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Does the Internet stunt social growth?

too much of anything is bad for you. the internet & bluelight to be specific has helped me to expand my social circle heaps. but it's a fine line. its great to have heaps of friends online, but don't let it be at the expense of relationships in the real world! after all, your computer can't give u a hug!
 
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The net allows you to meet people and judge them on their personality alone rather than on superficialities. It's also a really good tool for getting to know people you have met in real life.
I met some of my closest friends in r/l and then got to know them through irc, etc.
I think our generation as a whole is one full of insecurity. This is not caused by the internet, the internet just gives us a medium to ignore them for a little while.
The internet is way cool.
 
i think people forget about old friends too quickly. i love meeting and partying with new people all the time... but they'll never be as solid as your old friends.
i also think that ecstasy defies social ettiquette. most of the pillers i know are really easy to meet, get to know, and hang out with. but for people who dont use it, that whole process is a lot slower. so its cheating basically.
so while i have a blast talking bollocks to randoms most weekends, i always try to remember that its cheating. and if i dont pursue social contact with that person for anything other than partying... then i keep the friendship in perspective.
i dont like it when people talk heaps of crap when they are on it.... "like man we've gotta hang out when we're straight and stuff.. your a champ"... that dont sit well with mwa.
MDMA + THE NET = 2 bigass truth serums
tony
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p.s. people who use SMS to deal with issues suck ..
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bringing the house down.
 
Net has made me find a whole bunch of new 'friends' that I have something in common with.
But never forget your old true friends.
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But saying that, there are certain bluelighters that I have only met breifly and would consider VERY good friends. You know who u r .... Perth and Melbourne
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re-reading this old thread i think thats the most off topic i've ever been. WTF was i thinking about that night???
on an on topical note - i was reading in the SMH last week about how popular internet dating services are becoming. where once i would've assumed that the people who use those would all be crusty and desperate, evidence to the contrary is that heaps of young successful people are using it to hook up with each other. a standout point being that young women are sick of using loud smoky clubs and bars as places to meet people. and you can browse profiles and choose your perfect match. however personally i'd still be afraid of who (or what) might turn up on the first date......
 
The only thing i use from the internet is Bluelight and Hotmail. It has definetaly not stunted my 'growth' in face to face settings... I still have my origional best friend from b4 i started using BL etc... and she prolly wouldn't even know how to use the internet. Also i have meet some really cool people who are interested in doing the same things as me... that my other friends in the 'real world' lets say... dont really approve of. BL has given me great opportunities and Hotmail just means i dont have to waste money calling my parents.
'Talking' on the internet has not made me get more self confidence in saying things i wouldn't normally say... if anything i am a bit more careful on BL... but really i just say what comes to mind any time, whether it be here or talking to a person face to face.
I think BL in particular has affected me in both good and bad ways... but none of the bad ways it has affected me is concerned with social life. Just Uni study. If i fail law i am gonna have to blame BL for sure :)
 
A big fat ppppfffftt...
The internet promotes and expands social growth. It's just a diffrent sort of social growth. Why is it that when a new technology comes along, we always see it as intruding on our social well being? I think it changes and expands our current state of mind, introducing new things, that are positive and help us grow.
*wonders how obvious it is that he his stonned*
*smokes some more*
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It all depends on how you the person uses the internet..
- an obsessive compulsive web designer
- some1 who wont stop looking for ways to improve their computer
- sad ass internet gamers
- email freaks
- casual user, chatting, emails with known "REAL" friends
the last option is probabli the safest way to go.. because you actualli hav the friends with whom u are associating with on the internet. and you will probabli see them within the week
 
Originally posted by Bossdog:
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I could read that as if it were plain english...
Sad eh.
Having met somewhere in the vicinity of 2-3000 people off the internet, I would hardly say that it has stunted my social growth. The thing is to just get up off your arse and go see people.
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HEEEEEEELL NOOOO!
not in my experience anyway--- all the internet does for me, is allow me to communicate and share my life with people whom i would never get the chance to otherwise; and to pass on messages to 'real people' in a much quicker format...
thats all.
if anything, the internet has widened my social cirlce of 'real' friends... meeting fellow blers is just one example of this.
 
