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Bluelight,
I've been dating my gf now for coming up to two years. We met first year of uni and have been together ever since. For whatever it's worth we're now going into our third years- I'm
On a science course and she's studying languages.
When we got together we were both dating other people but broke that off to be together.
We spent every night from then onwards that we could together. We've been bed-sharing from day one and sleeping together sexually from the 2 month mark.
It's fairly safe to say that we just 'clicked'- neither of us have been able to sleep comfortably next to someone else before we met and to have drifted into such a comfortable sleep from day one was remarkable for us both.
Sexually speaking she is very inexperienced- she'd been raped in her early teens and as such had only experienced consensual mild foreplay otherwise. Obviously that changed when we got together.
I am more experienced but not considerably. I've slept with one other person several years ago and experienced everything but with several others.
Here's the crux of the matter- her parents are strongly religious. They're Christian and they're from a background where the father rules the roost and has final say over everything and anything. I was raised by liberal parents who have shown me nothing but explicit trust from word one. Her parents inflict their religion and their beliefs on my gf and her sister- and as you can tell by virtue of the fact that we've been having sex- the daughters don't think much of their parents religion. Whenever I go to visit we're subject to their rules and their regulations without any sense of logic, discussion or reasoning. We're constrained to separate beds and while not explicitly told not to show affection, it's heavily implied. As you might imagine, this is difficult for me, with a liberal upbringing to tolerate.
Given that his daughters rape (which he doesn't know about) was tied to the Church he made her attend- I'm
Finding it incredibly hard to find any way of mustering the necessary respect for him to treat him and his beliefs reasonably.
Now- my gf is disappearing on a study year for her third year. That's occurring in 5 weeks. We won't see one another for 2 months after this weekend. This weekend I'm supposed to be visiting her at her house. Which means no affection, no bed sharing and no us time.
My gf won't accept that there is anything unfair about the way her parents treat our relationship (and I understand that- they're her parents after all)- but she also refuses even to ask for us to share a bed etc.
My dillemma lies herein- she's going away for 14 months total- we have to decide whether we're living together for 4th year fairly soon (December). We clearly have issues- pertaining to her parents and to us as a couple. Is there any one with some good advice as to handle her parents situation? Anyone with any advice as to how to we could deal with the distance? Any one who would say to end this whole thing now before the hurt we're feeling grows? The separation has been causing us to get more and more at one another's throats...
I guess I'm just asking for help. Please?
Thanks, if you got this far- I really appreciate it.
I've been dating my gf now for coming up to two years. We met first year of uni and have been together ever since. For whatever it's worth we're now going into our third years- I'm
On a science course and she's studying languages.
When we got together we were both dating other people but broke that off to be together.
We spent every night from then onwards that we could together. We've been bed-sharing from day one and sleeping together sexually from the 2 month mark.
It's fairly safe to say that we just 'clicked'- neither of us have been able to sleep comfortably next to someone else before we met and to have drifted into such a comfortable sleep from day one was remarkable for us both.
Sexually speaking she is very inexperienced- she'd been raped in her early teens and as such had only experienced consensual mild foreplay otherwise. Obviously that changed when we got together.
I am more experienced but not considerably. I've slept with one other person several years ago and experienced everything but with several others.
Here's the crux of the matter- her parents are strongly religious. They're Christian and they're from a background where the father rules the roost and has final say over everything and anything. I was raised by liberal parents who have shown me nothing but explicit trust from word one. Her parents inflict their religion and their beliefs on my gf and her sister- and as you can tell by virtue of the fact that we've been having sex- the daughters don't think much of their parents religion. Whenever I go to visit we're subject to their rules and their regulations without any sense of logic, discussion or reasoning. We're constrained to separate beds and while not explicitly told not to show affection, it's heavily implied. As you might imagine, this is difficult for me, with a liberal upbringing to tolerate.
Given that his daughters rape (which he doesn't know about) was tied to the Church he made her attend- I'm
Finding it incredibly hard to find any way of mustering the necessary respect for him to treat him and his beliefs reasonably.
Now- my gf is disappearing on a study year for her third year. That's occurring in 5 weeks. We won't see one another for 2 months after this weekend. This weekend I'm supposed to be visiting her at her house. Which means no affection, no bed sharing and no us time.
My gf won't accept that there is anything unfair about the way her parents treat our relationship (and I understand that- they're her parents after all)- but she also refuses even to ask for us to share a bed etc.
My dillemma lies herein- she's going away for 14 months total- we have to decide whether we're living together for 4th year fairly soon (December). We clearly have issues- pertaining to her parents and to us as a couple. Is there any one with some good advice as to handle her parents situation? Anyone with any advice as to how to we could deal with the distance? Any one who would say to end this whole thing now before the hurt we're feeling grows? The separation has been causing us to get more and more at one another's throats...
I guess I'm just asking for help. Please?
Thanks, if you got this far- I really appreciate it.