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Could you date a non drug-user?

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Simple question really. This includes those who talk stuff about drugs that is not fact.

I'm not sure if I could, would depend if the person was judging me for taking drugs or not. Though i would like to share my drug experiences with the person i'm going out with. I definately couldn't go out with someone who hates on drugs just cause they're illegal or something.
 
I couldn't go out with someone who was completely against any illegal drug use.

Especially when 98% of those people drink alcohol.
 
As someone who could count his instances of drug use on one hand, I certainly could date a drug user or non-user--just so long as the former doesn't let drugs run their life or consider me a square for not participating, or the latter doesn't act sanctimonious just because I have used once or twice.
 
At this stage of my life I would actually be happy to go out with someone who isn't currently a recreational user of drugs or alcohol because it would help me in my resolve to be healthy.

However, I could never go out with someone who is actively anti-drugs...
 
i don't think i could be with someone totally against drugs because that would be being totally against my personality and view on life, which is to experience as much as possible, have fun, blah blah. Its not being against the drugs i would have a problem with it would be the principle.
 
I quit doing drugs a long while ago so I'd prefer somebody that either doesn't do anything or has also quit. Preferably a quiter, as most people with absolutely zero drug experience usually rub me the wrong way.

I actually probably couldn't be with somebody who still uses. I like my life better after drugs than while on drugs even though I have no regrets, I can't go back to that life style again.
 
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as most people with absolutely zero drug experience usually rub me the wrong way.

I know the feeling...
 
I have only dated people in the past who userd drugs similarly to me. Now my current fiance has only ever done E sometimes and shrooms once, but he no longer wants to do E due to the way it makes him feel afterwards. He supports me if i want to do anything (i dont party much anymore) which is great. I could never be with someone who has never tried drugs and is against them..
 
I've dated a few people who have never done drugs (ironically, alcohol is their vice) but we agree on the same thing: Moderation.

They help keep me in check too...if they feel I do it too much, then they might step in and say something.
 
2/3 of the more serious relationships ive had were with women who diddnt do drugs, or rather, diddnt do real drugs (pot and booze dont count imo).

they diddnt work out so well, and i always find my self choosing drugs > relationship.
 
i married one! he didn't even drink when we met. just never appealed to him, and he was strongly anti drugs.

i was able to bring him over to the dark side though, and he loves his goodies as much as i do now!
 
Yes, I could definitely date a girl who doesn't use drugs. Even though I am, strictly speaking, a drug user, I don't describe myself as a "drug user" any more than I describe myself as a "Thai food eater." Granted, I do have some experiences that I'd have a hard time explaining to someone who hasn't used certain drugs, but at the end of the day, my life outside of drugs by far overwhelms my drug use. As long as someone can respect that, I'm fine being with them.
 
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i married one! he didn't even drink when we met. just never appealed to him, and he was strongly anti drugs.

i was able to bring him over to the dark side though, and he loves his goodies as much as i do now!
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haha thats like me, i was completely anti-drugs before i met my current boyfriend...now i love ecstasy and cant wait to try other stuff 8)
 
My partner's use has exceeded my own by far - but if I were to date someone else, they'd at least have to accept that I smoke ganja. Hard drugs are a bit tougher to explain - someone who hasn't had their mind expanded in that way is a little naturally resistant to the idea.

I don't party as much anymore, but telling a previous fling (remember the virgin from about 2 years ago?) that I had done acid before and seeing the appalled look on his face was, um, interesting.
 
I couldn't go out with someone who was completely against any illegal drug use.
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Along these same lines, I don't think I could seriously date someone who wasn't completely pro-legalization of all drugs, because that is a major political issue for me, beyond just the drugs.

I absolutely would date a non drug user and at this point in my life if I were single, I would probably prefer it. I've had too many problems with addicts. :\
 
My partner has never taken drugs, not even pot, but has always been tolerant towards me. I'm sort of glad that he hasn't used drugs at all because he's an anchor for me in my life.

I was in love with someone else who not only has never taken drugs but who is also strongly anti-drug. Again, if I had married this man, I feel he would have been a wholesome influence on me. He really has values, which is something I don't come across that often.

I would feel that I was corrupting someone if I were to 'turn them on' to drugs.

I regard what I do as a vice, to be honest. I appreciate others who show concern and who want the best for me. This former lover of mine was always encouraging me to go back to graduate school and do a PhD and to try and find a 'real' job in the art world. To some, he might have seemed pushy but I appreciated that he wanted me to reach my full potential and to fulfill my dreams and ambitions. I also feel he would have made a wonderful and devoted father.

I like having tolerant friends but when it comes to those closest to me, I think I'd really rather have people around me that encourage me to lead a wholesome and balanced life.
 
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The girl must at least be okay with smoking/drinking. I smoke weed everyday, and my girlfriend is fine with that, and she smokes with me sometimes as well, usually weekends though. However, I know she isn't okay with anything else really, although I don't think she'd care much about shrooms.
 
the guy im seeing right now isnt really into drugs... hes rolled about 3 times, tried k and nitrous with it but didnt think it was all that. he isnt really into alterating the state of mind, but he thought my track marks were fucken tight lol. if its like that, then i wouldnt mind, because that also keeps my own use in control. he was real happy when i stopped shooting k and was very patient and helpful during my detox.

unfortunately, ive fallen short of my part of the relationship more than a handful of times cause i was busy getting too fucked up to take the effort for him. so even if i personally dont mind dating a (non controlling) non drug user, id think non users would take heed and stay away lol
 
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