dependancy...read

[unicorn83]

i know this isnt the right forum..but i thought the people in here would discuss this,
question is why do people leace each other as they're too dependant isnt that what love is? two becoming one?
love to get an opinion

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[Furnace]

I know I have dependency issues. I try not to put myself into situations where that aspect of my personality comes out, but sometimes it's hard. It's really tough.
Especially when I act like that with people who are inherently independent. People who really don't need familiarity or others around them in order to be happy.
I like my friends and family. I love them all. It feels like they are all I know. I sorta scares me to think about leaving all them to go off somewhere and experience new things.
I tend to relate independence with solitude. And a part of me is sick of being by myself.
That's just me though.

 

[*SWeeT-e*]

I was once given this illustration:
Draw half a circle and beside it draw another half a circle. Two halves form a whole.
Now draw a whole circle. On top of it, draw another whole circle. Two wholes also form a whole.
The second is what love is about.
~Kim.

 

[Furnace]

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That's so true...

 

[KAZ]

Anymore thoughts? I'm interested as well.

 

[Furnace]

http://mentalhelp.net/psyhelp/chap8/chap8b.htm
There's something informative about half way down the page. I'm not sure if it will help, but it might.
It's funny b/c I have a test in this subject in about an hour and a half.
laters,
Taz.
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Giant errors, Giant waves.

 

[KAZ]

There are two types of "avoidant attachment": (a) the "dismissing avoidant" is self-confident, self-reliant, and doesn't feel the need for a relationship.
This unemotional independence is thought to sometimes be a defense against liking or needing someone which would expose them to rejection or hurt.
(b) The "fearful avoidant" clearly wants to have a close relationship but is well aware of a lack of trust and fears of abandonment. Thus, they don't let
themselves get close. They constantly feel frustrated--wanting what they can't get. Consequently, they have lots of negative emotions--anxiety and
depression--without many positive emotions.

Eeek.