Well for one you listed 100 forms of help, you have been lifting for a long time you said. Have you not figured out what works for yourself yet? We can all suggest 100 ways to do things but ultimately you should know what your body responds too at this point
You shouldnt be concerned about losing weight as per the number the only thing that should matter is the way you look. I came home from prison look like a bouncy ball, ive lost maybe 5lbs of the 6 weeks ive been dieing and working out by my body composition has greatly changed which is what im after. Youre not making weight for a fight youre going after a look.
As far as the calories thing you have to keep your body guessing, when you follow a diet your body will get stagnet as to what its used to. I stay on the same diet all the time but i do certain things to mix it up, every so often when I go to the store ill buy something that has nothing to do with my diet, whether its its 6 chocolate doughnuts or like today I got a bunch of mixed fruit from the cold section of walmart. I switch up the food I eat all the time, sometimes ill go a few weeks eating chicken and fish, then i might switch to chickicen and turkey meat, then maybe turkey meat and fish...i switch up the vegetables all the time, all kinds of shit. Every UFC i pretty much eat a pizza and the cookie that comes with it. You just gotta find what your body responds too, again we can give you lots of suggestions but at some point you have to stop asking for questions and help and just figure out what works for you. Also like i said just like my food fluctuates my calories move around with it, always guessing always making my body work always doing things to stimulate metabolism