cutters - you are not alone. (merged)

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cutting – a rough guide to self-harm & surrounding issues.

‘cutting’ is a loose term that refers to Deliberate Self-Harm Syndrome, or Repetitive Self-Harm Syndrome. many sufferers refer to themselves as cutters, or use SI for self-injury – e.g. ‘I SI once a month’. the methods, area & seriousness of the injuries can vary incredibly; most common are cuts to the arms, wrists, neck, upper torso, with genital mutilation also common. cutting with nails, broken glass, knives, razors, blades, needles, nails, scissors, ceramics – indeed anything that can pierce skin, often the more painful the better. SI can also take the form of swallowing batteries so the acid burns internal organs, swallowing glass, razor blades, needles, banging one’s head against objects or punching things repeatedly. pulling out hair, scratching or biting until blood is drawn, and interfering with wound healing are also very common behavioural patterns. cutting is a coping mechanism, often favoured by those who find it difficult to express their
emotions.

cutting can take the form of compulsive self harm, such as skin picking or hair pulling (note – often amphetamine psychosis or abuse can have similar effects) or impulsive self harm (when occasional self harm becomes repetitive).

it is important to stress that cutters are not usually mentally ill, nor are they suicidal – although they believe that death is coming soon. however, obviously any person experimenting with self harm is endangering themselves & possibly their lives.

it is estimated that 1.9million Americans are ‘cutters’; other estimates say 750 out of every 100,000 harm themselves. the media has a role to play in these numbers; while obviously music & film influences are just that, outside influences, acts like marilyn manson & slipknot often seem to actively support self-harm; there is a higher number of cutters amongst heavy, dark musical fan bases, but this is often more to do with the imagery & appeal of the music, rather than the music itself. similarly, movies have dealt with cutting in different guises & are influential in varying degrees.

one of the most defining images of self-injury came from the still missing Richey Edwards, of the manic street preachers. I have included a link since the image may be disturbing. richey

self injury is most prevalent amongst women between 13 – 30. however, it does strike people of all ages, races & social backgrounds. it is often an unconscious response to problems in the past; sufferers of incest or child abuse are much more likely to self harm. A study by Van der Kolk, Perry & Herman in 1991 cited neglect as the main cause of self-harm amongst children & adults. more of their work can be found here. it is important to recognise that cutting is a coping mechanism, and an outlet. if this is removed from someone’s life they may become suicidal or psychotic.

recognising true self-injury is important for onlookers. sexual pleasure, body art, religious ritual & peer pressure (i.e. fitting in with a cutting crowd) are not true indications. I have scars on my arms, but am not a cutter; rather it was teenage experimentation.

what causes cutting?

there are many, many different possible causatives. physical & emotional abuse of children, sexually & otherwise, neglect, a difficult or disrupted upbringing and extreme past traumas are the most common. however, surprisingly, there are also plenty of contraindicative cases that show that often self-harmers did not suffer from childhood abuse. the single most prevalent precursor to self-injury is what is called ‘invalidation’ or growing up in an invalidation environment. Linehan has described
an invalidating environment as such:

“An invalidating environment is one in which communication of private experiences is met by erratic, inappropriate, or extreme responses. In other words, the expression of private experiences is not validated; instead it is often punished and/or trivialized. the experience of painful emotions [is] disregarded. The individual's interpretations of her own behavior, including the experience of the intents and motivations of the behavior, are dismissed...

