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Cuming in parts?

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I wonder if thats title makes sence... my boyfriend has issues cuming with woman and i dont want to get into it. But with me he always says " i came a little "
and he acts liek he had a ejaculation but only a little... like he didnt just ejaculate like a normal man but some came out...
then he jacks off after which is coming to be a routine after sex.
Is that possible to cum like that? I don't think it is... when he jacks off it isnt like that it just shoots out like any other guy i know. After sex when i get up nothing flows out like it did with my ex and he doesnt h have any reaction as if he had came. Really i think its bullshit and i dont know why he is telling me this... but yeah. some guy tell me how the whole cumign thing happens and if it can happen is "parts" like a little bit and not all... he says like he feels the rest in his dick waiting to get out hence why he jacks off. idk.
 
It sounds like he's just saying he cums when he doesn't really, but then again I have experienced times when I'd orgasm 'partly', like I felt there could be more, but it kinda stopped midway. But I'm a girl so I don't know what that would do in terms of ejaculation.
How old is he/ how sexually experienced? If he's not very experienced he might just have trouble having orgasms via actual sex for now, it can take a little while sometimes.
 
You can make yourself cum a tiny bit by stopping before you get to that point of no return, you ooze out a tiny bit of cum.
I've done it.
 
If you have a full orgasm, you're not going to really be able to jerk off immediately afterwards.

Nah, there are people that will keep erection even after an orgasm (for instance, me :P). But you're right, I never feel like jerking off after having a full orgasm.

You can make yourself cum a tiny bit by stopping before you get to that point of no return

Yeah, maybe he's just stopping one second before that point.. if consciously or not (anxiety, not being relaxed, whatever) we can't say
 
I'd say he's definitely stopping early, for one of two reasons. Either he's losing his drive mid-sex, or he's intentionally stopping. If I'm not entirely into sex I'll stop, but this doesn't happen often.

There is another member on this forum that talks about having a similar problem where her boyfriend would only orgasm from masturbation... I'll see if I can find her post so you can compare experiences.

Edit-- Here it is: http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/threads/606648-Sexless-Relationships?p=10261266#post10261266
 
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He could also just prefer jerking off, the speed, the intensity, the complete control. Maybe it's all he knows.
 
Body is used to wanking, he's a wanker. Nothing wrong with that, you could ask him to stop wanking for a couple of weeks and then be extra dirty with lots of verbal encouragement.
 
Incomplete ejaculation is not uncommon. It usually happens when the person is really tense and not relaxing into the sexual act. For myself it has happened when I am focused too much on ejaculation instead of just going with the flow, and by the time I orgasm it feels like it wasn't fully built up enough and there is some left in there.

Mind you, this is the exception rather than the rule. If he's claiming it's incomplete every time then maybe he's just not fully enjoying it. Some people do just prefer their own touch despite also wanting to have sex. There are guys who can only get themselves off despite having intercourse and everything.

Try different positions, change the speed or intensity, do more foreplay, etc. Something should work.
 
Sounds to me like he's embarrassed because he's not coming at all. I have experienced the same thing once after a relationship split, I'd not had sex for months and when I got a new partner I found that as aroused as I was, it didn't happen for me and took a few sessions before I was back to normal. Not sure if it was stress or just that I had been used to masturbation but it's probably like any muscle and bodily function, you need to use it regularly to keep it working properly.
 
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