fear and me

[dude1234]

does the first question make since? and please answer the others too. Thanks. heres the rest of it....

What is the point of an existence ruled by fear when your reasoning for your own existence is the thought that to be happy is the purpose of life?
The comfort zone is my current existence, how to grow and expand that comfort zone?
Do you have to be nervous when facing your fears or is there an alternative like changing your thoughts and beliefs first and then doing the things you once feared to fortify those new found beliefs. Or is that not possible since the subconscious is already programmed from past experiences to automatically fear that situation when it is presented. I've had great results when doing the things I've feared so why is it that the negative experiences keep the fear alive and that the positive experiences didn't abolish the fear?

 

[lolwhatzdrugs]

Changing your outlook on some thing that truly terrifies you is probably pretty hard to do with out actually facing that fear, and the outcome being contrary to what you are scared of. Your sub-concious isn't programmed in some way that is going to make changing a belief about something impossible.

Your last sentence makes sense. People with a fear of heights aren't going to all of the sudden feel safe on top of thirty story buildings, even if they have been on top of one and they didn't die. Same with arachnaphobes, just because a spider walks across you and what haunts you in your mind didn't happen, doesn't all of the sudden make that worry invalid.

People's brains justify fear as being something necessary in order to protect their life, sanity, relationships ect. It's hard to give those things up you have kept in your mind as a scary, justified truth.