Invalidation has two primary characteristics. First, it tells the individual that she is wrong in both her description and her analyses of her own experiences, particularly in her views of what is causing her own emotions, beliefs, and actions. Second, it attributes her experiences to socially unacceptable characteristics or personality traits.”

this is a surprisingly common environment, albeit often less extreme. everyone knows the perfect student who’s mother or father pushed them beyond belief, who was never good enough & who was punished even when they succeeded. such environments are destructive beyond words – often the highest achievers are prone to self-injury.

there are neuropsychological considerations also. most bluelighters recognise the importance of serotonin; the Tuesday blues make that painfully obvious. when serotonin levels are normal irritability can be expressed by shouting, aggression etc. but when they are low, these responses can descend into self injury, suicide, or even attacks on others.

do cutters feel pain?

often not. 67% of participants in a 1986 survey reported feeling ‘no pain’ when cutting; the therapeutic effects & dopamine release are often more important than feeling anything. some people self-harm to feel alive, to feel anything, to feel numb, to ‘cut’ their pain away (catharsis), and sometimes to scar themselves. the lack of actual pain sometimes shows dissociation.

what can we do?

therapeutic responses to cutting are varied. often doctors and hospitals remain (unacceptably) scathing of cutters – they are handled roughly, only barely treated, or mocked. some have even reported wounds being stitched without anaesthetics (!!!) as some medical staff consider cutters less important or worthy patients as they have harmed themselves. it is important to recognise that self-harm is a serious condition, and that it requires attention NOT further disassociation or rejection.
psychotherapy, pharmacological responses (medicines) and interpersonal group behavioural therapy are suggested methods of treatment. hypnosis & relaxation techniques are also used; simple meditative efforts can help alleviate the need for physical injury.

perhaps the most influential & important method of ending self-harm is self-help. it can often be an arduous process, but perhaps the most concrete. there are many, many books & articles relating to techniques, both on and offline.
the best advice I have found is contained in what should be considered the online self-harm bible, secret shame . if you are a cutter, please please please take the time to look around this site as the information within is incredibly detailed & accurate – it is compiled by a cutter.

be safe, and be happy.


-seuss-

some further links:
http://www.vinland.org/scamp/institute/dsh.html - cutting page with links to SCAR, a zine for cutters.

http://www.webring.org/cgi-bin/webring?ring=bus;list - a webring mostly US based.

www.selfharm.com - self explanatory!
 
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Damn. I guess I learn something new most days around here.
Big props to seuss for making a freaking good resource here. For a problem which I was almost completely oblivious to, and largely ignorant about.
-plaz out-
 
Great Job!
This is much more common then most people think and it seems that everyone who does it thinks they are the *only* one.
 
I started cutting again the night before last. My boyfriend found out and got REALLY upset, and we talked about it for ages, but it scared me that I was doing it (I hadn't done it for about 4 months).
I think talking it through with him and seeing how upset he was got it out of my system for awhile though.
Thanks for the thread though..
 
thanks for the link dr seuss.
providing others with information is extremely in startin to dispell some of the myths surrounding self harm :)
 
this is a bigger problem then many people realise i use to cut myself and i still do for going on 6 years now, i tried to get help for myself through my mom but she didn't understand ... people need to understnad that this deserves jsut as much attention as anerexia or bulimia ....thanks for posting info about this :)
 
Originally posted by CandyStar:
this is a bigger problem then many people realise i use to cut myself and i still do for going on 6 years now, i tried to get help for myself through my mom but she didn't understand ... people need to understnad that this deserves jsut as much attention as anerexia or bulimia ....thanks for posting info about this :)
can i ask why ? i mean why do you think you do it and cant stop it?
 
I do not understand why any one would want to hurt themselfs. It just dosn't seem to make any sense. Especially when i hear " I cut my self to get rid of emotional pain". My best friend's girl friend used to cut her self and when ever she gets in shit from her parents or my friend she threatens to cut her self.I just don't see how cutting your self makes life any easyer.
[ 19 June 2002: Message edited by: Davey ]
 
well, having read that...my experience with self mutilation seems rather insignificant! oh dear!
i'm just a little speck out there, aint i?
 
