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Can't satisfy my mate.

WeAreImmortal

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Okay so I lost my virginity not to long ago two years ago and she was amasied that I was big, sadly when we had out four play she enjoyed it very much and wanted to see how I am rocking her like a hurricane. I did and yet it lasted only 15 minutes. I was really ashamed on my energy. Like I would get tired after going so long. Anyways after our sex I asked if she liked it she nodded and agreed. So after we had sex everyday doing to same thing and trying new positions, felt freaking great on how hot and semi-tight she was. Anyhow two months later she broke up with me because I wasn't good. Hurt me a bit not knowing how to sex her up good like on porn sites. I tried like how they did but it seemed like she jut wanted more. Later the week she broke up with me she had a 19 year old boyfriend and she's oh 15 at the time syn g he dock was 3 inches bigger than me and saying he's like a damn pro. When she said I was good too, it's just confuses me like a dog looking in the mirror. So I had sex with other girls saying I'm good but I seem not to makFe them orgasm due to my 15 minute sex. I had sex with 4 girls out of my 2 years of sex. My current girlfriend now her and I have sex and she's very loyal to me and she doesn't care if she doesn't orgasm, but I want her too and the only she can orgasm of I finger her on her g-spot. But it wasn't the same I want my 7inch cock to make her orgasm. She doesn't mind it at all just as long as I love her. So is there anyway I can make myself last longer on sex because when I finish she has the that slow orgasm coming up, it sucks that I don't last that long to have her orgasm. So is there any help that can have my 15 minutes last 45 minutes or at least longer than 15minutes?

I hope you all understand my grammar, please forgive me for it. I'm not good in grammar.
 
I'm not a guy so I don't know if this actually works, but I've heard that masturbating before sex will help you go longer during sex.

Also, MANY girls can't orgasm from actual sex. Some can, of course, but many can't. Often times, females need g spot or clit stimulation before they can orgasm.
 
Masturbating daily can make you last longer. So can alcohol. I doubt not lasting long enough is the problem, though. If you make the effort to learn what they like and what their body responds to, a combination of foreplay/oral/sex should be more than enough to get a woman off even if you could only last 3 minutes.

Also, how old are you? I'd feel kind of creepy giving sex advice to a 17-year-old. If I read your post correctly, your ex-girlfriend was only 15 a couple years ago?
 
You can get numbing creams for your dick, they're meant to help but it probably isn't a good idea to get it on your SO's parts or it's kinda counter productive. It also doesn't really tackle the actual issue. If your girl atm is on the pill, try using a rubber anyway cos I find that helps (or hinders, however you wanna look at it lol).
I also hear kegal exercises are really good, which is contracting the muscle in your dick responsible for regulating your urine and semen. You can figure out which muscle this is by going to the toilet and stopping halfway through your piss. It's the same muscle for holding back cum as well. You can work that shit out any time you want by doing the same 'motion', you don't have to have pheramones coming out lol. It's supposed to make you cum harder and longer as well, although I haven't had enough sex with this concept in mind to really tell. Either way, try Googling it (no pun intended) cos you'll probably get more indepth than I can get on a website. More than anything though, experiment with your girl. Figure out through experience what pushes her buttons. Never get deterred, as a guy that takes charge is a big turn-on with a lot of girls.
It's a big male thing making a girl have the orgasm of her life. Sexual experience isn't relevant IME, as the last chick I was with I could pretty much make climax on command. She's been with more guys than I really wanted to know, and she was my second ever. I could make her squirt like 5-10 times if we went at it for a while. On recollection, a lot of that would have been her feelings towards me more than anything (I think). I'm not talking myself up by any means, as I've pretty much blown my load within seconds of putting it in more times than I care to say. I just waited a few minutes, found other ways to amuse her and stuck it straight back in. But about this tired thing, conking out within 15 minutes or so. Is it because of lack of exercise, bad diet, stressful lifestyle, lack of sleep, overindulgance in (il)legal drugs? Other lifestyle factors can attribute to 'performance' issues. Try exercising or going to gym, cutting back on drinking (increases estrogen level) and other shit, finding a better diet and eating habits, whatever. If that's the case it's up to you mate.
Anyway, I think I've run out of suggestions. Try everything man, it'll give you a bit of confidence knowing that you're having a go (gay cliche) and shit, that might be the problem itself. Don't let that first chick you were with bring you down or diminish your self perception. She sounded unhealthy for you anyway. Rebounding straight up and bragging about her significantly older new BF's performance and larger dick? Fuck her man. Don't let that shit bring you down. And more than anything, don't bank on your girl cumming each and every time anyway. Just cos she doesn't cum doesn't mean she didn't have a good time on your dick man. Don't be insecure about it cos there's millions of us out there. Girls work differently to guys. If you have a real emotional connection with her, then the sex isn't the only thing she's gonna stay with you for. If you don't, dude it sounds like you're not having trouble getting laid lol. Don't beat yourself up about it.
And also, welcome to Bluelight!
 
