Dealing with boundary issues in the opposite sex :/

[kayladelmo]

If this person doesn't respect your boundaries then he doesn't respect you. Honestly, he sounds like a disrespectful creep, to the max. Do you want someone who disrespects you in your life? You don't HAVE to deal with his boundary issues, you know. I know that you said that you are very compassionate and care about the underdog, which is very sweet of you, but is trying to be this guy's friend out of pity really doing you any good? If he is disrespectful of your boundaries, then he is not your friend. Especially if it's right off the bat. And he is not going to change if you try to befriend him. He is who he is. You have to accept him, then decide if you want him in your life. And it sounds like he is stressing you out, which you don't need.

I know how hard it is to reject people, but it helps to remember that rejection is an honest part of life and happens every second. It doesn't kill anybody. In fact, if you rejected him, it will make more room in his life for someone who he actually vibes with, you know?

If you're scared to say anything to this guy except the blandest of things, then that's your intuition telling you that this person is not safe for you to be yourself around. Don't be afraid to follow your gut.

My personal opinion is that he is a selfish creeper who is trying to get into your pants. Don't let his pathetic demeanor fool you.

Good luck girl.

 

[dopemaster]

I dont know where to begin. First off I gotta ask: Are you leading this fool on? Please dont, that will only fuck his head up.

First thing is tell him you dont want to meet his parents. I mean do you?

Second of all blowing a shotgun does not usually involve kissing or making out.

Lets be honest for a second. Why do you want to hang out with him? Does he smoke alot of free weed with you or something like that? Do you kinda like him?

How do you not remember him blowing up your phone after you refused to give him your number a couple years ago? How is this stuff not fucking creepy? Most importantly what are you doing that allows this behaviour to continue?

If you want to not hurt his feelings drop a hint by saying your busy and if he asks if your busy any other time you are always busy. Tell him you would not like to meet his parents. I mean do you? It would kinda look to his parents and maybe him like your dating if you do that?

This dude is not taking no for an answer. When you said "maybe" to a date he did not take it as a maybe, he took it as a yes. If you dont want to date him, you need to tell him. He may genuinly believe his persistance will pay off.

Seriously tell him you dont want to date and some of this shit is getting creepy and if he wants to be your friend he needs to back off with that weird shit. Have you considered being just aquaintances, like the type that acknoledge the others existance and than go about their own business. Cuz that seems the logical solution. You may have to be honest with him to a degree where he is not gonna like what he hears.

Have you considered getting a concealed and carry handgun permit. Id recomend a smith and wesson 38 special. If this guy is for real, he sounds creepy as fuck. You need to tell him where to go.