I've done it, in a very minor and trivial way. Was in a major depressive state bought on by waaaaay too many pills, and about five major things in my life going wrong at the same time.
People weren't listening to me, and I couldn't get any support from anyone (to the point that they were hanging up on me :( - admittedly I was being a bit of an asshole....
I do not understand why any one would want to hurt themselfs. It just dosn't seem to make any sense. Especially when i hear " I cut my self to get rid of emotional pain".
For me, anyway, it seemed to focus the pain. I literally felt like my whole body was in *physical* pain, I was that depressed. Even further than that, I felt like the whole world was actually feeling the pain too. Even the inanimate parts of it. Cutting myself focused the pain into one small place. It was a way of concentrating and minimising the pain. A way of saying, 'right. that place hurts. The rest of me doesn't anymore'.
Another part of it is control. I felt (and was, to some extent) absolutely powerless over my situation. I had no way out of where I was (long story). Cutting myself was like a way of establishing some control again, over the only thing I had left to me - my own body.
Anyone feel the need to talk, email or AIM me.
 
davey - it can be difficult for some people to understand. catharsis (purging your emotions through an outlet) is the most approachable explanation - people who feel awful cut themselves, and the physical pain is both a reminder & a distraction; some people say it's the only way they feel alive.
acuity - no one's experiences are 'insignificant'. we are all significant people :) i especially know you are.
 
I would suggest the reason many people haven't heard of this is that the term "cutting" isn't used everywhere - it seems to be an American term. dr seuss: do you find the term used in the UK? Here in Australia, anyone who engages in repeated deliberate self-harm will most likely be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. BPD is not a mental illness, but is classed as a mental disorder. Deliberate self harm is just one aspect of BPD, the others are decribed at BPD central.
People can have severe BPD, spending life in and out of hospital and unable to work, or they can be more high functioning with less severe BPD. 75% of people with BPD are female.
As for why people self harm, there's many theories. One is that self harm causes a temporary release of endorphins, which provide a soothing effect for people who aren't able to soothe themselves in any other way. One person with BPD said to me they do it to let their emotional pain out physically, as they can't deal with the emotional pain any other way. Another BPD said that seeing the blood made her feel real. The one thing they all have in common is that people with BPD use self harm to relieve stress, as they lack more adaptive means to do so (like the rest of us take for granted).
Anyhow, BPD is more complicated than I can explain (without taking up a whole page!), but there's plenty of info around if people are interested.
[ 21 June 2002: Message edited by: babydoc_vic ]
 
oh dear
i've gone done it again. i said i wouldn't, i said i didn't need to...but i did. :(
 
It is the scariest thing to feel numb. To feel like you are completely empty. You start to prove to yourself that you can feel pain. You dig the razor into your skin and pull it along your flesh. You watch the blood spring up to mark the trail that you made. And you realize that this numb feeling starts to slide away with each drop of blood that drips down your skin. You aren't feeling actual pain. It is more of a healing feeling. You are forcing yourself to feel even as you are punishing your body. It seems a small price to pay to feel better. When you are done you look down at the bloody mess that you have made and you feel shame because you know that most people would think that you are crazy for even thinking it, let alone acting upon this bizarre whim. So you take the time to clean yourself up properly, and you cover it so noone will see the depths to which you have sunk to heal the pain that is in your heart. And for some reason you never once cry. It is as though the blood that you are spilling is in the place of your tears. This ritual is oddly soothing. You have no intentions of suicide, this is more a form of therapy. Or so you continue to tell yourself. And when something goes wrong, terribly wrong, in your life, you know that you can make it go away with the flick of that razor that you keep hidden in your bathroom.
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This is what has gone through my head a hundred times as I have pulled that razor out and sat there telling myself that I am not crazy. That this helps. In my heart I know that is dead wrong. Anytime you are harming yourself in this manner, there is no way that you are doing yourself any good. I have had to fight against this... I guess the best term for it is obsession when things have gotten really rough for me. I have lost the battle a time or two, but I am pretty good now about calling my best friends for help. Telling them to come keep me company. I hope one day it won't take any effort and that I just won't think about it.
Good luck to everyone out there that has had to deal with this, it isn't easy.
Smiles and Understanding,
~~WoozEee~~
 
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