Bossdog said:

The net allows you to meet people and judge them on their personality alone rather than on superficialities. It's also a really good tool for getting to know people you have met in real life.
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^^exactly! this is what i love about the net ..that you don't judge on what someone looks like but rather their thoughts and feelings and just generally what they have to say so their personality :) (even though we do share pictures)

I definitely think the net has expanded my social circle. I have made so many friends who i see in "real life" from meeting them in cyberspace (even dated two guys 8o ) and it's a way to be able to put avators to faces and have face to face conversation. In this day and age net communication is normal. Just like mobiles and faxes...it's just a modern form of contact.

I love the net but i'd much rather be talking to people in the real world (which actually streams off to the topic of "is the net the real world?" because it's still a community of people "talking" just without physical contact) but the net has helped me to expand my "real world" I'm just at home alot so tend to be online alot *shrugs*

I've been using the net over 2 years now :)
 
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^ I've found a lot of chat sites inhibit personal growth :)
 
I think the only time that the internet is detrimental to social growth is in relation to [serious] relationships.

The beauty of the internet is you can take as long as you want to plan your responses to a questions... you can type, delete, re-word, edit, send. I love that. In real life I'm prone to opening my big mouth without thinking and letting my emotions take control [and often regretting the things I've said].

I used to talk to my ex quite a bit online and in the end I found myself talking about really important issues from the safety of my computer. Why approach these subjects in real life when I'll get angry/ upset and not say what I need to? I guess it's similar to people who would be too scared to call someone but are happy to send them an SMS. It was/ is pathetic. The internet gave me an escape route so I didn't have to learn to deal with my emotions.

In my case, it stunted REAL communication. Sure, the internet is great for breaking down social barriers and having deep and meaningful conversations at 3am with people you barely know but in the end it meant I couldn't deal with things in real life. It was one of many factors that I believe resulted in the two of us breaking up. A relationship can't function when people aren't communicating properly.

On the other end of the scale, it's a great way to have long conversations with people you wouldn't normally talk to. It makes it really easy to find people you have something in common with [un-like the pot luck that is clubbing] and most of the time all I'd be doing if I wasn't online is watching TV. I'm forever grateful for the people I've met and the conversations I've had on the internet... but I'm going to bar my next boyfriend from my ICQ list. ;)
 
Torn.....

Well, it has exacerbated my phone phobia, that's for sure ;):

http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=121241&r=41

... But on the other hand, it's also given me a handy alternative to the phone, which I never liked in the first place.

It has increased my social circle at least twofold, maybe three; like many others have mentioned, bluelight is a sensational source of new - and genuine - friends.

Amongst my friends my age I think it's a godsend - some people I'd never catch up with if it weren't for email.

But for other relationships, ie. family, it's a negative effect. Some people just aren't in the "Loop", therefore they miss out. For example my mum said to me the other day "Why don't you ever contact your grandma?". My first thought was: "Because she doesn't have an email address".

Sad, isn't it.
 
I am more than certain that the internet has had a negative effect on me socially over a long period of time. When I first started using the internet (in '94), it acted as a way to boost my self-esteem and confidence because I was faceless. And that improved my social life, I uncovered aspects of my personality that I never knew existed.

But after I'd been using it for a few years, it started to become a replacement for my social life. My first long-term boyfriend threatened to break up with me if I couldn't limit my chatting time to a couple of hours a week. I went long periods of forgetting to eat lunch and dinner, I hardly ever saw sunlight. w00.

Now I use it as a means to communicate with other parents about stuff. Which is fine, and I learn a lot, but that, coupled with my only knowing two people in the whole world who have kids, has really stunted my social life outside of the intarweb. It's as though I can convince myself that I don't need to go and have real friends because they can't really contribute to my general life satisfaction in the same way that some of the people I know online can (presumably because I have more in common with them). Then when it comes to actually going out and doing things - well, where are my friends? I adore some of the people I've met in my travels but overall, I think it's hindered my social growth severely.

Of course, the social anxiety doesn't help either.
 
The interenet as a whole, maybe, Bluelight, no.
Something such as Bluelight can create some social isolation as it only attracts a certain 'type' of person, thus allowing for people to only socialise with a certain group, but IMO no more than any other activity.
I.E. You smoke bongs with mates - only those people who smoke weed are involved.
Little conversation is generated although everyone is comfortable and a social group evolves.
The same can be said with numerous things, playing sport, going out 'clubbing', going to a rave.
Hmm.. to conclude, yes the internet does create a bunch of anti-social dickheads, but no more than anything else in this wonderful little world of ours.
PEACE
 
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