Sharapovafistpump
Bluelighter
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Hi, Got a real problem here and I cant get my head around what to do. Not sure if i'm being played, playing myself or if I should run for the hills or tuck my balls between my legs and suck it up.
I'm in a foreign country, I came over here primarily for work. Which ive got and which pays 250% more than a similar job back home. Problem is im on a temporary visa which will run out in 5 months. Been here 7. Anyway 3 months ago ive met a girl I genuinely feel i'm in love with. We are extremely close, but just friends. Ive made it clear that I don't want to be friends, I want more, and in the beginning it progressed that way. She's a complicated girl. Bi-polar, 2 kids, had 2 boyfriends and an ex-husband who wants her back. Shes also fucking hot and knows it. Things were going ok, until she found out she was pregnant (4 months, not mine) and decided to have an abortion. I offered to be there for her but she went back to one of her ex's.
They started seeing each other again and she said she still wants to be friends with me, but nothing more because she doesn't feel the chemistry. I do feel the chemistry... on the face of it this sounds rather obvious - suck it up and move on. But the thing is we really do get on great, we really click and see loads of each other, talking on the phone all the time, texting etc. Weve the same birthday and are very similar. This all fucked with my head and we had a massive row. but I didn't want to lose her completely from my life, partly because i am so wrapped up in her, partly because im on the otherside of the world and hardly know anyone and partly cos she kept saying she would get me a visa. I tell her we can stay in touch but don't talk to me about her ex, well the guy she's currently fucking.
Anyway she's always said from the start she would get me a visa but not actually done anything about it. So I offered her a grand to get the ball rolling. She took it, next day set up joint accounts, i met her parents an kids. She seemed a lot closer to me. Saying things like how she talks about me to everyone and cried one night because we didn't have the right chemistry (it seems a bit like we don't, there's not that mad spark you get went to kiss someone and are just consumed by them - Separate question - but can this develop? or is it a all or nothing thing?) we both agree everything else between us except this spark is completely compatible. She also said who knows what might develop with time.
Found out today that the morning before she accepted the grand of me for the visa she slept with her ex. It's fucking killing me tbh. I'm doing all i can not to crack up but its not working. I cant go through this 2 year process with her fucking other men while im in love with her. Getting this visa, which im fairly certain she we go through with (provided I don't crack up - and provide her all the emotional support of a best friend without the fucking) will open so many doors for me and change my life. I didn't think id get married like this. I would marry her genuinely. I'm not sure what to do. Any advice?!
I'm in a foreign country, I came over here primarily for work. Which ive got and which pays 250% more than a similar job back home. Problem is im on a temporary visa which will run out in 5 months. Been here 7. Anyway 3 months ago ive met a girl I genuinely feel i'm in love with. We are extremely close, but just friends. Ive made it clear that I don't want to be friends, I want more, and in the beginning it progressed that way. She's a complicated girl. Bi-polar, 2 kids, had 2 boyfriends and an ex-husband who wants her back. Shes also fucking hot and knows it. Things were going ok, until she found out she was pregnant (4 months, not mine) and decided to have an abortion. I offered to be there for her but she went back to one of her ex's.
They started seeing each other again and she said she still wants to be friends with me, but nothing more because she doesn't feel the chemistry. I do feel the chemistry... on the face of it this sounds rather obvious - suck it up and move on. But the thing is we really do get on great, we really click and see loads of each other, talking on the phone all the time, texting etc. Weve the same birthday and are very similar. This all fucked with my head and we had a massive row. but I didn't want to lose her completely from my life, partly because i am so wrapped up in her, partly because im on the otherside of the world and hardly know anyone and partly cos she kept saying she would get me a visa. I tell her we can stay in touch but don't talk to me about her ex, well the guy she's currently fucking.
Anyway she's always said from the start she would get me a visa but not actually done anything about it. So I offered her a grand to get the ball rolling. She took it, next day set up joint accounts, i met her parents an kids. She seemed a lot closer to me. Saying things like how she talks about me to everyone and cried one night because we didn't have the right chemistry (it seems a bit like we don't, there's not that mad spark you get went to kiss someone and are just consumed by them - Separate question - but can this develop? or is it a all or nothing thing?) we both agree everything else between us except this spark is completely compatible. She also said who knows what might develop with time.
Found out today that the morning before she accepted the grand of me for the visa she slept with her ex. It's fucking killing me tbh. I'm doing all i can not to crack up but its not working. I cant go through this 2 year process with her fucking other men while im in love with her. Getting this visa, which im fairly certain she we go through with (provided I don't crack up - and provide her all the emotional support of a best friend without the fucking) will open so many doors for me and change my life. I didn't think id get married like this. I would marry her genuinely. I'm not sure what to do. Any advice?!
