DexWeedAndMe
Bluelighter
I'm by no means one to take advice from on this matter. Never had a "real" girlfriend, in my almost 19 years of life. Granted, that was because I had a ton of dental work (surgeries, braces, etc) to be done in high school, and I've just recently reached my full attractiveness potential within the past few months. Plus I didn't have a license (making it a pain in the ass to take chicks places, or bring them to my casa for fun time) Since High School, I've done pretty well for myself. No actual relationship yet, but I've been making shit happen, for sure.
To answer your question, OP...
Back in the day, I used the "Amateur Therapist" method. Thought to myself, "Sure, I'm not the most attractive guy, but if I'm there and assist them with their problems, it'll show that I care and I'll have it on lock." NOOOOPE. Instant friend-zone, every time. Found that out after having it happen to me multiple times. I've never been one to generalize, but I'm pretty sure it's (literally, not an exaggeration) impossible to *not* wind up in the friend zone with this method.
As of late, I've just been being myself. As cliche' as it sounds, I've had more luck in the past few weeks than the past (almost) 19 years, by just being myself. Good social skills are important, of course. One has to know how to keep a conversation going. That used to be a problem I had. If I'm comfortable with someone, I can talk until they want to jump off a bridge. Same with the internet. Everything I post tends to be fairly long, no matter the topic. New people (women especially) in real life? Not so much. But I've overcome that by being more confident, I think due to my teeth being normal, finally, and my braces being off. Those above who said confidence was important are 100% correct. Quite possibly the most important thing, actually. Good hygiene (obviously), and a decent sense of fashion don't hurt either. Also important to come across as confident, but NOT cocky. You have faith in your own ability as a man, but you don't think you're the shit.
I plan on being fairly romantic as well, but that's moreso reserved for once I'm in an actual relationship. Not necessarily going about finding one. Being romantic in date selection, etc. The typical candlelight dinner and all that fun stuff.
In terms of my way of approaching.. generally at parties or other social events. I've always wished I could be one of those folks who could just approach random women in public and make things happen (Barnes & Noble would be my spot. Women are bound to be fairly intelligent, and generally pretty attractive) but I'm still not quite confident enough for all that noise. That's the good thing about parties. One generally expects to meet new people there. Plus, alcohol is generally a wonderful social lubricant (though by no means a requirement).
So yeah, that's pretty much what has and hasn't worked for me.
Side note: I put too much shit in parenthesis...
To answer your question, OP...
Back in the day, I used the "Amateur Therapist" method. Thought to myself, "Sure, I'm not the most attractive guy, but if I'm there and assist them with their problems, it'll show that I care and I'll have it on lock." NOOOOPE. Instant friend-zone, every time. Found that out after having it happen to me multiple times. I've never been one to generalize, but I'm pretty sure it's (literally, not an exaggeration) impossible to *not* wind up in the friend zone with this method.
As of late, I've just been being myself. As cliche' as it sounds, I've had more luck in the past few weeks than the past (almost) 19 years, by just being myself. Good social skills are important, of course. One has to know how to keep a conversation going. That used to be a problem I had. If I'm comfortable with someone, I can talk until they want to jump off a bridge. Same with the internet. Everything I post tends to be fairly long, no matter the topic. New people (women especially) in real life? Not so much. But I've overcome that by being more confident, I think due to my teeth being normal, finally, and my braces being off. Those above who said confidence was important are 100% correct. Quite possibly the most important thing, actually. Good hygiene (obviously), and a decent sense of fashion don't hurt either. Also important to come across as confident, but NOT cocky. You have faith in your own ability as a man, but you don't think you're the shit.
I plan on being fairly romantic as well, but that's moreso reserved for once I'm in an actual relationship. Not necessarily going about finding one. Being romantic in date selection, etc. The typical candlelight dinner and all that fun stuff.
In terms of my way of approaching.. generally at parties or other social events. I've always wished I could be one of those folks who could just approach random women in public and make things happen (Barnes & Noble would be my spot. Women are bound to be fairly intelligent, and generally pretty attractive) but I'm still not quite confident enough for all that noise. That's the good thing about parties. One generally expects to meet new people there. Plus, alcohol is generally a wonderful social lubricant (though by no means a requirement).
So yeah, that's pretty much what has and hasn't worked for me.
Side note: I put too much shit in parenthesis...
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