to add on what other people have said.

Fucking like ur in a porno while sometimes fun isnt a great way of making a girl cum.

Go in as deep as u can and hold that ground dont back out ne well unless ur hurting urself or her. Fight the urge to ram back and forth.

assuming ur in missionary while being in there all the way you can grind her clit area do that. also the kegal muscle the top reply was talking about burn that muscle and ur dick will actually get a bit bigger while flexing that muscle. once you've been working that muscle out alot and i mean alot its a pretty weak muscle when it comes to repeatedly pulsing it and or holding it. so do that and grind her clit and most girls ive come across have said it was very pleasurable and something alot of guys never do.

its damn near impossible to get most girls to cum straight from vaginal without clit or gspot stimulation.

try and keep a good rythm instead of spazzing all over the place. dont keep that rythm forever tho or else the sensation will be dulled on the girls part.

also a big part of the o is making sure she's excited a good amount of foreplay/teasing etc.

If you can't just slip it in or have alot of resistance she's prolly not all the way warmed up for the whole intercourse thing.

dont stick ne fingers/tongue in her during foreplay until ur just about to have intercourse will send them over the top.

damnit now i want some poo nanny :(
 
You don't last long b/c you bust too soon, or do you not have the stamina to keep going? I you need to build stamina then try getting into better cardiovascular shape- start running, exercising, etc...

As others have said very rare for females to climax fron intercourse alone- so Mr. Wannabee Porn star...try some new moves. Wrap your around aroun her when doing doggie style and rub her clit (wet your fingers 1st), if she's ridding you you can also give clitoral stimulation from that position. If not just go down on her and work it until she cums...
 
I read somewhere that most men can only last 7-10 minutes, so 15 minutes is above average. What you need to do is when it feels as if your about to bust a nut, pull out and maybe go down on her or stimulate her pussy with your fingers for a few minutes. Then put it back in and start again. Repeat if necessary but, it is always best to get her really horny and close to orgasm before you start fucking because it takes most of us women twice as long to cum from vaginal sex as it does for men. Some women can never reach orgasm from straight up fucking.

I also want to tell you that no one fucks like they do in porn. Those scenes are shot over multiple times and edited to look like a marathon fuck session. My ex-boyfriend was a porn director/producer. And if you are fucking 15 year olds, I'd be a bit concerned as to why they think they know what good sex is.
 
I totally mis-read the part about not lasting long. If you want to gain more stamina, maybe work out more?
 
Your penis size should not matter at all when it comes to pleasing a woman. You're 7 inches and that's large. The other guy may have a 10 inch penis but he probably does not since it's very rare. Also even if he does have a 10 inch penis what's common with men who are larger than 9 inches is that they have a lot of difficulty getting fully erect and keeping a full erection, and they have a lot of difficulty finding a partner who can actually take their entire penis into their mouth or another orifice.

Learn how to give her excellent oral sex and communicate with your female partners to find out what they like, and what turns them on during sex. If you want to last longer some men find that using condoms makes them last longer, and learning how to control or hold back your ejaculations while you masturbate and then later during sex works.
 
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See, this is what they shoulda taught us in sex ed instead of fucking us around with that gay STD and contraception shit. Who needs that??
 
The problem here is most definitely psychological and has nothing to do with penis size or duration of intercourse.
 
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