So in November my friend who was a junkie in Florida wanted to try to start life a new where I lived. I told him if he can get a job and his act together we could move out to the city together and all of this was under the condition that he get clean and not fuck up. I put up about 2000 dollars to get the place because of the security deposit mainly. This was a sublet situation as neither one of us has good credit and a clean record so the realtors we tried would take our deposit and we wouldnt qualify, it was a long and complicated road that ended with him almost having to go back to flordia but then we did get a place.
The issue is once again i have changed as a person. I have always been somewhat professional and enjoy the company of those who are like myself. Now the area we live in happens to be a neighborhood for Yale university so most people there are professional educated etc. Now I was hoping all of this would change my friend as hes very different from me.
So as it happens the land lord is raising the rent and we literally cant afford it. So he tells me to look because im obviously the better candidate to do so. I find this amazing place call and schedule the viewing its literally down the road way bigger and way better cheaper has a yard and all this amazing stuff. Hes down for it until i tell him they were apprehensive about a dog. He immediately spouts off that he refuses to live somewhere where he cant bring his dog (dog is at parents house in florida) and how honestly he would rather has a place he can smoke in (i dont smoke) a place that will take his dog (i dont want his dog) and would rather live in the ghetto to save a tiny bit of money (i dont want to live in the ghetto). You can see why this would be an issue, i love the neighborhood for once i feel like i belong, its graduate students so they are our age and this is a very nice place close to both of our jobs.
The original investment isnt an issue the deposit check will be in my name and makes up all but 100 so im not worried about him owing me money, i just refuse to sign a lease under those conditions. So now the cross roads is, if they say they are considering me for this place and strongly so if he refuses it because what he literally said was "man smoking inside, my dog, saving money, are all more important then living where we do now, id prefer to go to florida if i cant have those things" Basically saying if he cant have his way hes going back on dope, which directly challenges my desires.... ive had the discussion of "if something or someone doesnt mesh with my plans i am done dedicating resources to them and leave them to seek my path" hes rapidly on the way to finding out that "this was an experiment to see if i could save a second person though assistance" and i have to reevaluate my position as hes threatening to uproot everything i want because of his need to smoke and attachment to a dog he hasnt seen in over half a year.
I get it though hes still a junkie, all he does is talk about people from the clinic, complains drugs dont do anything (has tried to roll, trip and smoke more weed then he should) wouldnt be an issue if he didnt complain every way. And all of that shows a lack of desire to change like i said to my younger brother, getting on methadone is the easy part and thats all he did. He still talks to junkies, he still obsesses over police and people getting arrested, he still dresses with clothes that have holes, tells new people about his arrests... i could go on.
Heroin showed me when something or someone doesnt have similar interests its time to remove them from your life. Dude literally tells me he would rather pay the same price for the same sized house in the ghetto because he would rather smoke inside and have his dog... shows a clear lack of consideration for the fact i dont smoke and dont have pets or children to avoid those responsibilities. I never really wanted to be like "its here or this is done" but yeah i might have to only because we are two different people and im not living in a ghetto because he still identifies as a drug user. We are talking about a year of my life too these leases arent short thats why its such a major consideration.
The issue is once again i have changed as a person. I have always been somewhat professional and enjoy the company of those who are like myself. Now the area we live in happens to be a neighborhood for Yale university so most people there are professional educated etc. Now I was hoping all of this would change my friend as hes very different from me.
So as it happens the land lord is raising the rent and we literally cant afford it. So he tells me to look because im obviously the better candidate to do so. I find this amazing place call and schedule the viewing its literally down the road way bigger and way better cheaper has a yard and all this amazing stuff. Hes down for it until i tell him they were apprehensive about a dog. He immediately spouts off that he refuses to live somewhere where he cant bring his dog (dog is at parents house in florida) and how honestly he would rather has a place he can smoke in (i dont smoke) a place that will take his dog (i dont want his dog) and would rather live in the ghetto to save a tiny bit of money (i dont want to live in the ghetto). You can see why this would be an issue, i love the neighborhood for once i feel like i belong, its graduate students so they are our age and this is a very nice place close to both of our jobs.
The original investment isnt an issue the deposit check will be in my name and makes up all but 100 so im not worried about him owing me money, i just refuse to sign a lease under those conditions. So now the cross roads is, if they say they are considering me for this place and strongly so if he refuses it because what he literally said was "man smoking inside, my dog, saving money, are all more important then living where we do now, id prefer to go to florida if i cant have those things" Basically saying if he cant have his way hes going back on dope, which directly challenges my desires.... ive had the discussion of "if something or someone doesnt mesh with my plans i am done dedicating resources to them and leave them to seek my path" hes rapidly on the way to finding out that "this was an experiment to see if i could save a second person though assistance" and i have to reevaluate my position as hes threatening to uproot everything i want because of his need to smoke and attachment to a dog he hasnt seen in over half a year.
I get it though hes still a junkie, all he does is talk about people from the clinic, complains drugs dont do anything (has tried to roll, trip and smoke more weed then he should) wouldnt be an issue if he didnt complain every way. And all of that shows a lack of desire to change like i said to my younger brother, getting on methadone is the easy part and thats all he did. He still talks to junkies, he still obsesses over police and people getting arrested, he still dresses with clothes that have holes, tells new people about his arrests... i could go on.
Heroin showed me when something or someone doesnt have similar interests its time to remove them from your life. Dude literally tells me he would rather pay the same price for the same sized house in the ghetto because he would rather smoke inside and have his dog... shows a clear lack of consideration for the fact i dont smoke and dont have pets or children to avoid those responsibilities. I never really wanted to be like "its here or this is done" but yeah i might have to only because we are two different people and im not living in a ghetto because he still identifies as a drug user. We are talking about a year of my life too these leases arent short thats why its such a major consideration.
