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OnCloud9

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Hello everyone,

A close friend of mine passed away last March. I spoke with a detective involiving his death and he spoke of a black powder found in one of my friends briefcases.
Since I am not direct family he could not tell me what that substance was, but since I knew him so long I'm very curious to know what it was. I've known my friend for
20 years, and its even hard going over to this house (a couple doors down) to talk to his brother, although I don't speak with his dad too much because it tears me up.
The detective told me the family was debreifed regarding the investigation, but I'm not sure how to bring such a topic up with either his brother or dad, especially since his
dad likely knew we did drugs together. Any thoughts about this?

Thanks
 
reopened as OP said discussion is just about how to go about asking family members what the black powder is.

my opinion is to let sleeping dogs lie.
 
Sure it's no easy task, but I knew my friend for two decades and would like to know what contributed to his death.

I talk to his brother from time to time, but its just that I'm not sure how to ask that sort of question.... maybe I have to get to know him better although I did know him for two decades as well, but we were not nearly as close.

Any thoughts?
 
he was your friend though, don't you have any idea of what drugs he took which could have lead to his death (by accident i guess?)

i think if you don't know how to pose the question, its probably better to not ask it, since it really isn't all that important what drug he overdosed on. you might be curious, but since the information wasn't released by the family, its best to respect that.
 
I'm sorry about your friend. I have an idea that may or may not be helpful. One thing you can do is when it's coming to the one year mark is contact his family and tell them you wish to pay your respects. They might be appreciative and I agree with Mysterie, the family may not wish to disclose what exactly caused his death. It's painful when a loved one passes.

It took several months for my mother to find out why my sister died. (she overdosed) Even then, I don't know if mom ever came to terms over the circumstances of her untimely death. It's something that changes a person forever so you have to put yourself in their shoes. If they wish to go into details about it, they will. But don't press the issue.
 
Thanks for the reply guys. His parents are divorced, forgot to mention so mainly I speak to his brother when hes outside. I did however send his mom a card expressing my condolences and wishing them all the best a couple months ago. The one year mark will be in about a month.

Mysterie: Sure I could speculate what it might have been, but he used various drugs so its hard to know a definitive answer. I think he also didn't tell me everything, was quite reserved even though I was a good friend of his. Another close friend of his is very curious as well, and since I've known him the longest I'm trying to find the least invasive way to find out what it might of been.
 
Could it have been black tar heroin? It's the only thing that comes to mind as far as a black colored drug...
 
tar isn't powder

"gunpowder heroin" (which around here refers to BTH in "powder form") is brown, not black. I can't really think of a drug that comes in the form of black powder, honestly
 
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