood. You have never done anything that you regret?
 
You fucking dunce. I would consider it almost a certainty that after experiencing love, she would look back on fucking for a cap of gear to be her lowest point.

Your past is your experience, don't let it be your burden. The same goes for her. Let it go. Move on. Enjoy your love and make the most of it.
 
Not everyone moralizes sex like that. For some people it's just fun. For some it's no more a big deal than a kiss. Just a different bet part.

If she was just wild in college and had lots of casual sex would that bother you as much?

Is it the money?

Really, if you were laying on the couch dopesick and a girl came by and said she had a bundle you could have if you licked her. What would you say? I'm not buying you would choose to lay there and puke and shit yourself


You should be thankful you found the person you want and that doesn't think "wow I love this man but I don't want an ex-junkie to be the father of my kids. Or my husband".

If you can't 100 percent let it go then move on. She doesn't deserve to have it thrown in her face during arguments, etc.

And hope that when you find the next "one" she doesn'T say to you "oh I can't be with a junkie for the rest of my life "
 
sailor bugg said:
I just read thru the whole thread and really you're being a pos, get over it and be happy to be with a nice girl.
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Couldn't agree more as my comments prior to yours.

Let her go OP so me and sailor can show her what non judgemental boyfriends are like.
 
your a dick, if you were also an addict i'm sure you've done some grimey shit as well. if your too petty to forgive someone for your past you don't fucking deserve them.
 
OP-- prostitution is the most honest relationship many men and women have with each other. From the start, it is known that money will be expected in exchange for sex. Many, maybe most, marriages, on the other hand, everyone lies to each other and to themselves about what is expected and what is being exchanged.
Some promiscuous girls have had more partners for free than your ex-prostitute gf has probably had in her former one year career. The former might lie about it, but your gf has been honest. - She was a whore, but at least she wasn't a slut. I would either stop worrying or let her go.
 
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If it is truly someone's past and in no way their present than it should not matter.

I hate to tell you this, but if she had not had her past experiences she would not be the person she is today. So if you love her than her past should not matter. If you are lucky enough to find true love why ruin it with thoughts of what she went through a long time ago. She did not even have to share it with you but she trusted you enough to tell you. If you care what other people say about your relationship than you really have some messed up priorities.

If you enter a relationship not willing to accept someone's past than you are missing out.

I suppose if you can't come to terms with things and you can't let it go, you never will and it will eat at you.

I have parts of my past that are fucked up and I really do not want to share them with anyone. I have shared some things from my past with women I was close to and it did not change a thing in the relationship. I dunno.

I have always been told not to hold someones past against them. Now if it still is a part of their life today it is a different story. I am not a fool.

But people resort to prostitution and other forms of crime usually due to things beyond their control. I am a man. I have had sex for money, food, and drugs. I never had sex with another man or anything of that sort but I had sex with women I did not want to, but I needed the money with the emphasis being on need. I would have gone hungry, gotten very dope sick, or even lost my place to live.

That situation happens to women more than men. I wouldn't want to be with a women who had just stopped whoring recently but if she did that a long time ago, long enough to be over it, well then it really doesn't matter.

I know it is hard to imagine that for people that know me now. I have only told a fraction of even the people closest to me this. I wouldn't have told anyone I did not think would understand. I really don't care on here because if you want to pass judgement on someone online for what they did almost ten years ago, well go right ahead.

But I guess my point is if you really do love this woman and she has put it behind her, than you should be able to not even worry about it. Do you think you were the same man you were ten years ago? People do change and well if someone had sunk to that level of desperation and gotten themselves out of it than they have some rather strong character. It is not easy to get out of a situation like that.

I suppose if it fucks with your relationship today where she has issues than it is different but like I said if she is over than you should be to. Otherwise you should just let her go than to be with her and resent part of her. Don't marry her if you resent part of her because you can't marry just part of her.
 
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